CHAPTER NINE

​    MY FINAL SUBMISSION

I salute you for reading to this point. Nothing delights me more than the fact that you have this memoir doubled as a guide to ease your journey to age 30. Let me reiterate at this point that no time is too late or early to begin to walk and work in purpose. It is highly imperative that you find purpose if you really want true happiness. I know you may be tempted to think purpose is overrated but dear friends, nothing is fulfilling as finding your purpose and running with it early enough. True happiness can only be guaranteed through the achievement of purpose not wealth.

That someone seems ahead of you does not mean he or she has surpassed you. You could actually give a chase, catch up and even overtake as there is room for overtaking in the race of life. However, this may seem impossible without your active involvement, intentionality and decision. For a fact, no one is born not to be great because in each of us lies great quantum of deposits. Till the human world ceases to be, the resources available cannot be exhausted. You should yearn to be heard and position yourself to be seen. Never permit anyone or circumstances to shut you up. Break barriers and scale heights that may seem impossible or insurmountable at the onset. Now is the time to work hard and smart because you have got strength. Remember, as you grow older, your physical energy will begin to drop, so learn to make your tomorrow count by being shamelessly all out for purpose NOW.

Your greatest investment should be in good people. A healthy association is valuable than money. Where money may not work, people can. Be intentional about your circle.

Life is no race, you are only in a race with yourself, you should learn to thoroughly execute a project before dabbing into another, else your unfinished works from the previous project could be your waterloo in the next one you rushed into. Be thirsty for greatness but be discerning to understand the depth of the next ‘water’ you are about stepping feet into. You must understand that not every cup is worth drinking from.

You need the Supreme Being called God. It is envy that makes you believe there is no supreme being somewhere. You often wonder why and how a supposed man could be somewhere controlling the affairs of the universe. I hereby urge you never to be found in such folly.

Nothing happens by accident; they all are building blocks towards your prestigious edifice. Your vision must be so dear to you to the extent that no man will be able to talk you out of pursuing it.

Let me also mention that it feels great to be married but do not place it as an accomplishment at the expense of purpose, except your purpose is actually to get married in life and stop there. Dear friends, there is a man for every lady and vice versa, wait! Resist the urge to rush into marriage as an escape from chasing your dreams, I mean those dreams that appear too difficult for you to achieve. 

As a marriage woman, diligently work daily to ensure your marriage works, but I will reiterate again, never do this at the expense of your SELF. One of life’s most beautiful institutions is marriage. It could be all you need to speedily achieve purpose, provided both parties are committed to serving sacrificially.

Don’t be a mediocre, don’t be satisfied with average. There is more to life than what you can see now.

Nobody will accept that they wasted your time. Nobody will carry your fault on them even when it is clear that they caused so much havoc to you. So, it is highly non-negotiable for you to start living your life the way you will be accountable to yourself tomorrow.

You must clearly have the full sense of what God has called you to be (back to purpose). You can’t function properly in a place of fear, and discomfort. You need to be at your best to successfully carry out God’s assignment upon our life.

Regret is a killer. It could live with you forever. The more you try to forget, the more you remember especially when you see somebody who mirrors who you wished you could have been. Live your life with the future in mind, which is the best way to minimize regrets. Constantly ask yourself , what I am doing now, in few years to come will I be proud of myself?

The decisions we make today are pivotal to who we become tomorrow.

As a woman, I encourage you not to forget who you are in pursuance of peace. If sacrificing your purpose is what guarantees your peace, then you haven’t begun living. Many women sit comfortably on this chair. They limit all they could be and wrap their life around being a wife and mother.

In as much as it’s great to be a wife and mother, it is even greater and more honourable to achieve purpose while serving in these two offices. You are solely accountable for how you live your life because life is per head.

My journey in the last three decades has taught me how essential inner peace is. Whenever you are to embark on a project and you feel unsettled in your spirit, you should not try to apply faith, settle with yourself first, else you might regret that decision.

Fear is a thief, don’t let it rob you. Everything you desire is at the other end of fear. Constantly renew and feed your mind with affirmative words and keep company of fearless people. I used to be a fearful person, but I overcame it through the right company. Make bold to begin that business now, start that course now, resist that killer now and it will flee.

Life is beautiful, only if you make it so. Learn to pick lessons from your past failures and not wallow in regrets.

Be intentional about strategic movement and planning.

Life is too short and too long not to accomplish purpose when you should.

Life is beautiful when you are on the brighter side.

May you accomplish purpose before in record time

Have a smooth ride all the way to the big 30.

I love you.