Praise for After the Affair
“After the Affair is a superb book. This is one of the best self-help books we have read, and it demonstrates that it is possible to share our science and experience with the public in a meaningful way.”
—Behavior Therapist
“This book is extraordinary in the insight it offers into why an affair occurs, how an affair affects both people in a marriage, and most important, how the healing process can lead a couple to levels of intimacy they have never experienced.”
—Kelly D. Brownell, Ph.D., director of clinical training, department of psychology, Yale University
“A hopeful and sensitive guide to healing.”
—John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
“For married or cohabiting couples who want to rebuild their relationship after one partner has had an affair, this tough-minded, insightful manual will be eminently practical.... This wise book fills a gap on the self-help shelf.”
—Publishers Weekly
“While partners in [damaged] relationships may see only pain, mistrust and the ashes of their love, clinical psychologist Janis Abrahms Spring offers another vision: the spark of a deeper, stronger relationship.”
—Plain Dealer (Cleveland)
“After the Affair is filled with critical insights, practical advice, and exercises for dealing with anger and rebuilding trust. As a practicing therapist, Dr. Spring recognizes the importance of offering help to both partners as they re-create themselves and their relationship after the affair.”
—Dana Crowley Jack, Ed.D., author of Silencing the Self: Women and Depression
“Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.”
—Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger
“An outstanding book for couples dealing with the aftermath of an affair. Dr. Spring wisely gives equal consideration to the emotions, doubts, and concerns of both the hurt partner and unfaithful partner.”
—Jeffrey Young, Ph.D., author of Reinventing Your Life
“Dr. Spring provides specific exercises for rebuilding trust, and outlines with a wonderful straightforward delicacy, the steps to begin to feel comfortable with one another affectionately and sexually again. The writing is clear and easy to understand. This is not a formula self-help book, but one that allows for the diverse richness and confusions of our intricate personal relationships.”
—Woman
“This is a very wise book and I recommend it to clients who are trying to recover from an affair as well as to those who are contemplating starting one!”
—Ellen F. Wachtel, Ph.D., author of Treating Troubled Children and Their Families
“Done in a sensitive, compassionate style that clearly talks to the reader. I definitely recommend After the Affair as a valuable resource for clients and mediators.”
—Mediation News, Academy of Family Mediators
“If you do the work Dr. Spring suggests, you’ll end up having a better marital relationship than you ever imagined.”
—Constance Ahrons, Ph.D., author of The Good Divorce