The Confidence Factor
“I am convinced all of humanity
is born with more gifts than we know.
Most are born geniuses and just
get de-geniused rapidly.”
—Buckminster Fuller
In 1999, South African President Nelson Mandela celebrated his eightieth birthday.
For almost twenty-six of those years he was confined to a prison cell because of his outspoken views about apartheid. During this time Mandela’s confidence must have been severely tested. It is a tribute to his faith and conviction that he ultimately triumphed and went on to be elected to his country’s highest office.
Confidence is a habit that can be honed and strengthened every day. During this process you will be challenged by fear, worry and uncertainty. These elements constitute the ebb and flow of life. It’s a constant struggle, a mental battlefield that must be won if your life is to be filled with abundance.
To start, carefully read the words spoken by Nelson Mandela at his inaugural speech. This is a man who accepted the challenge and won. Digest each sentence slowly. Use them as a strong foundation for your next level of achievement.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are we not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that
other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God
that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fears,
our presence automatically liberates others.
Return to Love
This chapter contains many practical strategies that will boost your confidence to an all-time high. It is important that you utilize these on a daily basis. Confidence is the all-important factor you need to protect yourself from the slings and arrows of negativity. In the absence of confidence, fear and worry are ready to take control. Progress is held in check and momentum grinds to a halt.
So let’s tackle this essential habit with gusto and a commitment to stamp out the negative forces once and for all. First, you need to clean up any unfinished business that’s holding you back. Make that your starting point.
Resolving Unfinished BUSINESS
Unfinished business is a term describing all of the messes in your life that you haven’t dealt with. You may be struggling with legal, financial, relationship, organizational, health or career messes, to name just a few. When you allow these to build up, they can overwhelm you. The reason many people won’t deal with this unfinished business is fear. Fear breeds doubt, and doubt leads to a loss of confidence. It’s a vicious cycle. If left unchecked, a downward spiral begins and is soon gaining momentum. Suddenly life is out of control. This excess baggage is like a dead weight around your neck. It can bring you to a standstill.
The result is a tremendous drain on your energy. Some people have accumulated so much unfinished business over the years, it feels like they’re pulling an elephant along behind them. There are three ways to handle this:
1. You can play the denial game.
Some people pretend it’s not really happening. For example, a man worrying about his debt-load refuses to look at the real numbers in the hope that they will somehow disappear. Rather than change bad habits, such as spending more than he makes, he finds it easier to live in a fantasy world. Denial usually results in major consequences of the variety you won’t like.
2. You can go into limbo.
Life sort of stops and you tread water. You don’t fall back, but you don’t make any progress either. It’s frustrating, and of course the unfinished business is still there waiting to be dealt with later. Being in limbo keeps you stuck.
3. You can confront the issue head on.
This seems like the obvious course of action, yet many people choose the previous two options. Why? We usually don’t like confrontation—it’s uncomfortable and there’s a certain amount of risk involved. Sometimes it can be painful, and may not work out the way you want it to. Here’s a phrase that will help you: Step into your fear.
Most of the time fear only exists in our minds. Our imagination is powerful. Small issues often get blown out of proportion, and we create mental pictures that are ridiculous when compared to the facts. A friend in Arizona, George Addair, told us about a firefighter who attended one of his self-knowledge workshops. He said, “Firefighters deal with fear every time they prepare to enter a burning building. Just before they go into action they experience it—the uncertainty of not knowing if they’ll survive or not. An incredible transformation takes place as soon as they go inside the building. They literally step into the fear, and because they do, the fear disappears. They are 100 percent in the present moment. They are then able to concentrate on fighting the fire, evacuating people and doing all the things they were trained to do. By confronting their fear, they can focus on the immediate situation and get the job done.”
Another important factor is the energy you consume when you live in fear. You can’t afford to have all that vitality bottled up. It restricts your capacity. If you want to gain confidence, accelerate your progress and restore your energy to maximum levels, you must confront your fears. Make a decision now to deal with your unfinished business once and for all. Give it your best shot. Put it behind you, and move on.
Make this a habit. Be aware that unfinished business is an ongoing reality. Every week something will happen that needs to be resolved. Don’t allow these things to fester. Handle them promptly, with confidence. Your life will become refreshingly simple and uncluttered when you do.
Common fears Strategic plan to counteract fear
Poor health Learn more about good health habits,
nutrition, exercise and your genetics.
Losing your job Become so valuable that you can’t be fired.
And if you are, your special skills will open
up new opportunities. Keep refining your
strengths. Focus on your brilliance;
develop excellent connections.
Loneliness Surround yourself with positive, supportive
people. Be a giver. To attract friends,
become a friend.
Uncertainty Most of the jobs in the future haven’t even
about the future been invented yet. Focus on developing
your greatest talents. Design exciting goals.
Dying It happens to all of us. Have faith. Live every
day to the fullest. Explore spiritual truths.
Failure The spiritual side of you proves there is
a bigger plan. God gave you talent. Seek it
out. Surround yourself with winners. “Failure”
is an opportunity to learn. Making mistakes
is essential for long-term success.
Making major Think on paper—plan ahead—seek
decisions good advice. (See Chapter 9, Taking
Decisive Action).
Rejection Don’t take it personally, especially if you’re
in sales. We all experience some form of
rejection every week. Become thick-skinned.
Common fears Strategic plan to counteract fear
Conflict Step into the fear. Look for a win-win
solution. Accept that conflict is a part of
life. Take a course in conflict resolution.
Ignorance/Lack Practice the habit of learning something every
of knowledge day. Read, study, become more conscious.
Remember: The use of knowledge is your
greatest power. Learn more. Become
an expert in what you do best.
Losing your family Continually nourish your most important
relationships. Build a lifetime of positive
memories you can cherish forever.
Public speaking Join Toastmasters, take a Dale Carnegie
course, join the National Speakers
Association (see Resource Guide for details),
choose a great mentor, write out a ten-minute
speech on your favorite subject. Practice.
Accept opportunities to speak when asked.
Hire a speech coach.
Poverty Learn about money and how it works.
Check your belief system. Find an
excellent financial coach. Set specific
goals to save and invest a portion of
everything you earn. (See Chapter 9,
Taking Decisive Action.)
Success Embrace the fact that success comes from
study, hard work, good planning and taking
risks. You deserve it if you do all of this.
Copyright The Power of Focus Inc.
Jack:
To expand your confidence, stop focusing on what you don’t have. Start focusing on what you want. Your brain has the ability to focus on the past, to focus on the present, or to focus on the future. You want enough focus in the present that you don’t crash into a truck while you’re driving, but the real focus is, “Where am I headed?” “Where do I want to get to?”
Captain Chesley Sullenberger, who famously landed his crippled plane in New York on the Hudson River, had lost engine power. He said, “Well, what do I have? I’ve still got wings. I’ve still got flaps. I have a river over here. This is all I’ve got. I’m going to work with that.” He focused on the outcome he wanted, to land the plane safely. He didn’t focus on crashing! If you focus on what you do have and what you want, you can create a vision for yourself, produce a plan and go for it.
The Law of Attraction says that if I’m focused on not having a job, I’m going to get more of not having a job. Focus on, “Hey, I’m going to have a job. The perfect job is coming. There may be twenty percent unemployment in our town because the factory closed, but eighty percent of the people are still working. It’s not my job to figure out how to employ everyone in town. It’s my job to figure out how to employ me. I want to be one of the eighty percent.”
The Twenty-Five-Cent CHALLENGE
Our friend Wayne Teskey had a Mastermind Group consisting of four other business friends. They are a dynamic bunch of entrepreneurs who used to meet monthly to share ideas and offer support to each other. At one meeting they agreed that life had lost some of its challenge. Their businesses were doing well, but they needed a new stimulus. They came up with an idea that would test their confidence and cause them to stretch out of their all-too-familiar comfort zones.
The plan was to fly from Edmonton, their home city, to Toronto, more than three thousand miles away, on a one-way ticket with only twenty-five cents in their pockets. Upon landing, they each had to figure out how to get back home with no credit cards, no checks and no friends to help them out. To make it more interesting, they agreed to use at least three modes of transport. In other words, if one person was able to arrange a flight home, part of the journey had to include two other forms of transportation—train, bus, car, bicycle or on foot. Also, they could not tell anyone the nature of their challenge.
Picture yourself in this situation. What would you do? It would obviously require creativity, innovation, courage and a strong belief in your ability, as well as money, to successfully make the trip back home.
Unknown to this madcap group, a friend had alerted the local media in Edmonton as well as major radio stations and newspapers. Upon arrival in Toronto, they were met at the airport by several photographers and reporters, all intrigued by this unique adventure. Now there was real pressure to perform!
It took most of the group about a week to get home, and everyone accomplished his goal. There were some interesting stories. One person took the long route by hitching rides. Stopovers included Minneapolis, where he worked as a croupier in a casino. He came back with more than seven hundred dollars. Two of the other members talked their way into staying at one of Toronto’s finest hotels at no charge. Others found odd jobs.
Everything you want is on the
other side of fear.
Wayne had fun on the street asking well-heeled businessmen, “Do you have any money that you don’t plan on spending today?” If the answer was “Yes,” he’d continue with a big smile, “Can I have some of it, please?” Some people actually paid up!
Back in Edmonton, the story gained front-page coverage. In fact, the group created more publicity than many expensive advertising campaigns. The “Masterminds,” as they were now affectionately known, unanimously agreed that the trip was one of their all-time greatest learning experiences. They discovered that no matter how little they had, it was possible to not only survive, but to prosper. Confidence levels soared and their twenty-five-cent challenge created bigger and better business opportunities in the months that followed.
Forgive and FORGET
You have an incredible capacity and ability to overcome life’s greatest challenges. Embrace this reality, and use it the next time a crisis occurs. In fact, celebrate the opportunity to perform at a higher level. When you break through the wall of fear, the rewards are many. You will enjoy peace of mind and the ability to dream and design an exciting future without being shackled by worry and guilt. When you continually clean up your unfinished business, life becomes simple and uncluttered. This gives you a surge of new energy.
All of this breeds confidence. It’s critical that you understand one thing—confidence grows by doing, not by thinking. Only action produces results. As Sheryl Crow sings, “A change will do you good.” To produce a different result, you need to change something. It all starts with you. Until you change, nothing else will change. Procrastination is a one-way ticket to staying stuck. It’s an excuse not to perform.
Here’s a big point about unfinished business. You really need to grasp this, so stay focused. To release yourself totally from the baggage of the past, you must learn to forgive. Read it again: You must learn to forgive. There are two sides to this. First, you need to forgive the people who obstructed you in the past—parents, friends, relatives or teachers. In fact, anyone who undermined or abused your confidence verbally, physically or mentally. No matter how traumatic the experience, to be free you must forgive them. This may not be easy, but it’s essential if you want to have peace of mind and a happier future.
How do you do this? Write a letter, make a phone call, have a face-to-face conversation, whatever it takes, but it is of paramount importance that you settle the issue within yourself. Just let it go, and move on.
Second, forgive yourself. Silence forever those negative thoughts of guilt. The past is history. You will never be able to change it. Instead, accept the fact that whatever you did, your choices were based on your level of knowledge and awareness at the time. The same goes for your parents. Don’t blame them for your upbringing—they did what they did based on their circumstances, belief systems and parenting ability.
Look at the word forgiveness. In the center are four letters, give. There’s the clue. You must give to be free. The biggest gift you have to offer is love. Remember, you can’t give what you don’t already have. If you don’t have love within you, how can you give it? It starts with forgiving yourself. You must move past the “It’s not my fault,” and the “Poor me” syndromes, or you’ll never enjoy real love in your heart. This takes a special type of awareness. It’s living at a higher level. To do this effectively requires detaching yourself from the past events of your life, so you can be free to give without conditions.
Too many people never let the real person within them come alive. Consequently, they live a dormant and unfulfilled existence. Instead of gloriously stretching and challenging themselves to be all they can be, they flounder in the everyday stuff of life. You can be different! Make a decision now to remove yourself from this futility and explore the unique talents you’ve been given. They are within you, just waiting to be let loose.
Les:
My friend and award-winning author, Annette Stanwick, faced one of the most challenging days of her life when she received the news that her brother Soren had been brutally murdered. Distraught with grief, she struggled to understand why this young man had been senselessly struck down in the prime of his life. Equally heartbreaking was the fact that the perpetrator had not been found.
Almost two years later the police finally announced they had arrested the killer. Shortly afterwards, Annette was asked if she would like to make an impact statement at the trial. She agreed. The tension in the courtroom was palpable as Annette had to deliver her comments while facing her brother’s murderer. His name was Travis and Annette saw a quiet, frightened young man standing in front of her. Summoning up her courage, she delivered an emotional, heartfelt statement that let Travis know clearly the devastation he had caused Annette and her family.
The greatest impact came as a total surprise to everyone in the courtroom that day, when she looked Travis in the eye and said, “I forgive you for what you have done.” This took tremendous courage. However, Annette said later that the sense of freedom that embraced her almost immediately was life changing and opened up unexpected opportunities. One of those was to visit several penitentiaries and counsel prisoners who had received life sentences. Her book, Forgiveness: The Mystery and Miracle, has also inspired thousands of other people to forgive and let go of their pain.
Annette’s story reinforces how our response to situations can be a catalyst for new energy and opportunity, or, a way to stay stuck in our pain. Visit www.annettestanwick.com.
A Winning ATTITUDE
Attitude has a lot to do with your success and your ability to get what you want. As you are probably aware, attitude can change quickly. In fact, every day your attitude is severely tested. One of the greatest examples of losing confidence occurred at the 1996 Masters Golf Tournament in Augusta, Georgia. Australian Greg Norman, a premier golfer and one of the favorites to win the championship, had performed brilliantly. At the end of the third day, he was six strokes ahead of his nearest rival, and with only one more round remaining, Norman seemed a cast-iron certainty to wear the famous green jacket presented to the winner on Sunday afternoon. All he needed was an average performance to secure the win. Inexplicably, however, his game collapsed during the final round. Within twenty-four hours his six-stroke lead evaporated, and he ended up losing by five strokes to Nick Faldo, who had quietly chipped away at Norman’s seemingly insurmountable lead. Indeed, it was Faldo’s persistence and confidence that eventually caused the upset. In fact, Faldo has made a habit of coming from behind to win, having won back-to-back Masters (1989–90) in similar fashion.
As the final round progressed, Greg Norman’s attitude noticeably deteriorated. The confident stride seen the day before changed to slumped shoulders, and a blank expression appeared in his eyes as he saw his long-time dream to become Master’s champion disappearing. His plummeting downward spiral was a poignant reminder of how fickle confidence can be. Strong and positive one day, in total disarray the next. To combat this, let’s look at some practical strategies that will help boost your confidence.
Six Confidence-Building STRATEGIES
1. Every day remind yourself that you did some things well.
Instead of dwelling on what didn’t work or the tasks you didn’t finish, focus on what you did accomplish. Don’t minimize these. Give yourself a mental pep talk at the beginning and end of the day. Coach yourself, just like you would help someone else to overcome a challenge.
2. Read inspiring biographies and autobiographies.
We want to reinforce this one more time. Read books, articles and magazines. Build a file of those stories that inspire you most. Download documentaries, ebooks, audios and videos. Go to the movies—there are a lot of great stories out there. Find out about people who started with nothing, or who had devastating setbacks, and still found a way to win. Remember, your capacity far exceeds your current level of performance. Life without challenges is an illusion. Accept the fact that you will have ups and downs, just like everyone else. Your confidence grows when you actively take on the challenges of life. You won’t win them all, but with the right attitude you’ll win more than enough.
3. Be thankful.
No matter how bad your circumstances may be, there’s probably someone worse off than you. If you doubt this, volunteer your time in an acute-care burns ward at the children’s hospital. Put things into perspective. Think of all the things (and people) you take for granted that are not available in other countries. Most of your problems will pale in comparison when you take a mental snapshot of all the benefits you enjoy every day.
4. Build excellent support around you.
If you need a boost, refresh your memory by reviewing Chapter 5, Building Excellent Relationships.
5. Push yourself to accomplish short-term goals.
There’s no greater way to build confidence than getting things done. Create an environment of accomplishment every week. Focus on your three most important targets. Every day do something that moves you closer to finishing a project, closing a sale or expanding a relationship. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted or interrupted. By doing so you’ll eliminate the feelings of guilt and failure. Take one small step at a time.
Make sure these mini goals are realistic. Self-rejection can shatter your confidence, so don’t beat yourself up when everything doesn’t come together as planned. Be flexible. And when others say “No” to you, don’t take it personally. Accept the fact that you need to lose sometimes before you can win.
6. Do something good for yourself every week.
Find a way to celebrate your weekly accomplishments.
Don’t you deserve it? If you said “No,” go back to step one and start again!
The road to confidence is paved
with weekly victories
Learn To Applaud Them.
Believe in your own CAPABILITY
The real root of being a confident person is your ability to believe in yourself. Let’s look at this in more detail now:
Jack:
Many of us have beliefs that limit our success—whether they are beliefs about our own capabilities, beliefs about what it takes to succeed, beliefs about how we should relate with other people, or even common myths that modern-day science or studies have long since refuted. Moving beyond your limiting beliefs is a critical first step toward becoming successful. You can learn how to identify those beliefs that are limiting you and then replace them with positive ones that support your success.
One of the most limiting beliefs apparent today is the notion that somehow we are not capable of accomplishing our goals. Despite the best educational materials available, and despite decades of recorded knowledge about how to accomplish any task, we somehow choose to say instead, “I can’t do that. I don’t know how. There’s no one to show me. I’m not smart enough.” And on and on.
Where does this come from? For most of us, it’s a matter of early childhood programming. Whether they knew it or not, our parents, grandparents, and other adult role models told us, “No, no, honey. That’s too much for you to handle. Let me do that for you. Maybe next year you can try that.”
We take this sense of inability into adulthood, and then it gets reinforced through workplace mistakes and other “failures.” But what if you decided to say instead, “I can do this. I am capable. Other people have accomplished this. If I don’t have the knowledge, there’s someone out there who can teach me.”
You make the shift to competence and mastery. This shift in thinking can mean the difference between a lifetime of “could haves” versus accomplishing what you really want in life.
Know that you are worthy of love
Believing you are worthy of love means that you believe I deserve to be treated well—with respect and dignity. I deserve to be cherished and adored by someone. I am worthy of an intimate and fulfilling relationship. I won’t settle for less than I deserve. I will do whatever it takes to create that for myself.
There are numerous examples of people who had to break down external barriers that were preventing them from achieving their greatest goals. For example, Elvis Stojko. Being named Elvis at birth, because his parents were big fans of Elvis Presley, could be challenging enough for some people who lack confidence. However, this did not deter figure skater, Elvis Stojko. He began skating at the age of four and won his first trophy when he was six. He also studied karate, earning a black belt when he was sixteen. That would give you confidence!
Elvis Stojko’s goal was to compete at the highest level, ultimately dreaming of being world champion and competing in the Olympic games. He incorporated his martial arts into his on-ice performances making him stand out compared to most of his competitors. However, in the 1980’s and 90’s, the world of figure skating was not as cutting edge when it came to the judges who assessed the scores at the end of a performance. Many of these experts much preferred the traditional style, which for men, often meant flowing costumes, whereas, Elvis would appear wearing a martial arts type of costume. As a result, his scores were often low despite delivering a great performance. And not just because of what he wore. His choreography was also untraditional, as well as the music he chose that accompanied his routines.
Despite being encouraged to conform, Elvis chose to be different. He went on to win back-to-back World Championships in 1994–’95 and a silver medal at the Winter Olympics in Negano, Japan, despite having to perform with a serious groin injury. When asked what the biggest reason for his success was, he paused and simply replied, “I believe in myself; yes that’s it. I just believe in myself.”
The message is clear. Believe in your own capability and your confidence will produce results that will astonish all of those non-believers!
What to Do If You HIT A SLUMP
1. Recognize you are in one.
Take time out to rethink, re-energize, and refocus. Talk to the people who support you best—your spouse, mentors, friends, and family.
2. Remind yourself of a major accomplishment.
Select a notable victory that made you feel great. Replay it vividly in your mind. Talk about it. Look at photos, achievement plaques or thank-you letters. Keep a Success Log, a scrapbook of your most positive memories. Understand that you have talent. You’ve proved it before, and you can do so again.
“No, business is booming; we just make the signs.”
3. Get back to basics.
One of the main reasons for a stoppage in results is that you’re not practicing the fundamentals. Do a mini reality check. Are you doing the easy things instead of activities that guarantee you results? Take a break if you’re physically or mentally drained. Recapture your energy before you start up again. Understand that you can work your way out of it. Life is full of cycles. They don’t last forever, so take it one day at a time. Remind yourself, “This too will pass.” Gradually the sun will start shining again.
As we stated before, famous adventurer and explorer John Goddard is one of the world’s greatest goalsetters. He has accomplished more in his own lifetime than twenty people would have achieved collectively. When questioned about how he overcomes roadblocks, he replied, “When I get stuck, I restart myself by focusing on one goal I can finish in the next seven days—something simple. I don’t think about anything else and that usually starts my momentum again.”
Jack:
Another challenging situation is when your confidence hits rock bottom. Maybe you’ve lost your job, the bank foreclosed on your house, or you’ve gone bankrupt. Then what? To boost your confidence, start by looking back over your life and write down everything you ever did that was a success. Begin with: learned to walk, graduated first grade, learned to ride a bicycle, learned to ride a motorcycle, learned to drive a car, got my driver’s license, graduated from high school, survived Mrs. Jones’ biology class, graduated from college, became a sergeant in the Marine Corps, whatever it is. Realize you’ve had many, many successes.
Then go back and look at all the bad things that happened to you and realize you survived every single one of them. Every single thing that you thought was catastrophic, the end of the world, and you’re still here. Realize, “If I survived that, I can survive this.”
To create a positive daily habit, at the end of each day take a couple of minutes to write down what you’ve accomplished. Most people will write down what they didn’t accomplish and they’ll feel bad about it. “I didn’t get to that, I didn’t get to that.” Focusing on your daily accomplishments creates positive mental stepping stones that pave the way for hitting your bigger targets.
when you think you can’t . . .
Revisit some of your greatest achievements
Insights
When you are inspired to do something special you receive a surge of confidence. All that’s happening is your natural dopamine level in the brain is increased, which translates into a higher energy level.
So the key questions to ask yourself are:
- What will inspire me most in the next few months or next few years?
- What will ignite that “fire in the belly” feeling that maybe has been lying dormant for a while?
- What fired me up in the past?
- Was it the thought of closing the biggest sale I’ve ever made?
- Was it an incredible service I provided unexpectedly to a client, a personal friend or family member?
Look for clues that create inspiration. We’ve all been inspired at one time or another. Think bigger! It’s hard to stay motivated if you are just setting the same old goals every quarter. After a while this may de-motivate you. Then you start procrastinating and playing all the denial games that eventually lead to a serious loss of confidence.
One other comment; everyone has their confidence dented at one time or another. In the business world that’s part of the game. Everyone experiences deals that collapse, cash flow shortages, team members quitting at the worst time and clients who jump to your competition despite your best efforts.
This is called the real world! You need a thick skin to play in this game. So, suck it up, get back on your feet and start swinging again! Learn from your mistakes. Knowing you’ll be smarter the next time pushes you to a higher level on the confidence scale.
One of the best confidence boosters, especially when a crisis occurs, is to first put the event into perspective. Often we mentally expand our disasters, when in reality they are pretty small stuff compared to the big picture of life.
As we mentioned in the last chapter, make sure you surround yourself with a few great people, whose experience can haul you out of the muck when needed. The next chapter is perfect for capitalizing on your newly found confidence. You’ll learn numerous ways to ask for what you want—and get it!
“If you hear a voice within you say,
‘You cannot paint,’ then by
all means paint and that voice
will be silenced.”
—Vincent van Gogh
Action Steps
Resolving Unfinished Business
Make a list of the issues that you want resolved. Write down at least three. Then write down a specific way to resolve each one. What’s your action plan? Define it clearly. Finally, decide on the date you are going to have this completed. Then get started.
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Step into your fear!
Review the list of common fears on pages 160-161. Select one fear that holds you back. Choose one or more of the strategic options provided to eliminate this fear.
My fear is:
I will take action as follows:
I will start this process on __________________________ (date)
and follow through consistently until my
fear has been conquered.
JUST DO IT!
