This book wouldn't have come about without the ideas and encouragement of Mary Jane Ryan at Conari Press. Thanks again—you're always great to work with.
I also want to thank the following people for their contribution to my life and to this book:
To my partner of many wonderful years, Helena, for her nonstop love, support, and ability to create a safe atmosphere in which I could fully express myself. I love you, sweetie.
To my former girlfriends Mari, Jem, Cindy, Su, and Carol for putting up with me when I was not very skillful at communicating, and lovingly helping me discover what works.
To Joel Rosenberg, Justin Gold, and Marshall Rosenberg who have showed me through their instruction and their character how to communicate in heartfelt ways.
To my Uncle Lew for inspiring me with his hypnotic charm to explore the far reaches of my mind and beyond.
To my brother Gary for always being there to help me with my books.
To my four parents for their support, encouragement, feedback, and love.
To my dog, Rama, for showing me how easily and powerfully love can be expressed.
To the people I've seen in therapy and in my communication workshops, who have tried my methods and shared with me their stories, feedback, and successes. I thank each of you for your commitment to deeper intimacy.
And lastly, to Grace . . .