I reach into the button box to find the spangled mother-of-pearl criss-crossed with lines and the smaller pearl buttons with serrated edges I remember from my childhood. Here too are workaday reds, blues and greens; flats, domes and globes, diminutive glass flowers and glinting diamantés.
I used to love the rattle and whoosh of my grandma’s buttons as they scattered from their Quality Street tin, but the tin has done its duty: my own button box is a Victorian writing case with zig-zag bands of marquetry and inlaid mother of pearl. I no longer hear the delicious sound of buttons striking metal but it is still a pleasure to delve for the button whose fish-eye holes, cut diagonally for thread, transform a simple square into diamond-shaped glamour.
As a very small child, I spent Friday afternoons at the house my grandma Annie shared with my great-aunt Eva. The Quality Street tin lodged on a window sill beside the one for Blue Bird Toffees which held my grandma’s cotton reels. Buttons stood in for both sweets and currency in the games of shop the three of us played; their kitchen steps were my counter, askew in the pantry doorway. These afternoons also meant Jacobean-print curtains, lemon-scented geraniums and a stained-glass bureau whose individual panes I could trace with my fingertips; there was a rag rug before the hearth and a radio but no television. When my mum came to collect me, straight from town, in her nail polish and belted trench coat, she brought the 1960s into their sitting room.
My grandma’s buttons reached back into the past with metal-shanked beauties from the nineteenth century and came forward into my childhood with the pale blue waterlily buttons and ladybirds she stitched on to the clothes she made for me. These buttons now sit among others I have amassed and some of my mother’s too. (She, having a mother who at one time sewed for a living, has made it her business to do as little sewing as possible.) I cannot see the buttons without conjuring up the garments they fastened; the eye-popping turquoise buttons from my mum’s sixties suit so very different in their message from the jet buttons of yesteryear, and the jet buttons themselves, different again from one another, whether fastening ankle-length Edwardian coats that just about swished clear of grimy pavements, or twinkling in a suggestion of upholstered, prickly bodices stiff with beads. I can hardly grasp the tiny buttons that fastened 1920s shoes; no wonder my great-aunt Eva’s handbags from that time always held a buttonhook. Octagonal buttons recall a trim jacket of hers from the 1940s, that era of morale-boosting suits; a silk-covered button comes from the Chinese-style jacket my mum wore in the late 1950s, while expecting me. A Times leader rightly described button boxes as ‘an epitome of family history’.1
My grandma Annie was born in 1892, the decade of the New Woman. Times were changing and this working-class girl was photographed standing proudly with the bicycle that took her to grammar school. My great-aunt Eva was born in 1901 on the day of Queen Victoria’s funeral. Not one for formal lessons, Eva left school as soon as she could and joined my great-grandma Betsy behind the counter of the family’s corner shop on the outskirts of Chesterfield, Derbyshire.
My great-grandfather’s name was above the door but, like many men in the district, he was engaged in industrial work of one kind or another; the shop was run by my great-grandma. This small shop served a straggle of terraced houses with basic foodstuffs, animal feed and occasional fripperies; linen buttons too, for sewing on to working men’s shirts: the majority of customers in this tight small community were the wives of the colliery and foundry men who worked nearby and relied on the shop for groceries and more besides.
There was an Edwardian fastidiousness about my grandma Annie, whereas Eva was as sprightly as the 1920s, the decade when she came of age. My great-aunt was a good playmate when my brother and I were small; if anyone was likely to lead you into mischief it was Eva. More than the many games we played, I remember my delight when, as a teenager in the early 1970s, I discovered clothes my grandma and great-aunt had worn years earlier and had carefully put away: floor-length ribboned nightgowns with lacework bodices, a black silk dress buttoned with tiny glass flowers; a shimmering art-deco scarf. Old was becoming modern and, in some circles at least, vintage was newly chic (though, back in the day, ‘vintage’ was plain ‘second-hand’). The magazines I read, 19 and Honey, showed young women who, when not reclining in Biba-like sophisticated poses, wore crêpe-de-Chine frocks set off with little leather handbags or beaded purses like the ones I found upstairs at Annie and Eva’s. Around this time, my grandma’s buttons acquired new meanings. I started raiding her button box for interesting finds to sew on home-made smocks and saw how glacé mint buttons and tiny pearl flowers complemented vintage clothes. Further discoveries awaited me in my own home: clothes worn by my mum as a younger woman, including a red tiered chiffon dress that shouted the 1960s.
Even now I can recall the thrill of those discoveries, see the jazzily patterned runner on the upstairs landing in Annie and Eva’s house, recapture the shiver of silk and the shock of that red chiffon. Many of the clothes have long disappeared but the buttons remain. The button that makes a play on geometry was Annie’s; best-dressed days saw Eva wearing buttoned gauntlets outlined in caramel-coloured leather – my grandma and great-aunt were no different from all the other women wanting to add a touch of glamour to their lives. Writer Jenifer Wayne lovingly recalls a purple dress that signified her becoming a woman; my own equivalent was a crêpe-de-Chine suit now remembered by a single button. ‘They change our view of the world and the world’s view of us’,2 said Virginia Woolf of clothes. The Button Box explores their role as emblems of security, identity and independence, and the key part they play in keeping up appearances. Favourite dresses, best coats, everyday overalls, children’s clothes: their buttons reach across the generations and the large and small stories of women’s lives.