Relationship
Spells
In nearly any relationship, romantic love begins to stagnate at a certain point in time. A busy work schedule can override one’s personal life, leaving little time for oneself much less someone else; such a schedule is often a major reason for relationship stagnation. Long-established relationships can suffer not because the partners don’t love each other, but because they both begin to take each other for granted. Then there are the unique issues of the young relationship, in which people, such as newlyweds, sometimes try too hard to accommodate each other.
In every relationship, there is always something each partner wants to change or make better; this is normal and, at times, justifiable. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t seek change and improvement. If your partner isn’t accommodating your needs, your first instinct will probably be to “change” them, but sadly such an effort comes across like nagging. I can assure you that nagging will only jeopardize your relationship. Think about it: the only reason someone in a relationship wants this type of change is to accommodate their own needs, not their partner’s.
When you first fall in love, you fall in love with everything the other person brings to the relationship, the entire package. If your partner was a slob before you came along, then there is little you can do to force a change in that behavior if your partner doesn’t want to change. Yet when you fully accept your partner for who he or she is, then you’ll notice that some changes do happen, and as amazing as it may seem, your partner will start to accommodate your needs.
Communication is a big part of all relationships. Sitting down and talking about what’s upsetting you is the key to a healthy everlasting relationship, but there’s also no reason why you can’t use magic to help yourself through the trying times in relationships and to help resolve the minor arguments all couples have.
relationship spells
I need a little help
The last thing you want to do when you get home is housework, but sometimes your partner forgets that the breakfast dishes are still in the sink. This lack of cooperation can cause tension and can make each of you resent the other.
You will need:
• 1 teaspoon of myrtle
• 1 white candle
• 1 red candle
• Half a teaspoon of lemon rind
• A pair of your partner’s stinky socks
On a night between the waxing moon and the full moon, set up a small altar with all of the above items when your partner is away from home. Light the white candle and the red candle together while visualizing what you want your partner to do that will make your life just that little bit easier. As you’re visualizing, say:
“Help me you will without me saying ‘please.’”
Mix the myrtle and the lemon rind together. Once you’ve done this, divide the mixture into two equal parts and gently stuff each of the socks with the resulting halves of the mixture. As you do so, visualize your partner coming home from work and finishing chores without a fuss.
Take the pair of socks and hide them under your partner’s side of the bed. Let the candles consume all the way through, and before you know it, your partner will accomplish the little chores and tasks you’ve always wanted him or her to do.
Libido come and wake me!
There’s always room for more love in the bedroom. Yet sometimes you’re too busy even to think about the pleasures that used to bring you and your partner together. A lack of time is often a factor; by the time you go to bed, you may be so tired that falling asleep is the only thing on your mind. You give your partner a loving kiss on the cheek and say goodnight, leaving your partner, who wanted more than just a peck on the cheek, feeling annoyed.
You will need:
• 2 red candles
• A bunch of holly
• ½ cup of sesame seeds
• 1 teaspoon of honey
• 4 drops of rose oil
• 1 red bowl
Draw a warm bath on a full-moon night just before you go to bed with your partner. Light the red candles in your bathroom and visualize the sexual feelings you wish to have so you’re not too tired when it’s time to play.
Drop the holly in the bathtub and watch it float on top of the bathwater as you visualize yourself swimming in a sea of passion and lust.
In the red bowl, mix together the sesame, the rose oil, and the honey until a paste is made.
Take your clothes off and rub this mixture all over your body, feeling the aroma and the pleasure it brings you. Now turn the lights down, get into your bath, and relax for a little while.
When you’re ready to get out of the bathtub, pat yourself dry. Now, while the candles burn with your desires, slip into bed and be ready for the goddess within you to come out and play. Let the candles do their magic by burning all the way down. Do this spell whenever you feel you need to be a goddess again.
Flaming passions
Perhaps you and your partner have been together for so long that passion has become a memory, and it no longer fills up your world. At times you may even think your partner isn’t interested in you anymore. Don’t worry! This lessening of passion occurs in most long-term relationships; you could even call it a “rite of passage.” Such a reduction in passion is destined to occur, but passion can also be reawakened to stir in both of you the feelings you once had for each other, so that you can experience again what once was.
You will need:
• 1 red candle
• ½ teaspoon of vanilla essence
• 2 drops of lilac pure essential oil
• 1 teaspoon of witch’s grass
• 1 passion fruit
• 1 teaspoon of honey
• 1 teaspoon of poppy seeds
• 1 small white bowl
• ½ meter (just over 1½ feet) of red ribbon
A week before you do the spell, purchase the large passion fruit and cut it in half. Take out the inner fruit until you are left with only the skin. Place the two halves of the fruit where the skin can dry without sunlight.
On the night you wish to do the spell, place the drops of the lilac oil in the palm your left hand. Then hold the red candle with your right hand. Anoint the candle with the lilac oil by rubbing the candle sensually from the middle of the candle up, then back to the middle of the candle and down, in a slow and deliberate motion. As you do this, remember the passion you and your partner once had. Then, when you’re finished and ready to proceed, light the candle.
Combine in the bowl the vanilla essence, honey, poppy seeds, and witch’s grass. Mix together well all of these ingredients until a paste is made. (You may need to add in more honey to make this happen.)
Next, stuff both halves of the passion fruit with your mixture. It doesn’t matter if any of the mixture is left over. Place both halves of the fruit together to make a whole fruit once again, and to keep it together tie the red ribbon around the passion fruit.
Place the passion fruit in front of the candle and visualize the passion you wish to reclaim. See this passion right before your mind’s eye. Keep the candle burning until right to the end. Now, take the passion fruit and place it in your bedroom, under the bed if possible. When you do this, stale passions will become a thing of the past.
You can do this spell on a Friday at any time of day or night.
You don’t listen to me
Sometimes you probably feel that your partner is just not listening to you, that the things you say go in one ear and out the other. This lack of communication can cause frustrations, disappointment, and needless arguments.
You will need:
• 1 small bunch of fresh rosemary leaves
• 5 lemon seeds
• 2 cooking cloves
• 4 coffee beans
• 1 yellow candle
• A small piece of paper that you can write on
On a full-moon night, crush together with a mortar and pestle the lemon seeds, cloves, and coffee beans. Once you’ve done this, write on the small piece of paper your partner’s name and the wish you have that he or she will listen to you more closely.
Next, embed the yellow candle with the aromatic mixture you’ve created; as you do this, visualize your wish to be listened to. Place the piece of paper under the candle, light the candle, and let it burn all through in a place safe from the wind.
Modification spell
If you wish that your partner was just a little bit more accommodating to your needs, you can achieve your desire with this modification spell.
• 1 letter-size (or A4-size) piece of red paper
• 1 blue pen
• 1 red ribbon
The modification you desire can be as detailed as you want it to be, but make sure there’s only one thing you wish to modify. Don’t confuse the universe with lots of different modifications. This is not a binding spell. A modification simply means modifying a person’s behavior without karmic retaliation. Make sure you are honest with your modification, and that you don’t try to control the situation or the issue.
The modification could be as easy as “I modify you to be a little tidier around the house” or “I modify you to be more caring toward me,” but you can never modify your partner unnecessarily or for domination. Remember that these are white spells, and white spells need to stay white. Modifications are kinder when you don’t do a complicated ritual.
On the piece of paper write:
I, [your name], modify you, [your partner’s name],
to [modification desired].
Once you’ve written out your modification, roll the paper into a small tube and wrap it with the red ribbon to keep it in place. Carry this roll with you at all times, and whenever you touch it, the modification will work to your advantage.
Hard times
Tension and disharmony in the home can come about due to rough times or difficult financial situations. This tension can bring terrible stress to any relationship, so that even the littlest things start to make you both miserable and bring nothing but hard times and altercations into your home.
You will need:
• 2 white candles
• 1 sewing pin
• 1 charcoal tablet
• 1⁄2 teaspoon of dry rosemary leaves
• 1⁄2 teaspoon of lavender
• 2 frankincense small nuggets (similar to those used in churches)
• A photograph of you and your partner during happier times
• Matches or a lighter
• A glass bowl
With the pin, carve your name on one candle and your partner’s name on the other. While holding and concentrating on the candle with your name, visualize the hard times you’re going through and focus on the inner peace you wish for. Do the same thing with the candle bearing your partner’s name, and then light them both.
Now, look at the photo of both of you. As you do so, remember what life was like before your current problems, when the love and bond you both shared was stronger, and wish away the hard times you’re currently going through.
Fill up the bowl with sand or dirt from outside. Doing so will protect the glass from breaking once you light the tablet, and it will protect you from getting burned. While you’re outside, place the charcoal tablet on top of the dirt or sand in the bowl. Light the tablet until it starts sizzling.
Now, put the rosemary, frankincense, and lavender on top of the charcoal tablet and smell the unmistakable aroma that will bring peace and harmony and will get you both through these difficult times. Bring this bowl all over your home in order to cleanse your home of all negativity.
Once you’ve finished, place the bowl in front of the photograph and the candles, and let the charcoal tablet sizzle out. Allow the candles to burn all the way to the end for peace and harmony. By the time you’ve finished this spell, you’ll already be feeling the peace within you, your partner, and your home.
Your friends don’t come first
If your partner spends more time with friends than with you, you need to do this spell to bring your partner back home and back to you.
You will need:
• 1 candle, the color of your partner’s star sign
• 1 sewing pin
• 1 photograph of you
• 1 pair of your partner’s shoes
Write your partner’s name on the candle with the pin. Light the candle while thinking of your partner coming home to you and not out with friends. As you do so, say:
“Home is where I am and home is where you should be.”
Now take the photo of yourself and place it inside your partner’s shoes, and home your partner will come to spend more time with you.
Keep the shoes in front of the candle until it burns down, and keep the photo inside the shoes for one full week. Do this spell again every other week for a month, or as often as is necessary.
Busy at work, no time for love
Nobody likes it when their partner works late every night to please the boss. When your partner works too hard, it can put a strain on your relationship, your sex life, and your special family time.
You will need:
• 1 blue candle
• 1 red drawstring bag
• 3 tonka beans
• 3 pecans
• 1⁄2 teaspoon of poppy seeds
When your partner is working late, light the blue candle and concentrate on why your partner is working at such an hour. Place the tonka beans, the pecans, and the poppy seeds in the drawstring bag. Tie the drawstring bag tightly so nothing can fall out.
Place the drawstring bag over the candle and let the flames heat the seeds, the beans, and the nuts. As you do this, go clockwise over the flame as many times as you wish and say in a strong voice:
“A hard day’s work you have done
and for right now it’s enough.
Come home and relax and be with the ones you love.”
Place the little red drawstring bag in front of the candle and let it stay there until the candle burns out. Then place the drawstring bag under your partner’s pillow where it won’t be found. Late nights at work will soon be a thing of the past.
Do you love me?
It’s difficult to have feelings for someone but not know where you stand, because the other person isn’t in touch with his or her own feelings.
You will need:
• 1 pink candle
• 1 teaspoon of lavender buds
• 1 teaspoon of marjoram
• 2 cherries attached by the same stem
• 1 white shallow plate
Hold the pink candle in your hands and visualize the person you love. Search deep within the other person and bring out the feelings they have for you. Say:
“Search your heart and tell me true the
feelings you hold deep within your soul.”
Now light the candle and stand it on the white plate; make sure the candle stays in place by putting a little wax on the plate. Make a circle with the lavender buds and the marjoram around the candle on the plate. As you do this, have in mind the truth you want to hear, be it love or friendship.
Gently hold the two cherries in your hands and place the cherries around the candle without tearing them apart.
This spell can be done whenever you wish, and as many times as you wish, but for maximum strength do it on a full-moon night. Let the candle burn through to the end. Scatter the marjoram and the lavender buds to the wind, and bury the cherries under a flower-flourishing bush.
The truth and nothing but the truth
The only way a relationship can survive is by being honest and truthful with your partner no matter how bad things are. Remember, you can live with the truth but you can’t live a lie.
You will need:
• 1 red candle
• 1 handful of peppercorns
• 1 teaspoon of orange rinds
Light the red candle and visualize the person you think is lying to you. Say:
“No more lies will you ever say to me.
Speak the truth and nothing more.”
Rub the peppercorns and the orange rinds in your hands and let them fall gently on top of the candle’s flame. As you do this, say:
“Lies be gone; be true to your soul and our love.”
Let the candle burn to the end. Put the remaining peppercorns and orange rinds where your partner will never find them.
Let me go
If you no longer love your partner for whatever reason, he or she will usually feel betrayed and won’t be able to let go as quickly as you have. This sense of betrayal can make the situation difficult for both of you—and can lead to anger, persecution, or even violence from your now ex-partner. Or it could even consume your partner and cause an emotional breakdown.
Don’t be angry with your ex, who is going through a letting-go period. Just be patient and remember that you once loved this person. Be as tolerant as you can. By doing this simple spell, you can help your ex through the process of grieving and letting go.
You will need:
• 1 pink candle
• 1 candle in the color of your ex’s star sign
• 1 candle in the color of your own star sign
• 1⁄2 meter (just over 1½ feet) of pink ribbon
Light the pink candle and send your ex peace of mind and the knowledge that everything is going to be all right. After you’ve done this, tie together with the pink ribbon both of the candles in your star sign colors and say:
“Once we were tight together like these two candles, but
we can no longer be; there is no love for you within me.”
Now, with both of your hands, break both candles in half at the same time. The breaking of the candles represents the breakup of your relationship; your ex will finally understand it is futile to continue pursuing you—and will instead get on with his or her life.