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Delayed Orgasm Mudra 2

Although they do exist, men who can withhold ejaculation are rare. During my research, I got to know a pornographic film actor who delighted his directors because he could keep an erection going for as long as he liked, all day long if necessary, without ever having an orgasm. This is not the place to analyze why or how he was able to do this, on either the psychological or physiological level. But in any case, he was naturally endowed with abilities that other men have spent months or even years developing through assiduous yogic practice.

Each man can develop his own set of tricks for delaying orgasm. Below are several natural methods that are very simple and, in my opinion, very practical.

Exercise

• During sex, at the moment when you feel your arousal peak, clench your eyes tightly shut and press your entire tongue strongly against your palate (not your partner’s palate—even if you are in the midst of kissing!).
• If you catch yourself too late, or cannot control the rising excitement, stop all pelvic movement and also ask your partner to move as little as possible for a few seconds. Stay still, with your penis still inside your partner, and perform the two muscular contractions mentioned above. After a few seconds, your impulse to ejaculate will abate.
• If you still feel your pleasure rising to orgasm despite your vigilance, try gulping several times over, as if you were trying to swallow something forcefully.
• After the excitement in your loins has calmed down, you can return to normal intercourse.

Note

Be sure to inform your partner that you will be practicing this exercise, so that she will not be surprised at your sudden silence and suspension of movement when you clench your eyelids and tongue. Laughter may be the best medicine for many an awkward moment, but in this case it will surely lead to loss of erection.

If, in any case, this exercise makes either of you burst out laughing, just think of it as yet another way to delay orgasm.