FAMILY LIFE AND TRIBULATIONS

Testing times on the home front

SIR – My initial reaction on reading your headline “Testing four-year-olds” was: “Aren’t they all?”

Garry Rucklidge

Chapel Allerton, Somerset

SIR – We are all aware of the sleep deprivation that young mothers suffer. I was therefore impressed by the wistful comment heard recently in our Community Centre: “When my two-year-old becomes a stroppy teenager I am going to wake him up at four in the morning to tell him that one of my socks has come off.”

Dave Alsop

Gloucester

SIR – During the usual “career choice” sessions at school, our youngest sister, in a moment of teenaged parent-baiting, announced to her patient father that she thought prostitution might be a lucrative career.

Our darling father didn’t flinch, replying that he really didn’t mind what she decided to do with her life, as long as she was happy and had a good pension plan.

Susy Goodwin

Ware, Hertfordshire

SIR – My family joined me at the weekend to celebrate my birthday. We were playing some traditional party games when my six-year-old grandson jumped up and exclaimed, “This is almost fun.”

I hope I live to hear him make the same comment, omitting the “almost”.

Margaret Scattergood

Knowle, West Midlands

SIR – I was delighted to receive today the following letter from my ten-year-old grandson: “Thank you for my remote control car. It is really cool and it doesn’t matter that it doesn’t work.”

Alice Cleland

Devizes, Wiltshire

SIR – Thank goodness one is not expected to write a thank-you letter to one’s husband. I would definitely have struggled to write one on receiving, some years ago, a set of blue car headlamps and a twin-tone horn.

Sandra Hawke

Andover, Hampshire

SIR – My eight-year-old granddaughter may have shown a degree of prescience beyond her years when she was recently heard to say that first there is childhood, then the teenage years and finally adultery.

Mike Spragg

Great Yarmouth, Norfolk

Rubbish date

SIR – Perhaps I should forget Tinder, internet dating or more recently Love in the Countryside: it would seem all the men are down at the tip. The queue was 40-deep on Saturday.

Girls, you’ll have to be up early though to catch these worms as it was at eight o’clock in the morning.

Ellie Withers

Hurst, Berkshire

Indecisive proposal

SIR – “Regular sex boosts the memory of over-fifties”, says your headline.

I had intended to show this report to my wife. I forgot.

Nigel Hawkins

Braunton, Devon

SIR – I was born in 1930 and my only sibling, my brother, was born in 1913.

Did my mother have the longest headache known to medical science or did my father get his memory back?

Joe Hill

St Agnes, Cornwall

SIR – Scientists have found that sex and sleep are the keys to real happiness. Presumably not at the same time?

Roy Hughes

Marlbrook, Worcestershire

SIR – I note that the current birth rate is falling. Would this be connected with the relative unattractiveness of the male of the species by virtue of the mass of body paintings they now sport?

Graham Jones

Tytherington, Cheshire

Stop meeting me at McDonald’s

SIR – I would be delighted if the hairstyle known as “Meet me at McDonald’s” was banned, not just by schools but by the government. It would stop me having to peer at groups of lanky male youths to see which one, if any, is my nephew.

Extending the ban to the words sweet, legend and sick might even win my vote.

James Dixon

Stanningfield, Suffolk

SIR – Occasionally my late husband would shave off his beard at the start of a holiday so that the children and I could see what he really looked like.

Our joint opinion was always the same and, after the two-week break, he would return to work supporting a handsome and dignified growth.

Zoe Percy

Orpington, Kent

SIR – My very bald grandfather was a dignified and loyal man, but changed his barber after many years following this exchange.

Grandfather (being invited to the chair): “Shall I take my coat off?”

Barber: “You don’t really need to take your hat off.”

Mik Shaw

Goring-by-Sea, West Sussex

Black shoe diaries

SIR – I overheard the following exchange in a supermarket queue some years ago.

Mother to daughter: “I need some new black shoes.”

Daughter: “But you’ve got some black shoes, Mother.”

“Yes, but your Uncle Arthur’s very ill.”

Jacqueline Atwell

Felbridge, Surrey

SIR – If sunglasses are now being used for their intended purpose, instead of as hair bands, is it too much to hope that caps may soon start to be worn the right way round?

Russell Parkes

Penshurst, Kent

SIR – My wife is unimpressed by camouflage trousers because, as she rightly points out, they are still easily recognisable as trousers.

Eldon Sandys

Pyrford, Surrey

SIR – Why in recent years have men’s trouser zips been shortened from eight inches to six inches? It is very inconvenient.

Timothy Collett

Ashtead, Surrey

Tent poles apart

SIR – Judith Woods writes in her column that, when camping with her husband, “his tent erection is as strong and stable as anything decreed by Kubla Khan”. Even during our honeymoon under canvas in Scotland my own wife has never been as complimentary.

Dr John Garside

Thirsk, North Yorkshire

Pole vaulting into a hotel bed

SIR – We have just returned from a night away and for the second time I discovered that, while our hotel bed was luxuriously comfortable, it was too high off the floor. The only way I succeeded in getting onto the bed was in a most undignified fashion with my husband pushing my posterior and catapulting me into the air so I landed spread-eagled like a stranded whale.

If hotels are determined to pursue this high-bed culture, I feel they should provide either a trampoline or a vaulting pole.

Margaret Hancock

Yateley, Hampshire

SIR – Why are hotel rooms so full of unnecessary cushions? On a recent visit to an Oxfordshire hotel I counted no fewer than seven piled up on the bed like a mini mountain range.

William Foot

Walberton, West Sussex

SIR – There should be a tight corner in hell reserved for the designers of duvet covers with very small openings.

As an American friend of mine once put it, it’s like trying to push 2lbs of melted butter up a wildcat’s rear end with a red-hot gimlet.

Graham Masterton

Tadworth, Surrey

Loose screw

SIR – I was highly amused by your recent article about handling the father-in-law from hell. Fortunately my husband seems to have a very good relationship with his future son-in-law, and when they recently moved into a new property, my husband went over to help with some DIY.

Struggling with a screw fitting, my husband asked if he had any lubricant. Future son-in-law (English not being his first language) disappeared into the bedroom and came back a few minutes later proffering a tube of KY jelly.

Husband politely declined and suggested olive oil instead.

Shirley Batten-Smith

Watford, Hertfordshire

All the Presidents Club men

SIR – My father used to say that when an Englishman drank too much he became mildly amorous and very boring. After the furore of the Presidents Club, it looks as if they will have to make do with the latter.

John Rawlins

Bishops Caundle, Dorset

SIR – At the risk of being vilified, I feel it should also be noted that drunken women in a similar scenario are not much better. I have witnessed alcohol-fuelled hen parties doing much the same to male waiters; on one particular occasion one poor chap was chased on to a table and denuded by a phalanx of baying women.

The remaining waiters locked themselves in the kitchen until the venue had been cleared.

(Ms) H. Gelder

Hillmorton, Warwickshire

SIR – And to cap it all, the apostrophe had been omitted from the club’s name.

Bob Shute

Bradford-on-Avon, Wiltshire

#MaeToo

SIR – I wonder what Mae West, with her aphorism “Better to be looked over than to be overlooked”, would have made of the #MeToo movement?

Alan Duncalf

Bampton, Devon

SIR – You can imagine my dismay many years ago when my wonderful 65-year-old secretary asked if she could have a private word with me, a young managing director, about sexual harassment.

After sitting down in my office she said: “Yes, I’m not getting enough of it.”

Tim Williams

Hungerford, Berkshire

SIR – The only positive aspect to the ban on wolf whistling is that I can tell myself that its illegality is the reason I no longer attract such attention.

Jennie Gibbs

Goring-by-Sea, West Sussex

SIR – When I was in the Air Force, in the 1950s, one of the girls in our billet had a date with an airman at the camp cinema. An hour later she came storming back in. We asked her what had happened.

“He lobbed his thing into my hand so I stubbed my cigarette out on it. He won’t do that again.”

Changed days.

Jacqueline McCrindle

Prestwick, Ayrshire

SIR – When I left school to go to college in the late 1950s, my grandmother, who was born in 1876, advised me to carry a hatpin in my handbag. The pin was quite a common accessory at that time, judging by the number of yelps one heard when visiting the cinema.

Pam McEntyre

Mollington, Cheshire

SIR – When growing up, I was told that it was bad manners to walk around with one’s hands in one’s pockets. However, it would seem that this is now the safest option for us men.

James Richardson

Bexhill-on-Sea, East Sussex

SIR – I was somewhat nonplussed by the seemingly over-familiar presence of the lady immediately behind me in the bus queue on a recent visit to Majorca. It was only later that I realised her accomplice had removed my wallet from the side-pocket of my shorts.

Mike Leaper

Eastbourne, East Sussex

SIR – My wife, squeezing between tables at our bridge club, apologised when she brushed accidentally against an elderly, retired Perthshire farmer.

He replied: “It’s a’richt, lassie. The spirit is willing, but the engine’s buggered.”

George K. McMillan

Perth

SIR – Hopefully the current furore regarding inappropriate sexual contact will signal an end to the awkward continental habit of intrusive social kissing and a welcome return to the safe British handshake.

Jan Bardey

Kineton, Warwickshire

Neutralising clothing choice

SIR – What a fuss about how to display children’s clothes. Why not call the rails “clothes often chosen by boys” and “clothes often chosen by girls”. That should keep everyone happy.

Matty Thacker

Tanworth-in-Arden, Warwickshire

SIR – Kilts are the answer for all.

Deirdre Lay

Cranleigh, Surrey

SIR – It is with great shock I read that Marks & Spencer is to shut 100 stores by 2022. Where is middle England to buy its underwear? Or can we expect the inhibited Brits to “go commando”?

Guy Bennett

Claygate, Surrey

SIR – I notice in a local Marks & Spencer that there were many styles of jeans labelled Straight, but none marked LGBT. A missed opportunity, perhaps?

Chris Burdon

Rushmere St Andrew, Suffolk

Sit down, shut up

SIR – A lengthy visit to the lavatories in a trendy modern cinema complex gave me time to reflect on the current debate on gender-neutral facilities. Along with a dozen or so fellow queue-ers of various genders, I waited for one of five cubicles to become available, there being no urinals at all in the building.

Surely the most sensible, efficient (and gender-neutral) method would be to have doors labelled “urinals” and “cubicles”. Individuals able to conduct their business while standing would use the former; anyone wishing or needing to sit down, the latter.

Dr Martin Shutkever

Pontefract, West Yorkshire

SIR – I cannot understand the controversy over “gender-neutral lavatories” since they are to be found in every home in the country.

G. Johnson

Gateshead, Tyne and Wear

Good Dave Hunting

SIR – I am appalled at the news that there are fewer women CEOs than CEOs called Dave. This is clearly discriminatory against not only female executives but also all men who don’t have the good fortune to be called Dave.

Keith Valentine

Tunbridge Wells, Kent

SIR – If women are able to do the same job as men for less salary it begs the question: why employ men at all?

Elizabeth Hall

Bradninch, Devon

SIR – Regarding the role of men and women, I believe that my dear Grandfather Joe may have been well ahead of the game.

On learning that his wife Annie was feeling unwell he magnanimously observed: “Well, if you are not feeling better by teatime, I’ll give you a hand with the washing up.”

David Belcher

Thatcham, Berkshire

Keep clean and carry on

SIR – Your article on circumcision reminded me of a story told by a girlfriend many years ago. Her fellow students at a convent school had discovered that a biblical passage referring to foreskins would be used in a forthcoming lesson.

Accordingly, a selected girl raised her hand and asked: “Please, Sister Francis, what are foreskins?”

Without batting an eyelid, the young nun replied, “Why, the skin from their forehead, of course” – and calmly carried on.

John Martin

Soberton, Hampshire

SIR – My four-year-old daughter asked me why boys stood up to pee. Deciding she was probably ready for some basic anatomy, I asked her what little boys had that little girls didn’t have. She thought about it for a few seconds, and then said: “Action Man?”

Rita Coppillie

Liskeard, Cornwall

Suffer the little children

SIR – Some years ago, the church in south London where I sang removed some Victorian pews and moved them to the back of the church where they formed a “benched off” area for a creche. This became known as the King Herod Memorial Corner.

Hilary Bentley

Alderney, Guernsey

SIR – When our daughter was going through the “terrible twos”, I asked our vicar if he could administer a “booster” baptism, as the first one hadn’t taken. Sadly, he thought I was being serious.

Dr Peter West

Bosham, West Sussex

SIR – I have just received a guarantee for a new garage roof that excludes acts of God. I find this phrase somewhat anachronistic and I am sure that a more rigorous term could be devised.

After all, atheists would deny that there was any such thing, while fundamentalists would hold that even a light drizzle is an act of God.

Roger Jackson

Heaton Moor, Cheshire

SIR – Further to the letter regarding the “Knit & Natter” sessions introduced into her local library, our local church has had a similar group for several years now, universally known as “Stitch & Bitch”.

Roger Brimble

South Croydon, Surrey

Here … comes … the .…

SIR – As a church organist I have often had to play for a long time while awaiting a bride. My record is 45 minutes. When I was in the Philippines, I knew of a priest who always began the wedding service on time, whether the bride was present or not.

Robert Ascott

Eastbourne, East Sussex

SIR – My husband and I exchanged rings 56 years ago. The vicar had no idea what to do: after my husband had endowed me with all his worldly goods I had to repeat the same promise, thus giving them all back to him. He reminds me from time to time.

Judy Kirk

Littleover, Derbyshire

Over her dead body

SIR – So many of my excellent suggestions and ideas are met with my wife’s response: “Over my dead body”.

When she dies, I am going to have her cremated. Her ashes will be put in a Royal Navy brass shell case from the Great War, which currently contains the poker and brush in the drawing-room hearth. This will be sealed and lowered into a recess that I will dig on the threshold of the back door.

Each time I leave the house it will be over her dead body. Everything will then be possible.

Peter J. Robinson

Lichfield, Staffordshire

The affronted room

SIR – Inspired by universities appointing safe-space marshals, I decided to declare the living room a safe space where my wife was no longer allowed to insult me. Having informed her of this new arrangement, she called me a cretinous buffoon.

Is there a safe-space regulatory body, or does this count as a hate crime I can refer to the police?

Paul Atkins

St Albans, Hertfordshire

Advertising your age

SIR – A measure of one’s age used to be that policemen looked so young. That’s not so easy now given that one seldom sees the police.

What I’ve noticed as I’ve got older is that the actors in Funeral Plan advertisements look like mere youngsters.

John Kirkham

Woodford Green, Essex

SIR – Getting old is when your grandchild looks at your wife’s loyal kitchen gadget and says: “That is quite an antique; it could be worth a lot of money.”

Jonathan E. Godrich

Clee St Margaret, Shropshire

SIR – Would you kindly stop telling those of us who live alone that we are lonely.

It is making us feel lonely.

Donald Mcnab

Whitchurch by Tavistock, Devon

SIR – Will Tracey Crouch, the new Minister For Loneliness, be given departmental staff, or will she have to face the job alone?

Phil Sharman

Herne Bay, Kent

SIR – On a Royal British Legion tour abroad it seemed to be agreed by women of a certain age that the biggest catch is not a man with good looks, nor with brains or even with money, but a man who had a car and was still driving.

Anthony Appleby

Exeter

SIR – I do so look forward to the day when I’m told that I look too young to travel on my Senior Railcard.

Juliet Bothams

Binsted, Hampshire

SIR – For years now I have been living in the diminishing hope that a shopkeeper would require some identification to prove my age when purchasing a bottle of wine.

That hope has now been finally extinguished when my barber asked whether I was entitled to the OAP discount.

Downhill from now on, then.

Julian Waters

Standford, Hampshire

SIR – I am currently 70 years old and am still managing occasionally to “trip up” coming out of the pub. At what age do I describe such an episode as “having had a fall”?

Anthony Peter Bolton

Stretton, Shropshire

Critical drinking

SIR – I can only concur with the research undertaken by Oxford University into the beneficial sound of a cork being drawn from a bottle of wine. On many occasions my wife and I have described this as “the happy thuck”.

Andrew Reid

Campsea Ashe, Suffolk

SIR – My bottle of wine tonight stated: “Best enjoyed young and cold”. But I am old and hot: what shall I do?

Bernard Wilson

Ramsbottom, Lancashire

SIR – I’ve just bought a box of wine from a major supermarket on which is the sticker: “Lasts for six weeks from opening”.

I only wish that were possible.

Alan Green

Moreton-in-Marsh, Gloucestershire

SIR – I read that I need to reduce my alcohol intake. Having just retired I was looking forward to my regular 5pm tipple. May my wife transfer her 14 units to me, given that she is teetotal?

Paul Vince

Steeple Ashton, Wiltshire

SIR – If drinking six glasses of wine a week knocks two years off your life, I must already be dead.

Greig Bannerman

Frant, East Sussex

SIR – As Winston Churchill clearly knew, and lived long to prove it: alcohol is a preservative.

Diana Spencer

Herne Bay, Kent

SIR – I see you have stopped reviewing beer in the Saturday edition. Can it be because the ridiculous modern trend of massively overdoing the hop has exhausted your stock of phrases to describe something that tastes like it has come out of the wrong end of a cat?

Joe Kerrigan

London W13

SIR – I have it on the authority of my son, who was deployed to the South Atlantic guard ship as an RNR officer, that gin and tonic is not the same unless made with ice chipped from a glacier on South Georgia.

Charly Lowndes

Malvern, Worcestershire

SIR – I wonder how many people guffawed when it was reported that airport operators say they sell alcohol responsibly. Whenever I fly from Manchester, it’s nearly always before breakfast, but even then it feels like I’ve been transported into one of the seamier Hogarth paintings.

Nick Gillibrand

Carnforth, Lancashire

SIR – I have always looked at knitting bags with the utmost suspicion since my grandmother declared that a cylindrical one was the ideal hiding place for a bottle of whisky. She made this discovery while staying in a hotel that had no licence.

Liz Young

Long Marston, Hertfordshire

SIR – What is this nonsense about Dry Januarys and now Sober Octobers? I abstain for half the year: I never touch a drop between midnight and midday.

Nicholas Diment

Emsworth, Hampshire

SIR – Shortly after Christmas my partner and I were told that, every time someone chose to have a “Dry January”, somewhere in the world a barman died.

On that, we decided upon a Moist January with occasional damp patches.

Peter Sumner

Ruan Minor, Cornwall

The right sort of weather

SIR – Given the admission by Keith Richards in your interview that he has recently given up drink and drugs, perhaps the current downturn in the weather is in fact hell freezing over.

Tom Erskine

Castel, Guernsey

SIR – Even though the weather in February was atrocious our milkman still delivered the milk.

Perhaps the dairy should bid to run a rail franchise.

Steve Urwin

Great Linford, Buckinghamshire

SIR – Our milk was also delivered on time as usual. We did, however, have to put it in the fridge to thaw it out.

Allan Kirtley

Chobham, Surrey

SIR – I have found a use for the rubber bands discarded by Royal Mail.

A couple of bands slipped over the widest part of each shoe gives a little more grip when stepping out these frosty mornings to collect The Daily Telegraph.

Tony Greatorex

Syston, Leicestershire

SIR – While driving in a blizzard through Leeds city centre, I witnessed a traffic warden brushing the snow off the windscreen of an abandoned car and placing a parking ticket behind the wiper. I hope the recipient tore it up.

Sue McFarland

Little Bytham, Lincolnshire

SIR – Listening to Radio 4, I was pleased to hear a school mistress defending a pupil’s right to throw snowballs against a school master who had banned the annual fun. Then she spoilt it all by saying she preferred to build a “snow person”.

Heaven help us all.

David Mawson

Chesterfield, Derbyshire

SIR – Having donned my arctic gear in order to go to the supermarket I called at my elderly neighbour’s house to ask if anything was required.

“200 cigarettes, a bag of toffees and next week’s TV guide,” came the reply.

Vera Shaw

Maidenhead, Berkshire

SIR – I visited my local supermarket this weekend for the first time since reports that the great British public has been panic buying for essentials in the bad weather.

Sure enough, many shelves had been picked bare. Bread? Fine. Chicken? Okay. Bottled water? Sensible. But strawberries? Is irony finally dead?

Nick Dillon

Hasketon, Suffolk

SIR – My husband’s only concession to the present cold temperatures was to dig a path from the utility back door to the various dustbins, in order that I could get there more easily.

I very much appreciated his kindness.

Judith A. Scott

St Ives, Cambridgeshire

SIR – Could the Met Office issue me with a wind chill factor for my wife’s hands and feet at bedtime?

Charles Pressley

Goring-by-Sea, West Sussex

SIR – The travelling difficulties associated with February’s bad weather led many to heed the authorities’ advice to work from home. This has led to a new word in our house: gumfing (getting under my feet).

Gabriella Gordon

Thames Ditton, Surrey

SIR – Now that the snow is thawing, will the drivers of 4 × 4s stop looking so smug and superior?

Peter Lally

Broseley, Shropshire

The annual grind

SIR – Spring must be on its way. The sun is streaming through an open window and faintly in the distance I can hear my first angle grinder.

Terry Warburton

Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire

SIR – In early March I go into the garden, catch hold of winter by the throat and ritually strangle it. The incantation I chant at the same time is unprintable but effective.

Roy Jones

Quorn, Leicestershire

SIR – After the last few summers that we’ve endured, isn’t it a refreshing change to grumble about the heat?

Alan Thomas

Caerphilly, Glamorgan

SIR – In the drought of 1976, South West Water Authority suggested that its customers “shower with a friend”. When will the Environment Agency ask us to “blush not flush”?

David Latham

Great Shelford, Cambridgeshire

SIR – This summer is no match yet for that of 1976. My wife and I were married on 28 August that year, after nearly three months with no rain. We had Handel’s Water Music played at our wedding and, sure enough, it rained right on cue.

The vicar had ammunition for at least three sermons in the following weeks.

James Farrington

Colemans Hatch, East Sussex

SIR – In the summer of 1976 we recycled every drop we could, including using bath water to irrigate the vegetables.

We had a bumper crop of healthy, succulent cucumbers, but we couldn’t eat any of them. They all tasted of Lifebuoy soap.

Liz Wicken

Foxton, Cambridgeshire

SIR – Following the last hose-pipe ban, my local pub posted a notice outside which read: “Owing to water shortages, beer will now be served only at full strength.”

Sandy Pratt

Storrington, West Sussex

SIR – How many times must I refrain from running the tap while cleaning my teeth in order to save enough water to fill my neighbour’s swimming pool?

Janet Williams

Chudleigh, Devon

The Cork weather scale

SIR – If the Met Office is thinking of adopting local dialects to describe degrees of rain, they could do worse than the slang we used when we lived in Cork.

1: Soft (Misty); 2: Spitting (Light spots); 3: Squally (Rainy and windy); 4: Pissing (A regular shower); 5: Flogging (Heavyish rain); 6: Lashing (Very heavy rain); 7: Bull rain (You wouldn’t put a dog out in it); 8: Bucketing (Holy Mother of God); 9: Pelting (By the Lord Harry); 10: Milling out of the Heavens (It Must Be August).

Graham Masterton

Tadworth, Surrey

SIR – Here in South Lincolnshire we have had a lazy wind. It would rather go through you than round you.

Doug Braybrooks

Cowbit, Lincolnshire

SIR – I yearn for the return of those weather maps of yesteryear with their distinct isobars, warm fronts and the occasional “occluded thingy”.

Ross Ellens

Stony Stratford, Buckinghamshire

Too much information

SIR – I store vast amount of data, including personal details, images and unverified information on other people, in a supercomputer called “brain”.

While usually secure, it has been known to inadvertently share information when hacked via the “alcohol” malware.

I have not informed all of the people whose data I hold.

This data is intended to be stored on a lifetime basis.

All data will be destroyed at some unknown future date.

Please advise me how I would proceed under the General Data Protection Regulation.

Keith Farrow

Chippenham, Wiltshire

SIR – While giving a lift to my nephew the other day I asked him about his taste in music. He gave a shrug and said that he streamed his music from Spotify. He then revealed that, on International Women’s Day, Spotify had messaged him to say that he wasn’t listening to much music from female artists. Spotify had monitored his listening and sent him a score.

I look forward to my credit card telling me that I spend too much on alcohol, and my electricity supplier telling me that I am staying up too late for my health.

Gwilym Hughes

Littlehampton, West Sussex

SIR – Given the furore over the possible misuse of Facebook personal data, perhaps now is the time to give some publicity to the little known Hereford Quill Pen Society which aims to take us back 200 years.

For a modest fee members are issued with a quill pen, and a small club hammer with which to smash any piece of electronic equipment with which they come into contact.

Michael Hawthorne

Madley, Herefordshire

SIR – I have received a “permission to hold my data” GDPR email from a funeral company of which I have never heard, in which they told me that I was a “valued customer”.

I am wondering who has been masquerading as me – or whether I have actually used their services and now exist in a reincarnated form.

There is hope yet for an afterlife.

Martin Watts

Chalfont St Giles, Buckinghamshire

SIR – Royal Mail is encouraging businesses to use unaddressed mail to get round new EU laws. I intend to stop putting junk mail in my recycling bin and instead use the bright red one at the end of the street which the Post Office has kindly provided.

Brian Donaldson

Orrell, Lancashire

SIR – My late father dealt with junk mail by endorsing each item with a clip-art style image of two fingers making the V sign, above a seven-letter caption which both started and finished with the letter F.

Then he posted it back.

B.R.

Billericay, Essex

SIR – Among the many emails sent to me about the GDPR, one of the more confusing is from an IT company which advises me: “If in doubt contact us immodestly.”

Philip Wright

London SW11

Dumb technology

SIR – Having just purchased my first smartphone at the age of 76, I now understand why everyone is walking around staring at their phones.

They are trying to understand them.

Ralph Barnes

Christchurch, Dorset

SIR – I see that WhatsApp is down. I wonder how many people will suddenly find out that their handheld devices can also make phone calls.

Robin Whiting

Castle Rising, Norfolk

SIR – I need to be very careful in the kitchen when using my iPad Pro tablet.

It’s identical in size to our kitchen scales.

Stephen Gledhill

Chadbury, Worcestershire

SIR – With all the advanced technology in this world, how is it that, as usual, I have cut my thumb when opening a tin of corned beef?

Susan Apedaile

Sheffield

SIR – With the demise of the Yellow Pages, how will strong men or women demonstrate their strength now?

Thomas Wood

Lastingham, North Yorkshire

SIR – My smart meter is so secure that even my electricity supplier cannot get information out of it.

S. McVey

Kingsdown, Kent

SIR – Front-page headline of The Daily Telegraph: “‘Smart homes’ will tell you to get off the sofa”.

I don’t need a “smart home” to tell me that – I already have a wife.

John Fox

Stamford, Lincolnshire

SIR – It is often observed that pets and their owners become alike over the years. Could the same be said for computers? Ours is dictatorial and slow.

Carole King

Ilfracombe, Devon

SIR – In light of my husband’s craving for North Korea’s superior broadband service, I have unselfishly suggested he relocate.

Diane Learmont-Hughes

Caldy, Wirral

SIR – One of my son’s early habits was to call all phones “Daddy”. I may have been working too hard at the time.

M.S.

London E1

SIR – My wife received an Amazon Echo for Christmas and we have found it to be interesting and enjoyable to use.

We have noticed lately, however, that Alexa has started to interject in conversations with her own advice and, whether or not she is becoming hard of hearing or plainly disobedient, she is refusing commands to “stop”.

Should I be worried that this is the beginning of a robot takeover?

Stephen Ennis

Thames Ditton, Surrey

SIR – When robots go on strike, will humans do their work?

David Rumsey

Pinner, Middlesex

Silly seasonal salutations

SIR – As I tackle the annual task of writing my Christmas cards to relatives and friends, I like to add random salutations on the envelopes: Sir, Lady, MBA, OBE, Brexiteer etc.

I feel it brings a little Christmas cheer to those who carry the cards on their journey and to those who finally receive them.

P.C.-M.

Gustard Wood, Hertfordshire

SIR – Our daughter’s Christmas card reached us on 9 January from London, having been posted and postmarked on 12 December. By my calculation that exactly matches the speed of a sloth, at 0.15mph.

I wonder if Royal Mail could save money by using these very attractive animals to carry our post without any loss of efficiency.

Mike Owen

Claverdon, Warwickshire

SIR – I have profound sympathy for the poor dolphins, sharks, tuna etc. that become entangled in abandoned filament netting, having required urgent help to unravel myself from similar material encasing our recently delivered Christmas tree.

J.A. Morgan

Churchill, Oxfordshire

SIR – For me the first manifestation of the miracle of Christmas is when last year’s lights instantly work.

R.A. Collings

Presteigne, Powys

SIR – You quote a Wiccan student objecting to a proposed Solstice Event at Cambridge, as it is “using a holiday I celebrate with religious conviction as merely the theme for a party”.

I know how she feels – every Christmas.

Shirley Puckett

Tenterden, Kent

SIR – I am looking forward to a peaceful Christmas alone again this year. There is only one problem: how do you pull a Christmas cracker on your own without cheating?

Marie Jones

Wallington, Surrey

SIR – I suggest that the drone shooting season should start a few days after Christmas. They could be taken down, like the decorations, on (“The Glorious”) Twelfth Night.

Tim Garland

Bathford, Somerset

SIR – One Christmas I decided to impress my congregation by hiring a donkey for the children’s Crib Service. After the ceremony the donkey was led to the church doorway for our final hymn. I thanked everyone for attending, then thanked the donkey, which brayed loudly before emptying its bowels.

It took some time before we could clear the contents away in order to release the congregation.

Canon Alan Hughes

Berwick-upon-Tweed, Northumberland

SIR – A £175 bill for taking my Springer Spaniel to the vets at 1am on Boxing Day. It had consumed an entire Yule Log.

Michael Cattell

Mollington, Cheshire

SIR – Five years ago, my son (then single) gave his sister’s first child a drum for her first Christmas. He followed this up with a xylophone the following year. I knew my daughter had not forgiven him.

This year my daughter gave my son’s first daughter an accordion for her first Christmas.

I am watching this escalating musical arms race with much enjoyment and will only intervene when the neighbours start complaining.

John O’Neill

Hessle, East Yorkshire

SIR – After the surfeit of leaflets encouraging the purchase of festive food, Christmas seems officially over when the slimming leaflets start dropping through the door.

Linda Bos

Midhurst, West Sussex

Better before

SIR – “Co-op sells out-of-date food for just 10p”, says your headline.

This isn’t news.

Our local Co-op has been selling out-of-date food for years, unintentionally and at full price.

Moira H.R. Brodie

Bourton, Wiltshire

SIR – The younger generation in my family hold up their hands in horror whenever they find items in my kitchen past their sell-by dates. They have yet to discover that last week they consumed a dish containing a tin of tomatoes with a sell-by date of 2002.

To my knowledge, they have all survived.

Sue Johns

Clifton-upon-Teme, Worcestershire

SIR – If our children are brought up on grapes without pips, how will they learn to spit?

Ian Smethurst

Congleton, Cheshire

SIR – The recent cold snap has provided the opportunity to investigate the darkest depths of the freezer. I found a haggis dated best before January 2008. Sadly I was forbidden to eat it but the dogs enjoyed it.

The blackbirds also enjoyed an unopened 20-year-old packet of shredded wheat.

Ian McMullen

Doddington, Kent

SIR – I wonder how your more germ-obsessive readers would have reacted to my experience a few weeks ago. I had just spread whipped cream over a chocolate roulade on the kitchen worktop prior to rolling it up when Agatha, my Siamese, came bounding in through the cat flap.

Finding her route to the kitchen sink, where she takes all her prey, impeded by the roulade, she dropped her mouse right in the middle of the cream.

I picked up the poor creature, still alive but smothered in cream, and transported it back out through the cat flap. I smoothed over the disturbed cream and completed the roulade, which was devoured at a family gathering amid much laughter after I had related the story.

My sister remarked that she hoped Agatha didn’t now expect all her mice to have cream on.

Beryl Salisbury

Llanfairynneubwll, Anglesey

The raising of Hammy

SIR – As young boys my two sons had hamsters as pets and one morning we found one of them apparently dead in the bottom of its cage.

Trying to soften the blow for the children, I went to great lengths to explain that Hammy had gone to baby Jesus and would have lots of hamster friends in heaven. Together we made a coffin for the hamster and his toys. We chose and prepared a burial site in the garden but, as I carefully lifted the “body” out of its cage to place into the shoebox coffin, Hammy underwent what can only be described as a Lazarus moment, terrifying us out of our skins.

I wished I’d known sooner about hibernating hamsters.

Jennie Allen

Baildon, West Yorkshire

The hardest woof

SIR – At a National Trust property I saw a sign stating: “Sorry, no dogs”.

There was no need to apologise; I wasn’t expecting any.

John Curran

Bristol

SIR – Thank you so much for your very helpful article listing the UK’s 25 most dog-friendly pubs.

I shall keep it for reference of places to avoid at all costs.

Robin Lane

Devizes, Wiltshire

SIR – In the pet foods aisle of a local Aldi I recently encountered a middle-class couple pushing a trolley full of food and alcohol. As they contemplated a display of dog treats the man said to his wife: “We can’t buy his food from here.”

John Birch

Waterfoot, Lancashire

SIR – I have a bag full of different bags for life but am unsure of the correct protocols for their use. For example, my wife will not take an Aldi bag into Waitrose but will produce a Waitrose bag in Aldi.

A Sainsbury’s checkout lady regarded me with obvious disapproval when I used an Aldi bag but seemed to accept a Tesco bag without demur.

Peter Heap

Manuden, Hertfordshire

The low path

SIR – How bizarre for GPs to suggest people combat depression by taking a stroll alongside their local canal.

One suspects that half an hour of staring at dead dogs, discarded tyres, dumped supermarket trolleys and other floating detritus could well be the final straw and result in many of the poor souls jumping in.

Charles Garth

Ampthill, Bedfordshire

SIR – Further to the revelations about the Irwell being the most polluted river in the world, I recall that in the 1950s it was one of the few places where one could play “Pooh-sticks” with real poo. Simple pleasures in those days.

Martin Mayer

Chorley, Lancashire

A close brush

SIR – Lavatory brushes are dreadful things. My wife bought one, which I used once before reverting to paper.

Frank Wilkinson

Lostock, Lancashire

SIR – Can I add my support to the campaign for real plates? I was once unfortunate enough to have my meal served on a ceramic tile which was of a design I have only ever seen in public lavatories.

Toby St Leger

Oldmeldrum, Aberdeenshire

Strawing berries

SIR – Before plastic straws are banned make sure you have a supply for a brilliant way to hull strawberries. Push the straw straight up from the pointed end of the strawberry and the core and greenery will come away cleanly.

Joan Guest

Epping, Essex

SIR – I cut up plastic straws to draw lots for our regular Monday tennis four. My partner always seems to draw the short straw. Would she have better luck with paper straws?

G. Marling-Roberts

Sowley, Hampshire

SIR – Keep some straws in the DIY box for blowing debris out of drill holes without getting it back in your eye. Use the rest for table-top blow football and showing disbelieving children how you managed to hit the back of a teacher’s neck with a dried pea every time (wife at kitchen sink is a good substitute, albeit politically incorrect).

Victor Launert

Matlock Bath, Derbyshire

SIR – Now that the order has gone out to ban plastic “stirrers”, I finally understand what those irritating and dangerous bits of plastic are for.

I had assumed that they were to slow consumption: after a few large gin and tonics they either went up your nose or in your eye and you couldn’t get at the drink at all.

Andrew Perrins

Upton-upon-Severn, Worcestershire

SIR – Flower arrangers often resort to a discarded twig in the absence of a teaspoon.

Suzie Carter

Woodcote Green, Worcestershire

SIR – When calculators superseded slide rules in the 1970s, we research engineers were not universally impressed. You could not stir your tea with a calculator.

David Marsh

Countesthorpe, Leicestershire

SIR – Many moons ago I watched a colleague use the blunt end of a cheap Biro to stir his tea.

It seemed to work well, but the interesting trickle of blue ink seemed to put him quite off the tea.

P. Gascoyne

Wantage, Oxfordshire

SIR – A Biro top is most efficient for cleaning ears.

Simon McIlroy

Croydon, Surrey

SIR – I have a solution to the environmental damage caused by disposable coffee cups which was very effective in the past: have a cup of coffee at home before you go out.

Angus Cameron

Ball Hill, Berkshire

SIR – With all the talk about banning single-use plastics, how about adding the new plastic £5 and £10 notes to the list? I only use them once before they disappear from my wallet.

Dag Pike

Bristol

SIR – We had a plumber in last week. When he asked for an old towel to mop up, I gave him a nappy. The child who last used it is now 48. How’s that for recycling?

Patricia Lister

Poulton-le-Fylde, Lancashire

Vaping wind-up

SIR – My wife and I were recently assaulted by a huge cloud of noxious vapour in our local park. The gentleman, in reply to my complaint, said: “Vaping is not smoking therefore it is legal.”

I then farted upwind of him.

His face was a picture when I said farting was not smoking.

Ian Stirton Smith

Gosport, Hampshire

Slim pickings

SIR – One of my wife’s friends joined a running club then proceeded to run off with one of the members. As a result my wife wouldn’t allow me to join a running club. I mentioned joining a slimming club and asked if she would mind as I might be tempted to run off with a fat lass. She didn’t.

I trudged off to my first Slimming World meeting last night.

Garry Gibson

Jedburgh, Roxburghshire

SIR – Today I took delivery of a new set of bathroom scales that were manufactured in China. One of the instructions reads: “Do not put objects rudely onto this scale”.

I’m wondering whether I ought to put some clothes on before weighing myself.

Ronnie Cleave

Winkleigh, Devon

SIR – You recommend a lie-in as the key to staying in shape.

I remained in bed for an extra 90 minutes this morning, eating my fresh fruit and yogurt and reading the Telegraph. I then weighed myself to find I had not lost weight – please advise.

Jane Kaminski

Downham Market, Norfolk

SIR – First we hear that coffee is good for us, then that extra sleep is good for us.

Now all we need is for a professional body to tell us that chocolate is good for us, and life will be perfect.

Margaret Hart

Romsey, Hampshire

SIR – I very much doubt that the proposal by the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health to ban fast food outlets within 400 yards of every school in the country would have any impact on pupils’ diets.

At the very least, however, it may provide them with some exercise.

Adam Tindall

Dollar, Clackmannanshire

SIR – First fat, now sugar. Whatever happened to the land of milk and honey?

Richard Osborne

Eton, Berkshire

SIR – Overheard at a birthday party.

“Wouldn’t your friend like some cake?”

“No, thanks, she doesn’t eat cake.”

“Why doesn’t she like cake?”

“She can’t have any because she’s diabolical.”

Graham Watson

Yeovil, Somerset

SIR – There is a perfectly good, inexpensive diet: boiled cabbage and gravy. It works every time on Labradors.

Charles Trollope

Colchester, Essex

SIR – I bought some kale in Princetown, Devon, last year. Having found it somewhat challenging for myself, I offered the remainder to the first Dartmoor pony I met.

He sniffed it, looked me in the eye, turned on his heel and walked off.

Bill Boutcher-West

Grateley, Hampshire

SIR – It is most irritating, on return from a good walk, to find the business part of one’s activity tracker at home on charge, and that one has been wearing the empty wristband. The dilemma – to go round again, or not?

Evelyn Weston

Bromley Cross, Lancashire

SIR – My NHS device recorded 200 more steps for a seven-hour motorway drive than it did for a seven-hour trek the following day, over the Carnedds, in North Wales.

Beware NHS statistics.

Jacqueline King

Castle Cary, Somerset

Bare elbow syndrome

SIR – That “white coat syndrome” exists is indisputable. However, given that doctors are no longer allowed to wear said item, nor indeed suit and tie, perhaps it is time to re-name it?

I would suggest “bare elbow syndrome”.

Dr Andrew Stoddart

Bexhill-on-Sea, East Sussex

SIR – Recent coverage of the risk of prostate cancer suggests digital rectal examination as a diagnostic. Digital? From experience, I can think of nothing less analogue.

Alex McIntosh

London SE3

SIR – Since I was widowed five years ago, the only individual sharing my bed has been my lurcher. Should my answer to the NHS’s question about sexual orientation be: “bestiality”?

Philip Barry

Lydden, Kent

SIR – The administration at the hospital where I was formerly employed affixed a suggestion box on a wall in the out-patients department. At the end of the first day it held a single suggestion: “Please could you place the box a little lower.”

Godfrey Brangham

Usk, Monmouthshire

SIR – Many years ago my mother-in-law, on being admitted to hospital, filled in the admittance form and wrote “none” under religion.

Big mistake: all the faiths visited her in the hopes of a conversion.

Yvonne Chappell

Ashtead, Surrey

SIR – On a visit to hospital last year I was asked by a doctor if I was pregnant. This surprised me as I am a male of mature years (with no transgender aspirations), albeit a little portly.

Norman Macfarlane

Kingston upon Thames, Surrey

SIR – I was a teacher for many years. When in hospital after an operation the nurses tried to wake me up using my first name. I did not respond.

Someone on the other side of the ward said, “She’s a teacher,” so the nurse said, “’ere, Miss.”

I shot up, wide awake and answered, “Yes?”

Brita Lakeman

Glentham, Lincolnshire

SIR – Might I advise the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists that the average woman in labour frankly couldn’t give a monkey’s whether she is called by her first name, “she”, “good girl” or the Queen of Sheba as long as they will just GET THAT BABY OUT RIGHT NOW.

Rachel Collins

Otterbourne, Hampshire

SIR – A surgeon has been fined for burning his initials on a patient’s liver. Should I ever require liver surgery and there was someone with the necessary competence willing to undertake it, I would be happy for them to inscribe their entire curriculum vitae on said organ.

David Bell

Knowl Hill, Berkshire

SIR – Many years ago, a gillie on the river Spey, when responding to an urgent summons from a visiting angler to help him land a salmon, arrived just in time to see the guest, an orthopaedic surgeon, expertly kill the fish with a single blow from an unusual-looking “priest”.

This turned out to be a titanium hip joint – recovered presumably from one of his less successful operations.

Andrew Yool

Pluscarden, Morayshire

SIR – If the NHS wants to learn how to speed up recovery times from major surgery, I suggest they immediately contact the production team of Coronation Street. Within two days of one character donating a kidney, and another character receiving said kidney, both are practically back to normal, and almost ready to leave hospital.

John Ball

Shoebury, Essex

SIR – One wonders how quickly the NHS problems would be resolved if our Ministers were to be struck down with the flu virus at a time when their private health providers went into liquidation.

M.J. Collins

Cowbeech, East Sussex