It was the
Saturday after Thanksgiving, a sunny but blustery autumn day. The world was
darker now because the November eighth Presidential election put an apparent
racist, sexual predator and outright fool in the White House. No one knew what
to expect. What advances would he roll back that would have long-term
ramifications?
Thanksgiving was a
season of counting our blessings, and I thanked God for so much. Although I
missed Brian, every day, I was thankful for my girls who decided that they
wanted to throw me a baby shower. I didn’t want one, but I told them that if I
had to have one, it couldn’t be a surprise. I needed to know the date.
Tracy and Vanessa
agreed because of my condition. They planned it for the Saturday after
Thanksgiving, and that was all I knew; the rest was a surprise.
My other condition
was that the baby’s gender wouldn’t be made public. Again, they agreed.
Tracy and Vanessa
told me to be ready promptly at two o’clock, when a driver would pick me up and
take me to the celebration. I changed clothes at least three times.
The sound of the
hawk blowing outside told me to dress in layers. I’d been getting warm lately,
so I thought a cute, sleeveless, collared blouse under a burnt orange and brown
sweater would be good. Leggings and Uggs would ensure comfort. I topped the
look off with a brown cape, trimmed in faux fur. I was cute.
When Tracy told me
that a driver would pick me up, I assumed a limousine driver.
Keyword: assumed.
I was standing in
front of the window waiting when John pulled up in front of the house, jumped
out of the car, and grabbing his hat so that it wouldn’t get carried away by
the wind. My eyebrows rose in surprise.
Before he could
ring the doorbell, I gripped the doorknob and attempted to slowly open the
door, but the wind forced the door against the wall and carried John into the house.
“Shawty, this wind
is disrespectful.”
I grabbed the
thickest shawl wrap that I had while staring at him. He sounded as though I
knew he was coming to get me.
“Why are you
looking at me like that?” he asked with a frown. “Didn’t they tell you I was
picking you up?” “I didn’t realize you were coming to the shower.”
“Lachelle, I ain’t
trying to go to no shower. I told Tracy to let me know how I could assist and
she asked me to pick you up and drop you off. That’s it. That’s all.”
I knew some of
Brian’s family would be there to celebrate and I didn’t want any drama; even
though John and I were just friends.
“I’m not trying to
be mean, but…”
“No explanation is
necessary. I’m just here to help. I don’t want you to feel as though you have
to explain who I am to those who don’t know me, yet.”
Keyword: yet.
“John, you really
need to stop.”
“I’m just teasing.
Are you ready? I don’t want Tracy and Vanessa beating me down for getting you
there late.”
After he helped me
with my cape, we walked to the car. My girls didn’t give me much information so
I thought I’d see what I could get from John.
“Where are we
going?”
He looked at me as
though I was crazy.
“To your baby
shower. Duhhh!”
“I mean where, as
in location, fool?”
“You’ll see when
we get there. Don’t ask many more questions. I’m sworn to secrecy.”
John skipped the
subject and told me about his foundation and the work that he was doing in the
community with both boys and girls.
I was impressed.
“I created a
foundation to serve the communities in the cities where I’ve played. Every
summer we run basketball camps in the underserved sections of the cities, boys
and girls can enroll.”
Turning the
corner, he continued. “In two of the cities that I’ve played in, we’re
emulating Steve Harvey’s mentoring program for young boys where we bring in
some ballplayers to talk about life skills and of course, shoot some hoops.
Just as I imagined
John with the boys and the girls, I noticed we were a few blocks from my
church.
“I know where
we’re going.”
“Well, you should.
But, you ain’t heard it from me.”
Laughter filled
the car.
I motioned to
direct John to the entrance of our church hall. I was relieved that they knew
I’d be comfortable at church. They didn’t spend too much money and I really
loved that.
John parked and
ran to my side to open the door. Just as I swerved my legs to get out of the
car I saw Keisha sitting in hers across the street from the church putting on
make-up; our eyes met. Her mouth dropped when she saw John open the door for
me. I wasn’t sure if I had enough time to tell John to get back in the car and
just drive away.
Keisha got out of
the car and must’ve forgot something because she turned on her heels and headed
back to her car. Thank you, Lord.
“John, act like an
Uber driver and just leave before Brian’s sister gets over here. That’s her.” I
said tilting my head to the side.
“Let me say bye to
the baby. You know it’ll miss me.” John replied with a sly grin.
I wanted to whack
him but mouthed through clenched teeth. “Get out of here.”
He laughed. “No
problem. I’ll hit you up to see if y’all need help taking…”
I barely heard the
ending of what John said as I walked into the all familiar church foyer. Keisha
came in behind me, huffing and puffing. Did she run after me?
“Oh hey, Keisha.”
“I should ‘hey’
you. Who was that? My brother died six months ago and you already got a new
man?”
“First of all,
don’t start no mess today. And second of all, that was my ride here. If he was
my man, he would’ve come inside. I don’t have anything to hide from you.”
The focal point of
the grandiose church foyer was a body length gold trimmed mirror. Keisha took a
minute to look me up and down while I glanced in it lying my hair down.
My friends must’ve
realized that I was in the foyer. Hushed voices replaced the conversations I heard
coming from the multi-purpose room. Our sanctuary was gorgeous, but the
multi-purpose room was always the warmest place in the building to me. I
couldn’t wait to see how Tracy and Vanessa decorated it.
“I’m going in
now.” I told Keisha.
“I’ll let you walk
in by yourself. I know you don’t want me ruining your moment.”
The look of
disdain on her face hurt me. But, I wasn’t going to focus on that. It was time
for me to enjoy what my girls had planned for me.
Breathe. Just
breathe and enter.
Anticipation grew
as I pulled the large, wooden double doors.
“Surprise!”
I looked over a
sea of family, friends, sorors, colleagues, and schoolmates. And Brian’s family
was there in full force. I was surprised to see males there too. It was a coed
baby shower.
After I scanned
the faces, I noticed the beauty of the room. Lovely pink and blue pintuck
tablecloths sat under centerpieces filled with cute African-American babies,
boys and girls. Sashes of the same color wrapped around the chairs for guests
and balloons filled the air. The fireplace was lit which added to the warmth of
the room. There was a selfie section with props and pink and blue cupcakes.
Tracy and Vanessa
hugged me. Vanessa whispered as she smiled. “Just act like it was a surprise.”
They led me to a
regal chair, fit for a queen in the center of the room.
I couldn’t help
but to think about Brian and how happy and proud he’d be at this moment.
My guests and I
took selfies, filling the room with love and laughter. Vanessa led the games.
The first one we played was to see who could guess the width of my tummy using
toilet paper, some of the ladies almost used an entire roll. Wrong. But, Sister
Maxine’s guess won the prize.
“Vanessa, please
give her a big gift bag because she was nice in her guess and still won.”
She moseyed up to
the front to get her gift with her cell phone in her hand, she snapped a
picture with Vanessa, “You don’t mind, do you, baby? I told some of my
co-workers I’d see you today.”
“Of course I
don’t. Let’s give them duck lips.”
And duck lips they
did.
Tracy and a few
friends from church served non-alcoholic, signature drinks, Rubber Ducky punch,
in champagne flutes. The buffet line flowed well, no long lines at any one
time. We dined on the best African-American cuisine, fried chicken, string
beans and macaroni and cheese.
And the cake. It
was the most gorgeous, cutest and tastiest cake I had ever tasted.
“Do we have to cut
the little brown babies on the sides?” Those ponytails on her look so real, and
those Jordan’s on his feet. Who made this cake?”
Tracy laughed.
“I’ll try not to cut too much of the babies. Details later.” After we’d eaten,
we sat in a circle, and First Lady Kendra stood. “This is the time when we’re
going to give you advice; our pearls of wisdom. I want you to remember that you
have a village who will always be there to help you.”
Attending baby
showers hadn’t been one of my favorite things to do in the past, but when I
attended them, this time of the shower was always my favorite.
Lady Kendra
encouraged others to come up. “Now, I know I’m not the only one who has words
of wisdom. Who’s next?”
People picked up
their champagne flutes, looked at their phones and did other things to avoid
speaking. I heard the squeaking of a chair and saw Janis, my co-worker,
strutting up to the front.
She tapped the
microphone before speaking. “There was no way I could let today pass without
telling you how I love you, or I’ll say how much we love you. Will
everyone here from Loving Our Babies please stand.”
Six of my
co-workers stood at their places.
“Not only are you
our supervisor but our friend. Remember to love yourself as much as you love
everyone in your life and that baby will grow to be happy, filled with joy.”
With my arms
outstretched I reached up, and she walked over to my chair and reached down to
hug me.
“Thank you for
that reminder. You know it’s hard sometimes.”
“Just remember I’m
here and can’t wait to babysit.”
Brian’s Aunt
Louise from Philadelphia had a full Pentecostal moment when she stepped to the
microphone.
Without blinking
an eye, she began. “This is the day that the Lord has made and we will rejoice
and be glad in it. Will everyone from the Jackson side of the family stand.”
At least ten
people did as Aunt Louise directed. From the time that I spent with her while Brian
was alive, I knew that she craved attention. She got it today.
“Lachelle, we are
Brian’s blood family. And my nephew loved him some you. Although he is not here
in the body, we are. We’ll be here to help you raise that baby in the Lord.
Stay focused on Proverbs twenty-two and six which says, ‘train up a child in
the way he should go and he will not depart from it.”
Then I noticed her
feet moving, faster and faster and she broke out into a shout. Her husband,
Uncle Cleveland, got up and assisted her back to her seat.
Tracy and Vanessa
stepped to the forefront together to share their wisdom with me, and already I
had tears in my eyes because their love permeated my heart.
But before they
could speak, Keisha stood and tapped her spoon against her flute. One of
Brian’s cousins encouraged her to sit down, but she didn’t. “No, I’m gonna get
this off my chest.”
Tracy gave me a
look. I’m giving her the hook.
With my eyes, I
signaled. Let her talk.
Tracy gave Keisha
the microphone and the look that everyone could interpret. Don’t play with
me.
Keisha rolled her
eyes. “Word on the curb is that I don’t like my sister-in-law. I want to set
the record straight.”
Sister-in-law.
Uhm, first time I’ve ever heard her call me that.
“My brother was so
much to me; brother, father figure and my best friend. I want to keep it real
wit’ y’all. I felt that Lachelle took my brother away from me. But, that’s all
squashed.” Looking at me directly, she continued. “I ain’t got nothing against
you. I wish you happiness and I know that you and the baby will be fine. Shoot,
I hope you let me babysit.”
Babysit? She was going a bit too far. That probably
wouldn’t happen until my baby could talk, walk and everything else.
Appreciating her
openness, I got up to hug her but felt woozy. I stumbled as I walked toward
her. Tracy and Vanessa’s eyes widened. Before everything faded to black I felt
arms around my waist and heard Vanessa scream. “Lachelle.”