#18: Change One Thing a Week

This is a great tactic to deploy to keep a man satisfied and content. If you’re single, you must do this! Changing one thing a week builds your confidence and makes you an interesting person who attracts men. This is a major part of your new game plan!

Each week, change one thing a week. If you are in a relationship, it will keep his interest in you piqued all the time. Couples stagnate and they get bored when they don’t change.

I want you to use your imagination! This certainly includes your bedroom tactics, but other things as well:

• Try new haircut or new style.
• Starting trying new recipes, like a chef.
• Put a leash on your cat and take him for a walk.
• Tel him that you want to play Monopoly tonight and toast marshmallows in the fireplace.
• Read to him from a favorite book.

Just make it a real change. Cutting a half inch of hair off does not count! He won’t even notice. However, putting a pink streak in your hair for a day will shock him and make him wonder what you will do next! Am I making any sense? Do you think I’m crazy?

That’s the point. He likes you a little wacky and unpredictable. It keeps him excited and wanting to know what you may do next. He thinks you are capable of anything! He doesn’t need to stray because he has everything he could ever need in a woman right here!

Don’t go overboard - I say once a week, but you can judge best based on his reaction.

This is why it works

Men, like you, fantasize all the time about what they don’t have. We want a slut, but we want a librarian. We want an extrovert to party with, but we want an introverted shy girl to stay in with. We want a motivated woman who has a great career, but we want a lazy girl on a Sunday afternoon.

By changing one thing a week, you can provide all this to him in spades, and it’s fun! In the real world, men get one color of M&M…just blue or red. Change this and give him all the colors in the package!

I’ll get all kinds of email saying things like, “Gregg, you’re telling me to change who I am.”

No! I’m saying role play a little and have some fun. You will be amazed how powerful this strategy can be to keep his eyes on only you! You have this capability, but your craziness usually is reserved for your close friends. You act crazy with your friends, so act crazy with him once in a while too! I teach guys this too and they have great success.

In fact, let’s turn the tables for a minute.

I argue that a woman needs several types of guys in her life for total happiness:

A gay guy. This is the man you can talk to just like your girlfriends. He wants to hear all about the gossip, sex and your latest nail color. He understands when you are upset and will cry with you. You can text him five times in ten seconds and he will counter in spades.

An alpha pretty boy. This is the guy you do the horizontal mambo with. He pleasures you. He’s got the ripped abs and the broad shoulders. This man isn’t the brightest bulb in the closet, but who cares?! He is six-foot-two with dreamy blue eyes and he can carry you over his shoulder like a scarf.

The ugly old successful guy. This is the man who worships you. He will do anything for you. He provides for you. He is just happy to be a part of your life and hang around you. He tells his friends you are his girl and you are ok with it even though you never have sex. He buys you clothes, jewelry, makes your car payment and pays for dates with the alpha pretty boy. He doesn’t know about the alpha pretty boy and he will never find out.

Now I know this is a silly analogy, and maybe a little sexist, but my point is this–a good partner can be all of these men. Using my example above, I teach men to listen to women like the gay guy, make love like the alpha pretty boy and provide like the ugly old successful guy.

In your case, changing one thing a week helps you become a different woman to a man, thus satisfying his needs too. You keep him challenged and stay mysterious so he never gets bored!

Single?

If you’re single, you should do the same. It keeps your experiences alive and it keeps you involved in new social circles, exposing you to quality men. I know, you have your routines you’ve grown comfortable with, but I’m just asking for something new and different once a week. If you are single, you can try some of these ideas:

• Go to a new coffee spot.
• Check out a different place for an after-work drink.
• Join a new gym (get a day pass).
• Sign up for a class at your local college.
• Volunteer at the local animal shelter.
• Take a surfing lesson.
• Grab Chinese food and a comedy show with a friend.
• Jump on a Carnival cruise for singles.

Try anything which is fresh and breaks your routine. Doing this may include something which does not involve social interaction, but may lead to it eventually. Reading a book on a subject which interests you is a great start and could lead to a new hobby. I once picked up a book about living out of an RV. I don’t know if I will ever do it, but it sounds like fun, and it would be a great way to see the country. This led to me an RV show where I met some cool people.