When (or if) to Disclose Birth Gender

Such a controversy.

The arguments go back

and forth. Ping-pong.

Denai passes really well—

doesn’t see it as an issue.

          “I’m not gonna ask him

          what he was born with

          so there’s no reason

          to talk about me.”

And that works for her.

Some say it’s a question of safety—

if he finds out later and freaks

she could wake up dead.

Others say choose smart,

suss it out, then tell. Or don’t.

Chantal says it’s my combat attitude

contributes to dateless Saturday nights.

Whatever. It gets me less boyfriends,

but I like to ask up front

if a potential date’s a transphobic bigot.

Leave the disclosing to him.