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INTRODUCTION

1. KEEPING THEM SAFE AND SOUND

2. PROVIDING OPPORTUNITY

3. BEING THERE FOR THEM

4. SUCCUMBING TO THE COLLEGE ADMISSIONS ARMS RACE

5. TO WHAT END?

6. OUR KIDS LACK BASIC LIFE SKILLS

7. THEY’VE BEEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY HARMED

8. THEY’RE BECOMING “STUDY DRUG” ADDICTS

9. WE’RE HURTING THEIR JOB PROSPECTS

10. OVERPARENTING STRESSES US OUT, TOO

11. THE COLLEGE ADMISSION PROCESS IS BROKEN

12. THE CASE FOR ANOTHER WAY

13. GIVE THEM UNSTRUCTURED TIME

14. TEACH LIFE SKILLS

15. TEACH THEM HOW TO THINK

16. PREPARE THEM FOR HARD WORK

17. LET THEM CHART THEIR OWN PATH

18. NORMALIZE STRUGGLE

19. HAVE A WIDER MIND-SET ABOUT COLLEGES

20. LISTEN TO THEM

21. RECLAIM YOUR SELF

22. BE THE PARENT YOU WANT TO BE

  3. Carter, The Sweet Spot, quoting Brené Brown.

  4. Author’s interview with parent, February 19 and October 27, 2014.

CONCLUSION