APPLICATION 13
Practice making it safe for someone to give you feedback.
1. Identify a role you play at work or home that is important to you.
2. Identify at least one person who is influenced by you when you are in that role.
3. Schedule time with that person, asking them to prepare answers to the following questions before you meet:
• From your perspective, what’s working well in our relationship?
• What isn’t working as well or not at all?
• What, specifically, could I start doing that I’m not doing now to make things better?
4. As they give you feedback, write it down and talk only when you have a clarifying question. Otherwise, listen, listen, listen.
5. Thank them for the feedback in the moment and again later in a note or an email. (Remember, it also takes courage to give feedback.)
6. Evaluate the feedback and decide which parts of it you will implement.