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If you dig deep into your psychological and emotional makeup, you’ll discover two components: The first is the one where you feel you’re better or greater than you truly are, where you exaggerate your accomplishments by thinking you’re “bigger than.” This is your extroverted self that thinks, I can do it. I’m everything.’ I’m better!
The second part is the one where you feel you’re worse or less than you truly are, where you minimize yourself, thinking you’re “smaller than.” This is your introverted self, where you think, I can’t do it. I’m nothing! I’m worse!
One part of you builds up, and another tears down; and when these two aspects are realized at the same time, the central you is awakened. This is your true and transformative self. You have a dual personality revolving around a truly centered you, and when you emotionally elevate or depress your perception of yourself, you express and repress these personalities. When you integrate and center yourself, you become empowered and truly love.
Yet if you vacillate between these two, expressing one while repressing the other, you can feel like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Publicly you may be very optimistic, but you’re privately pessimistic—nice during the day, mean at night; extremely extroverted, very introverted! Actually, both occur at the same time, but as you choose to own (express) and disown (repress) each of these parts, you can feel them oscillate. One woman told me, “During the day, I’m ‘Miss Optimist,’ a total extrovert. But when I get home, I just shut the telephone off and hide out. I become a hermit.”
You don’t have to live at the two extremes. As I discussed earlier, when you’re grateful and integrated, your heart opens in love, and these components of your personality come together as the expressed and repressed join. Suddenly you’re your true self, made up of these two sides.
Apply this to the art of communication: Imagine going on a date when you’re in a highly self-righteous mode, and you’re seeing someone who has a “self-wrongeous” attitude. Although you may initially assume that you’re both at the same level, the other person is actually at their low point, while you’re at your high point. In this scenario, you may minimize him or her, and they may exaggerate you. He or she will start out on your date rather infatuated, and you’ll be rather blah; or you may try to rescue this person. Since you’re both wearing masks, the relationship has an unstable beginning.
True love requires an open heart, which can’t exist when you’re trying to hide one part of yourself by wearing another aspect as a disguise. Yet when you’re able to honor and exhibit all of yourself—the true you—you can be balanced and open your heart.
When your feelings are centered, you experience love. When they’re lopsided, however, you have extreme emotions that can reveal distortions, lies, and exaggerations about your life. Your greatest potential and magnitude of opportunity occurs when you’re focused. Through the Law of Expression and Regression, each behavior teaches you to hone yourself—they represent positive and negative feedback to help you become who you truly are.
WORDS OF POWER
Thank you, universe, for the positive and negative feedback you give me, which centers me in love.
My heart opens in love as I embrace my two sides.
No matter what I have done or not done, I am worthy of love.
My true self is balanced and magnificent.
When I am up, I look for the downs.
When I am down, I look for the ups.
My exaggerations and minimizations dissolve when I am grateful.
Love is equilibrium between expression and repression.
MY WORDS OF POWER
MY REFLECTIONS
How can I use the Law of Expression and Repression today to fulfill my life’s
purpose, dreams, and objectives?
