What’s Your Relationship Style?

“When it comes to relationships, most of us fall into one of four categories,” says Greg Godek, author of the best-selling 1001 Ways to Be Romantic. This quiz will identify your relationship style and tell you how to make the most of what works for you.

1 Of these, the gift you would most like to get from your honey is a:

a. Big box of assorted chocolates.

b. Night out on the town.

c. Spa vacation.

d. Dozen long-stem roses.

2 Your favorite shade of blue is:

a. Baby blue.

b. Electric blue.

c. Powder blue.

d. Turquoise.

3 What do you usually wear when you’re just hanging around the house?

a. Silky lingerie

b. Sweatpants

c. Bathrobe

d. Jeans and a T-shirt

4 Which of these style homes can you see yourself in?

a. Victorian

b. Ranch

c. Colonial

d. Modern

5 Pick the bouquet you would like by your bedside.

a. Birds-of-paradise

b. Wildflowers

c. Roses

d. Orchids

6 How would you show your man you care?

a. I’d send him an erotic text.

b. I’d write “I love you” on the bathroom mirror.

c. I’d cook his favorite dinner.

d. I’d give him a night of lovemaking he’d never forget.

7 Imagine the most comfy date you could share with your guy. It would be:

a. A candlelit dinner.

b. Watching a scary movie together.

c. Curled up by the fire sharing a bottle of wine.

d. Lying in your bathing suits under a sizzling sun.

8 Which of these golden oldie songs most closely describes your sentiments?

a. “At Last” by Etta James

b. “Till There Was You” by The Beatles

c. “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough” by Diana Ross

d. “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel

Analysis

MOSTLY A’S

YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE IS BOLD AND FIERY.

Strong, flirtatious, and ultra-feminine, when it comes to relationships, you know what you want and never settle for anything less. “You know how to turn on the charm—and love to keep your man guessing,” says Godek.

ADVICE

Encourage your partner to participate in making decisions—big and small. That way, he’ll not only feel valued, but he’ll take on more responsibility, too.

Begin sentences by saying “I feel . . .” instead of “You don’t . . .” This approach guarantees conversations that are give-and-take, so you both get to weigh in.

MOSTLY B’S

YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE IS PLAYFUL AND ENERGETIC .

Outgoing, free-spirited, and spontaneous, you follow wherever your romantic impulses lead. That includes shouting “I love you!” from the rooftop—even if your guy is a little less public about his feelings. “Your free spirit also means you accept your partner as is—and insist on the same,” says Godek.

ADVICE

Tune in to your partner’s moods—even if that means opting for a quiet evening at home rather than a night on the town.

Try planning ahead sometimes. It ensures you’ll find time to connect— and lets you zero in on things you both enjoy!

MOSTLY C’S

YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE IS STRAIGHTFORWARD AND SIMPLE.

Matter-of-fact and easy to get along with, you let the little disputes roll off your back because you want life to be uncomplicated. “This approach can keep stress at bay—as long as you’re not stifling your true feelings just to keep the peace,” says Godek.

ADVICE

Learn to speak your mind. Psychologists say this takes practice, so begin with small issues and build confidence.

Treat yourself! Nothing extravagant—maybe a bubble bath—just a reminder that your needs and wants also deserve attention!

MOSTLY D’S

YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS WILD AND PASSIONATE.

A die-hard romantic, your undying faith in the power of love and relationship means you’ll risk it all for matters of the heart. “Leading such an emotional-centered life makes you sensitive,” says Godek. The result: You may perceive a slight where none was intended and react in a flash and way too harshly.

ADVICE

Name your feelings. This helps work through complicated emotions.

Spend fifteen minutes moving. Just that much exercise or alone time can keep your emotions steady.