#3: How Men Determine a Keeper

It’s time to explain how men determine a keeper - a woman he will commit to, versus the women he dates a few times before he moves on. Let’s call these two types Rest Stops and Keepers.

Rest Stops

I’m not talking about pole dancers or total party girls who just want to get laid, although these types do fit into this category. I’m talking about women who set very few boundaries or have little respect for themselves when it relates to men. A Rest Stop might be intelligent, independent and attractive but when it comes to a guy, she has no clue.

The Rest Stop says “Yes” to men. She doesn’t know what type of guy she wants, or even what she wants out in her life with a man. She just knows she wants to be happy, maybe get married and have some kids. She is pretty much ready to have sex whenever a man shows interest. She feels if she says no, then the guy will move on to another woman. The funny thing is he will move on eventually, leaving a Rest Stop far behind.

This is interesting to me because you women are so choosey with so many things: the clothes you wear, your hair stylist and, of course, your shoes. But men?

If you are always being chosen and not choosing guys, how are you going find love? By accident? Maybe the guy who chooses you, without you giving any resistance, will happen to be a great guy? I doubt it.

This is not a far out example. Many women fit into this category and they don’t even realize it. Rest Stops have no idea specifically what they want in a guy. Consequently, they sleep with men too early and they say yes to the date no matter where it is or how soon it comes up. This doesn’t necessarily make them sluts, they just have low self-esteem and, therefore, limited choices when it comes to men.

Many men love this type of woman, but only for a few weeks. There is no real challenge here. Any guy can have the Rest Stop, so there is no competition to get her. Her time is not valuable and she probably has limited career aspirations. She is not attractive because she is not a challenge and she has no boundaries.

Keepers

I can spot keepers right out of the gate because I’m a dating coach. But for most men, they start noticing a Keeper when she starts talking. Keepers wield power. A Keeper knows what she wants in a man. Her time is valuable and the game is a joke to her.

Her body language screams Keeper also. She controls the dance. Guys will walk up to her and she will be very polite and even appreciate the advance, but right off the bat, she decides a guy’s fate. She chooses men—she is not chosen. Pick up artists need not apply!

The Keeper has boundaries, and she holds firm to them. She will not hand over her phone number easily and she will nicely exit a situation where a wet kitten is trying to get into her pants. It’s actually fun to witness a PUA around a Keeper. She doesn’t show her cleavage like other girls do—not at this stage.

The Keeper’s time is valuable. She has things she is passionate about, making her time valuable by default. Why would she date some loser when she can be with the men of quality she sees on a daily basis?

How quality men define a Keeper

Conversations are deeper. The Keeper doesn’t discuss the weather, she has an interesting life to share with other interesting people. She has many experiences under her belt and she is looking for more. She will grow weary of a shallow man quickly. One liners are sad to her.

She will ask pointed questions. If a guy approaches the Keeper, or she approaches him (and she will), she will ask questions which are instant qualifiers. “Tell me, Gregg, why do you want to take me out? You don’t even know who I am?” or, “Gregg, I heard what you said over there, please expand on it, I found it interesting.” She will never run over and scream, “Hey! Wanna do a shot?”

She sets boundaries immediately. If asked for her number, the Keeper will respond kindly, “I don’t give it out to guys I just met. Give me yours and maybe I’ll contact you.” If a man is lucky enough to make the cut and go out with her, she won’t offer up sex for weeks, maybe months. She knows what she wants in a man and she demands to be treated in a certain way. Until a man proves his worth, sex is off the table. She has options.

Her radar is set to max. Do you think a guy is going to play the Keeper? Think again. She knows the game of love and she already knows what I am teaching you right now.

Only quality men need apply. You may think the Keeper is a bitch. Quite the contrary. Guys are instantly attracted to her. Many men will cower and go fetal, but this is her whole point. She weeds out the runts and attracts only quality men. When I train men, I bring them around women of this nature and I show them how far away they are from finding true love. Not to discourage them, mind you, but to show them this is what they need to work toward attaining.

What I am describing is pounded into you in all my books. Men seek women of value. Keepers bring men happiness. They keep men engaged. They satisfy all the man ingredients instilled in them. A Keeper will prevent a man’s eyes from wandering and always keeps him challenged. Men want to grow with this type of girl. If a man gets out of line, the Keeper will leave him! She will always be worthy of a high-value man, so he will constantly be fighting to prove his worth.

These are the girls men bring home to show Mom and friends! These are the women men marry and have kids with.

I am going to make you into this woman, if you are not already!