#10: My Formula for Attraction
Getting Busy = Building Confidence = Luring Quality Men
Nothing attracts a man more than a woman who is busy.
First, let’s define a busy woman. A busy woman is:
- In college and pursuing a real career,
- Advancing in a career,
- Involved with a hobby, or many hobbies,
- Really good at something after years of training,
- Someone with little time in her day, due to her activities.
I’m not talking about a woman who is busy shopping or busy doing cocaine with all her friends. I’m not talking about a woman who can Facebook all day and play video games all night.
A busy woman has hobbies and passions, making her an interesting person. She can teach her interests to others, or mesh with others with the same interest. This builds confidence and fills her jar with experiences she can share with the world.
A busy woman’s time is valuable. Why would she waste her time on some useless couch potato when she can go surfing with her friends? She chooses men, and they are men from the top of the apple tree and not rotting on the ground.
A busy woman has boundaries and she sets them. Sex is given out on a selective basis and only to high value men. Phone numbers don’t go to strangers, and the bar scene is a joke to these busy, high value women.
Men see busy women as a challenge. They want what they can’t have and these women are their top of the tree fruit. Busy women are not needy or in any rush to have kids and men know this. They know this girl will never be needy or clingy and they love this.
Men will bring their A Game to court a busy woman because she represents a real challenge. I always bring up the cat to human relationship. When you want your cat Gizmo to come to you, what does he do? He heads in the other direction. You start to give chase to the cute, furry beast. Where does he go? Under the bed where you can’t get him.
Now try ignoring Gizmo because you’re busy. What does he do? He’s confused, he’s lonely. He sees you as a busy confident woman and wants to be on your lap all the time, purring with pleasure.
I am actually talking about my own cat, Gizmo, who is on my lap right now as I write.
Men are like Gizmo, but worse. If you pursue a man, he naturally runs. No challenge or mystery. But, when you are a busy woman, things change. He thinks, “She has no time for me so I’ve gotta try harder—I want her!”
This is amazingly simple and yet how often is a woman really busy working on her life? My answer, at least from the women who contact me, is not often. I find women to be just the opposite of busy - they are pursuing any breathing, high baggage man who will give them even a smidgeon of attention.
No! No! And no! This is what society teaches us. Get a man and be happy. They missed one thing:
Get a life, then get a man and be happy!
The get a life part is the confidence part, and the confidence part is what lures the men like a cat to tuna. If every woman did this, her issues would be solved and I would be out of business. But, as a society, we are taught to be in a big rush. We are told to start a family, in my opinion, much too early.
Let’s change this. It’s never too late!
Getting Busy = Building Confidence = Luring Quality Men
You need to become a busy, confident woman. So stop making guys your key source of happiness and start getting busy! Watch the men rush to your front door! Build her and they will come.