Jobby = job/hobby.

“Black on the outside, white on the inside”—I shouldn’t have to explain why this is messed up.

“Going natural” means transitioning one’s hair to its natural texture after chemical straightening.

Neither of these is true of me, but no shame if you’re a furry.

Tip: If you think the date will go well, stuff a night scarf in your purse before you leave the house.

UCB is the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre, an improv theater and training program founded by Matt Besser, Amy Poehler, Ian Roberts, and Matt Walsh. There are a number of improv comedy programs in New York, but UCB is seen as one of the big dogs because it’s churned out a number of SNL cast members.

B-roll is the footage editors splice into the main shot in order to make a segment look more dynamic. Think static images of an interviewee’s face, or shots of the scenery. I didn’t know about B-roll, so when the focus was off me during taping, I let myself go into resting bitch face.

SEO stands for “search engine optimization,” and it refers to strategies websites use to make their posts show up near the top of search results; reverse-engineering SEO can help you unearth articles and videos that may have been buried over time.

Jill Soloway identifies as genderqueer and nonbinary and prefers to use they/them pronouns.

Dead-naming is using a transgender person’s birth name instead of their chosen name.

You’ll notice I usually call my hair “locs” and not “dreadlocks.” There’s nothing dreadful about my hair.

If you want to have an open conversation, start with a question. It’s kind of hacky, but this way you capture people who are genuinely curious as well as people who are sure they know the answer and are mad you’d even ask. Our first episode was, “Are Fried Chicken and Watermelon Racist?”

In a Mariah Carey, ridiculous-but-I-earned-this way, not in a Naomi Campbell, throw-a-cell-phone way.

Yes, they do.

† I’m serious, they do.

†† They do!

§ Okay… maybe the “queen” part is optional.

Real coworker friendship requires repeated IRL hangouts that don’t involve conversations about work or former coworkers.

† And you definitely don’t want to connect on social media with the person who could fire you, so do not friend your boss.

Anti-miscegenation laws referred to interracial marriage, but they also extended beyond it; in Virginia, where Loving originated, interracial sex was also illegal.

Originating from the olde term “cuckold,” which refers to a man whose wife is having sex with another man, “cuck” is an alt-right insult lobbed at a man who’s perceived as weak. It’s rooted in sexist stereotypes and toxic masculinity, of course.

Bed wench or bed warmer was a term used to describe black slave women who were forced to sleep in the master’s bed for the purpose of “keeping it warm”—being used as a sex slave. Yeah, it’s pretty gross.

Some of my favorite books to get you started: A People’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn; The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander; Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by bell hooks; We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie; Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love and So Much More by Janet Mock.