Chapter 15
Working with Addictions

In the prior chapters in this part of the guide, we have focused on building great relationships, particularly between the trustee and the beneficiary. Doing so involves some “internal work” as well as the “external” work of preparing for and holding meaningful meetings and productively discussing distributions. This work cuts across almost all trustee-beneficiary relationships and applies pretty much universally to trustscapes of all shapes and sizes.

In the next three chapters, we focus on more specific matters that arise within or affect these relationships, specifically, addiction, marriage, and transitions in the trustscape. These topics will not be the subject of each and every interaction between trustees and beneficiaries. But they will likely play a part, and a powerful part, in almost every trustscape at one time or another.

Helping a family member with an addiction is an incredibly difficult task. It is made all the more so when that individual has access to funds in a trust—funds that may be used to fuel the addiction even over loved ones' and trustees' concerns and objections.

Because of the specialized nature of addiction treatment and its intersection with trusts, we decided to structure this chapter as an interview with Bill Messinger, who has spent decades dealing with this topic, both as a member of a family with wealth and as a professional adviser to families. Besides being an attorney, Bill is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor. Bill's practice focuses on helping clients identify and implement winning strategies to combat alcohol and drug abuse in their families, family businesses, and beneficiaries. Interested readers can find much more on Bill's approach to managing addiction in the context of trusts at his site: www.billmessinger.com.

Again, for sample language that Bill suggests using in trusts and similar instruments, please see Appendix 2.

Addiction may seem to be a specialized topic but this entire book is about using trusts to enhance the lives of beneficiaries, and the great danger that trusts pose is the danger of “distribution addiction,” that is, addiction to monthly or quarterly support payments that sap the beneficiary's sense of purpose and striving. Seen in this light, the work of every trust creator, trustee, and beneficiary should be the avoidance of addiction. The key to doing so is to breathe life into these relationships—to give all parties a voice and a sense of dignity—so that addiction to financial distributions never usurps the beneficiary's own sense of purpose.