NOT ALL FAGGOTS BUMP THEMSELVES OFF AT THE END OF THE STORY

My father’s father drove to the desert, shot himself

twice in the head, left his wife only his wallet, his watch,

no note or money, no plan to carry her.

I’ve talked friends into staying,

told students that I won’t glorify suicide

in poems, that if they say they’re going

to hurt themselves, I’ll report them.

Even after years of the pills working,

years after leaving that church,

after telling friends I used to wake up

and make the decision, every day, between

going to work or killing myself, there’s that part of me

that I’m not supposed to talk about, that keeps

those who love me awake at night.

I can still read about someone who cashed it in,

who called it all off, and I think: so lucky.