You are lying in the dark next to the person you love. You can tell by his breathing that he’s asleep, and as you gaze at the outlines of his face, you wonder about the future of this relationship. You know he wants to marry you. You love him; you can’t imagine living without him, but the thought of marrying him scares you to death. What if you make the commitment and find out later that there’s someone you’re more compatible with? How can you be sure he’s really the one for you?

You and your husband are eating pizza and watching a movie on television. This is the first chance you’ve had to be alone together all week. It’s hard to believe that next month will be your tenth wedding anniversary. It’s been a good ten years, and although there are no big problems in the marriage, sometimes you wonder if you made the right choice. You love him, but don’t feel as ‘in love’ as when you met. You glance over at him sitting on the couch and ask yourself whether you’re really fulfilled, or just ‘comfortable.’ Would you be happier with someone else? Is he really your perfect partner?

You’re sitting in your attorney’s office, looking down at your divorce papers. Once you sign them, your marriage will be officially over. The pen trembles in your hand, and your eyes fill with tears as dozens of memories flood into your mind: the first time he kissed you; the night he asked you to marry him; the joy you felt on your wedding day; the fun you had fixing up your first home; the closeness you felt when your children were born; the safety you felt in his arms; the hopes and dreams and plans for the future. Never in your wildest dreams did you imagine that it would turn out this way. You were so sure it would work, so confident that he was the right person for you. But now, as your signature severs the marriage forever, you ask yourself, ‘Why didn’t I see it? How could I have known it wouldn’t last? Why did I make the wrong choice?’