If it becomes apparent anytime during your confrontation with an adversary that the situation is moving out of control and may even become violent, walk away. Your adversary cannot continue the battle without you. As you walk, use breathing and counting techniques to feel calmer. Ask yourself why you are angry, what was the hot button your opponent pushed? How did things escalate to the point where they were getting out of hand? Be truthful with yourself about your role in the escalation. Whether it is your wife, your boss, or a colleague, think about what you will say to your adversary when you next face him or her. You don’t want to say anything that you will later regret.