“That’s a nice-looking boy,” Amanda would say, each time one of the “nerds” in Revenge of the Nerds came on-screen. Basically, you could tell them by their glasses; by their calm, if often bizarre, demeanor; by their intelligence; by their bumbling behavior in social situations; and by the hatred of them that lurked in the hearts of society at large. So that part was true-to-life enough. Sam Hellerman and I have most of that. Still, it hadn’t taken long for “that’s a nice-looking boy” to get on my nerves. Their snorting laughs were annoying too, and had no basis in reality as far as my experience goes, but these laughs were made even more annoying by the fact that Amanda quickly figured out the snort-laugh technique and kept doing it along with them, looking at me meaningfully.
“Stop being so normal,” I said, but she gave me the look that says “This shall I never do” and hit me with a couch cushion.
The nerds in the movie were basically your usual collection of misfits with the misfit characteristics exaggerated and played up for laughs, but it wasn’t too hard to see me and Sam Hellerman in there somewhere. The normal people were the “jocks,” represented by this football fraternity, along with their pretty but mean girlfriends: again, it was exaggerated, but nevertheless not all that far from the Clearview High reality. And they had the jackets. What was missing was any depiction of the neutral population, much larger at Clearview than it had been at Hillmont: that is, the people who hadn’t yet been sorted into their respective normal and victim piles, who walked among the normal in a state of limbo waiting to be identified by squawking, finger-pointing normal zombies. Like me, so far.
The worst thing about the movie, though, is that it could well have been written by Dr. Elizabeth Gary. The “nerds” and other misfits all seemed to come precounseled and prebrain-washed: their response to their own abuse and torture was simply to try as hard as they could to “beat them at their own game,” which meant, in essence, participating in the normal people’s ludicrous institutions and activities and trying to “win.” And what winning meant was “fitting in.” In other words, losing. At one point one of the nerds said they should just blow up the football guys’ house in retaliation for some gross indignity. That was rejected in the script by the fitter-inners, but in my opinion, it would have made for a far better, more satisfying film. In fact, as I watched it, I imagined this better ending in my head, and much like thinking “Fiona” while outwardly playing “Live Wire,” it kind of worked.
Now, unless you count the recent family awards ceremony for being seen with two girls who appeared to be slightly less eccentric than Sam Hellerman, there hadn’t been a good, full-blown classic Henderson-Tucci family discussion in quite some time.
I mean, there was the time when Little Big Tom found the Jerusalem Bible I had checked out of the library (to help research a quote related to the Catcher Code) and got all worried that I was turning into a dangerous religious nut.
“We just feel,” he had said, with my mom nodding beside him, “that this kind of … material is not such a good influence on your sister.” And, he’d added, if I felt the need for spiritual fulfillment there were lots of other, less damaging self-help options available, like yoga, the Landmark Forum, or this great book called Jonathan Livingston Seagull.
“I’ve known a lot of guys,” he had said, “who fell into the Jesus thing because they were lost in their lives. You may think Christ is the answer, but it’s a heavy trip. A very heavy trip.” He managed to leave the impression, with his frowning eyes and face, that this was a “trip” that didn’t tend to turn out so well.
I was able to promise him that I had no intention of taking such a “trip,” no matter how bad things got.
“I have found everything I require,” I said, “in Satanism,” deftly managing to reassure him in the least reassuring way possible. I’m still pretty proud of that one.
And then there was the time, briefly alluded to earlier, when they wanted to let me know that if I was gay, it was totally okay and they would love me and respect me and my choices because it’s who you are inside that matters; but if I did happen to be gay, just for the sake of argument, it would be most convenient for them if I would “come out” before their couples retreat the following month, because there were resources available and they knew several couples in a similar situation with whom it might be useful to compare notes about effective strategies for making me feel accepted, boosting my self-esteem, and helping me deal with the terrible but unfortunately very real social opprobrium, if “opprobrium” means what I’m pretty sure it means.
Anyway, if you think I didn’t respond to that one by saying “Thanks, but I have found everything I require in Satanism,” well, you don’t know me as well as you probably thought you did.
So yeah, as you can imagine, we were due for a family discussion. And as it happens, when it came, it came during Revenge of the Nerds.
I heard my mom come in through the back door while Revenge of the Nerds played on. I heard her lighting a cigarette on the stove, and then I heard the first heavy exhalation of smoke, always the loudest one, it seems. Then I heard the characteristic sounds of my mom fixing a drink in the kitchen, and then the clink of her ice moving closer and closer down the hallway till we could see her standing in the living room doorway, with Little Big Tom bringing up the rear, as the saying goes, looking grim and serious.
“I think the nerds can wait,” said Little Big Tom, taking up the remote and pressing pause. And fortunately or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, the frozen frame he had happened to stop on was a close-up of one of the naked sorority girls in one of the hidden spy-cam scenes. Moreover, fortunately or unfortunately, Little Big Tom just happened to lean back, half sitting on the TV, little realizing that between his splayed legs, just under his embroidered golden jeans penis, could be seen a picture of a blonde kind of cupping her slightly weird-looking, though still inherently interesting, naked breasts.
Amanda and I looked at one another. It was distracting, to say the least.
My mom took a drag on her cigarette and clinked her ice, signaling to Little Big Tom to get on with it.
“Now,” said Little Big Tom. “Now …” It was the therapy voice but with a little something extra, something that reminded me of something. “The first thing,” he continued, “that we want you to understand is that none of this is your fault.”
Amanda’s hand gripped my forearm excitedly. There was suddenly not much suspense over where this was going.
“Your mom and I care about you both very much.” His voice sounded strained and frayed, almost breaking just a little. The thing it reminded me of was Shinefield’s voice when telling me about Celeste Fletcher’s final phone call to him. Amanda’s hand clenched tighter. “And that is never going to change, no matter what happens. I will always—”
Now, it was at this point that the naked sorority girl between Little Big Tom’s legs sprang back into action, the pause button’s duration period having expired, and a voice from the TV interrupted him.
“Pan down,” it said. “I want bush. Let’s see some bush.”
Well, sir. This was tough. Because, face it: any way you slice it, it was hilarious. On the other hand, it was just about the least dignified and saddest interruption of a Little Big Tom heartfelt declaration as is possible to imagine. No, wait, that’s actually pretty much the same hand.
I quickly pressed the mute button, though the movie continued to play between Little Big Tom’s legs: we’d tried “pause” once before, with disastrous results, after all. Little Big Tom sighed and had that look about him, the one that says “The moment has passed.” But he soldiered on.
“Your mom,” he said, “and I …” He paused. Amanda retained her grip on my arm, but this was getting excruciating, even for her, I would bet. “Your mom just needs some space,” he concluded.
“We still love each other,” said my mom, in a kind of monotone, as if her mind were far, far away. “Just in a different way. So …”
Now, this sounded like quite a bit more than simply “needing space,” especially if you didn’t know what “needing space” really means, and it seemed to hit Little Big Tom like a slap in the face. “Space: the final frontier,” he seemed to be saying with his eyes. Where no one can hear you scream.
Little Big Tom explained the rest with a pained expression. He would be moving into a motel “for a little while.” He wanted us to know that we could talk to him any time and he wanted to make sure, just in case, that we really, really understood that neither of us was to blame and that we shouldn’t feel guilty.
Then he said something I’d heard from him many times before, but never in such a weary tone, or with such huge implications.
“Everything happens for a reason,” he said as the jocks between his legs ran silently back into the locker room, clutching their burning crotches.