56. For example, in Mark Oppenheimer’s New York Times Magazine June 30, 2011, article “Married, with Infidelities,” he quotes sex-advice columnist Dan Savage as saying, “I acknowledge the advantages of monogamy . . . when it comes to sexual safety, infections, emotional safety, paternity assurances. But people in monogamous relationships have to be willing to meet me a quarter of the way and acknowledge the drawbacks of monogamy . . .”