Session 3

Giving and receiving compliments

 

Review of Session 2

We are really exploring affection deeply now.

Last time we placed our liking and loving pictures on the feeling thermometer.

We then wrote down things you can do or say to show that you like or love someone and how much liking or loving is expressed for each action or statement.

 

1. Review the project from Session 2

Your family thought of (and wrote down) a situation where someone would expect you to express that you like them or love them, but that you find difficult.

Who was the person?

What was that situation?

Your project was to express liking or loving a member of your family in the last week, using some of the ideas you discovered in Session 2.

When did you express affection?

What type of affection did you express?

What did that person say and how did that person feel when you expressed your affection?

How did you feel when you expressed affection?

 

2. Why do we give compliments?

A compliment is when we say something nice about someone.

Compliments express feelings or thoughts of:

• admiration
• reassurance
• friendship
• encouragement
• liking or loving someone.

When we give a compliment to someone it means we:

 

3. Compliments for specific people

Write a compliment for a friend that expresses:

admiration

reassurance

friendship

encouragement

liking that person

Write a compliment for your brother or sister (if you have one) that expresses:

admiration

reassurance

encouragement

loving that person

Write a compliment for your mother or father that expresses:

admiration

reassurance

encouragement

loving that person

 

4. Types of compliment

A compliment can be about a person’s:

• abilities
• appearance
• personality.

Write a compliment that you could give your friend about his or her:

abilities

appearance

personality

Write a compliment that you could give your father or mother about his or her:

abilities

appearance

personality

 

5. How often should you give someone a compliment?

Suggest how many times a day or week you should give a compliment to a:

	Times a day	Times a week
classmate
friend
brother or sister
mother or father

 

6. How do you reply to a compliment?

When you hear a compliment about you, you can express:

• appreciation
• agreement.

Think of some examples of:

appreciation

agreement

 

7. Practise giving and receiving compliments

Think of a compliment you could give someone for his or her abilities, appearance or personality.

Actually say that compliment to the person.

How did that person feel when you said the compliment?

How did you feel when they expressed their appreciation?

 

8. Could a compliment be embarrassing?

Sometimes a compliment could be embarrassing to the person who hears it. Can you think of a compliment that could be embarrassing, and why, if it was to a…

classmate

friend

brother or sister

mother or father

 

9. Project: Create a compliment diary

Keep a diary of compliments that you receive and give each day.