WHAT TO SAY TO A CHILD IN THE SPEEDWAY BATHROOM

I was midstream when this kid took the urinal on my right. There were three empty spaces, but he bellied up right next to me. Something about him, about having him so close to me there, made me uneasy. And I did not like feeling that way in the bathroom.

He was a little guy, no more than four or five by the looks of him. His waist barely topped the urinal. When he got there he rolled his pants and underwear all the way to the floor. He pulled up his shirt and tucked it under his chin. Half-naked, he leaned back and held himself. He looked like a cherub arching a stream into a fountain. But after he finished he didn’t get dressed. He stood there with his dungarees bunched around his shoes and seemed happy enough to stare at me while I went. I began to wonder where his parents were. Somebody should have been here looking after him, keeping him from behaving like this.

The boy tweaked his brow. He looked at me like he was the first person to discover fire, as if this encounter had changed his view of the world. Eyes all wide. His mouth amazed at the sight of the unthinkable. I tried to lean away from him but there was no escaping without hitting the floor.

Those big boy eyes. They made me want to scold him. I mean, I really wanted to set him right. But it was just me and the half-naked boy in the restroom, and I wasn’t sure what I was allowed to say. That’s how it goes these days. This what-can-I-say-here feeling cripples me more than I’d like to admit.

Sometimes, like when I’m at the grocery store, it’ll bear down on me. I’ll be standing in the baking aisle looking at the bags of sugar or something, and it’s pretty obvious I’m making up my mind, when an old lady slides her cart in front of me. She even glances at me over her shoulder. “Lady,” I want to tell her. “You can’t just park in front of people.” But then I wonder if it even matters. She’s probably been doing it for years. And it’s not like it kills me if I sit there a moment. So I end up waiting, this vacant look on my face, as I watch her calculate which bag of sugar is the best deal. And as I gaze down the aisle I feel some strange kind of weight pressing in, like the world is too full for manners anymore.

I wasn’t going to talk to the boy. But I had to do something. I could feel him breathing on it. So I gave myself two exaggerated shakes before zipping up. That’s how you do it, I said without saying it. He looked down and wiggled. He tugged on his pants and his chubby fingers wiped at his thighs. Good enough. I made sure he was looking before I took a step back and flushed. The boy watched but didn’t move. I cleared my throat. He startled but kept his eyes on me. I bent my head toward the handle of the urinal. I cleared my throat again.

The boy rocked to his toes. Best as he could, he stretched for the handle. He huffed through his nose and tried again. There was a resolve in this boy that I was beginning to like. The kid was determined. I could see his mind working as he looked up at the handle. He bit his lip and clasped onto the rim of the urinal. The sight of him cleaving barehanded to that filthy toilet made my neck sweat. He hoisted himself up to the flusher. He tugged the lever and the water sprayed on his body. The boy jumped back in delight. He clapped his hands as if he’d just ridden a slide and was ready for more.

Before he could go again I grabbed him under his arms. His shirt was soaked with toilet water. I took him to the sink and I brought my knee under him just as my father had done with me. He sat on my thigh and leaned for the faucet. “Don’t touch,” I told him. “Soap them up. Here, like this.” I guided his hands to the dispenser. I turned on the water and cupped it in his palms. As I showed him how to rub his hands together, he watched me in the mirror. “Perfect. Just like that,” I said. “Front and back. Bubbles all over.” We rinsed our hands and I showed him where to throw his paper towel. Then I knelt down and cleaned the water from his face. I dabbed his shirt dry. “There you go. All set.”

He looked down at his shirt, pulled at it with his fingers, then looked up at me. His eyes were bigger than before. Now full and earnest. And I thought he might want to tell me thanks but wasn’t sure how.

“It’s okay,” I said. “It’s not your fault.” I stood and the boy jerked backwards. He held his thumb with his hand and he pulled his arms close to his belly. I spoke to him with a tone that would calm a horse. “Listen,” I said. “You need to learn this. You can’t stare. Not in the bathroom. Not here.” I waved my hand in the vicinity of my groin. He stood there holding his thumb. “This is private. You need to respect that. Okay, champ? Got it?” I’m not sure why, perhaps my little league coach had done it to me, but I reached out and scuffed his hair. This touch jolted something in the boy. He looked at me like a snared animal. Eyes glazed with fear, a rope of spit hanging from his teeth. The start of a scream wavered in his throat.

“No, no,” I said. “I didn’t mean anything. There’s no need for that.”

The boy hollered. The veins on his temple flooded and he bolted for the door. Even after he vanished, his cry rang off the tiles.

I didn’t move. I could hear the boy sobbing outside. In two deliberate syllables he yelled Stranger! over and over like a car alarm. A woman asked him what was wrong. I heard her voice plunge with concern. She begged the child to tell her what happened in there.

What could I say? I touched him. I was only cleaning the boy. I was showing him how it’s done.

Nothing sounded right. So I planted myself in front of the sink. I straightened my shirt in the mirror and I swept the hair from my face. I was relieved to be there alone. But the moment was dashed by a rumble at the door. His mother called for me to come out and by god she’d have it. But I didn’t answer. As she wailed at the door I stared deeper into my face. I thought of that old lady at the grocery. Acting all sweet and brittle. The nerve she had, wedging her way in front of me to buy a bag of sugar.