Session 4

The reasons we express like or love through affectionate words and gestures

 

Review of Session 3

Last time we learned about giving and receiving compliments. Let’s see how much you can remember.

Can you think of a compliment for a friend?

Can you think of a compliment for your mum or dad?

What else did you learn from the last session?

 

1. Review the compliment diary project from Session 3

Over the past week, you kept a diary of compliments that you received and gave each day.

What compliments did you receive?

Who were the compliments from?

How did you feel when you received the compliments?

What compliments did you give?

Who did you give them to?

How did you feel when you gave these compliments?

 

2. Why do we give affection?

Sometimes the reason a person gives affection can be puzzling.

Why do you think people give each other affection? See how many reasons you can think of, then share them with the group.

 

3. What would happen if nobody showed you that they liked or loved you?

Draw a picture of your face here…

How would you feel?

What would you say?

What would you do?

 

4. What would happen if you stopped showing your friends that you liked them?

Draw a picture of your friend’s face here…

How would he or she feel?

What could you say to help him or her feel better?

What could you do to help him or her feel better?

 

5. If you did not get enough affection, how could you make yourself feel better?

Things I could do to cheer myself up:

 

6. How do you feel when…?

Circle the number that measures how you feel when…

(a) Your mum gives you a kiss on the cheek

(b) A friend puts his or her arm around your shoulders

(c) Your mum or dad says, ‘I love you’

(d) A friend says, ‘Well done’

(e) Your dad gives you a quick hug

(f) Your mum says you have nice eyes

(g) Your mum wants to hold your hand

(h) A friend says, ‘You are a great friend’

 

7. Project: Complete a diary of receiving and giving affection

We have a diary for you and your parent or carer to complete over the next week that provides a record of when you expressed affection and some exapes of the type of affection.