WhatsApp Group: How You Doin’???
ANDILE: OMG, how gorgeous is that photo of you?
LORI: Thanks
GUY: Serious, how amazing do you look?
LORI: Okay, brace yourselves . . . because you won’t believe it
LORI: I am going to the dance
GUY: With JAKE?!?!
ANDILE: OMG!
LORI: No, not with him. With Thembi
LORI: Her boyfriend was cheating on her
ANDILE: As they always do
GUY: Don’t bring your crap into this Andile
LORI: What crap? What happened?
ANDILE: Well Mr. “I’m not gay” had another “I’m not gay” fling with Trevor
LORI: The saxophone player???
GUY: I am so tempted to say something about blowing a horn, but I won’t!
LORI: Ha-hah! You just did!
ANDILE: Can we stop mocking my broken heart here and get back to the story please
LORI: Okay. Sorry. So Thembi broke up with the douchebag, so we said we would go together
GUY: When is the dance?
LORI: This Friday
GUY: Interesting . . .
LORI: What?
GUY: Will Jake be there?
LORI: Probably
My phone beeped while I was texting.
LORI: Hang on, it’s him
GUY: Ooooh
LORI:
JAKE: Hey
I checked Jake’s message.
My heart fluttered and I felt an instant blush.
LORI: Hi
JAKE: Nice Insta post
LORI: Thanks
There was a lull in the conversation, and I watched the little typing dots start and stop over and over again. I held my breath, waiting for the message that didn’t seem to come. And then when it did I felt disappointment.
JAKE: Did you see the pics from Natasha’s vigil?
LORI: I was there
JAKE: You did that
JAKE: You made the whole city come together like that
LORI: You helped
JAKE: Barely . . . that was all you
LORI: Thanks
There was another lull and I could feel him wanting to say something, and me wanting to say something and neither of us saying anything and then . . .
JAKE: You look beautiful
JAKE: In your post
My heart thumped in my chest.
LORI: Thanks
JAKE: Is that for dance?
LORI: Um, sort of. I guess
JAKE: Sort of?
LORI: Well, I wasn’t going to go, but Thembi broke up with her BF and so we’re going together
JAKE: Oh
JAKE: So you have a date then?
LORI: Well, it’s Thembi
JAKE: I thought you weren’t going to go?
JAKE: I thought dances weren’t your thing?
LORI: Well, I wasn’t
JAKE: And now you are?
LORI: Yes
JAKE: With Thembi?
LORI: Well, yes
LORI: And you, are you going with Amber?
JAKE: NO
JAKE: What makes you think that?
LORI: You said it at Kirstenbosch
JAKE: I said she asked me. Not that I was going with her
LORI: Well, I mean, you can
JAKE: I know I can, maybe I don’t want to go with her
LORI: You don’t?
Another lull pushed its way into our conversation and I sat there shaking my head. What was happening? It felt like this conversation was sliding somewhere and I didn’t know how to stop it. He seemed angry, the tone of his messages short and sharp. After a while he finally typed.
JAKE: I’ll probably go on my own . . .
Dot, dot, dot. Again. Crap! I wished that somewhere out there was a guide to interpreting all these dots. What did they mean? So I did the only thing I could think of.
LORI: . . .
JAKE: ?
LORI: ?
JAKE: Huh?
LORI: Okay
I said it, although I didn’t know what I was saying okay to.
JAKE: Okay?
LORI: Cool
LORI: I got to go. I’m on another chat
JAKE: Cool
LORI: Bye
I lowered my phone. That conversation had confused the hell out of me, and I felt like I needed someone to weigh in on it, so I took some screen grabs and sent them to the guys.
ANDILE: OMG, are you blind?
ANDILE: He was asking you to go with him to the dance
LORI: No he wasn’t
ANDILE: Uh . . . yes he was
GUY: He was very clearly hinting. Not very well. But that’s guys for you. They suck at hinting
LORI: I don’t think so
LORI: Not after what happened
ANDILE: ?
LORI: We kind of kissed
ANDILE: What? Tell us
LORI: I don’t know. It just happened . . .
LORI: And then I sort of ran away
GUY: Why?
LORI: IDK. IDK. I guess . . . I felt . . . IDK!
GUY: That’s a lot of IDKs. Which leads me to believe you really like him?!
ANDILE: She obviously likes him
ANDILE: And now she needs to message him right back and ask him to the dance
LORI: I can’t do that
GUY: Why, you’re a hot, cool chick, asking a hot, cool dude to the dance—who you already kissed
LORI: IDK
GUY: Stop saying IDK
I put my phone down. I was confused. Hang on, had I just done that again? My inner insecurities screamed so loudly at me because I may have just turned down an invitation to the summer dance with Jake. Was he even inviting me? I reread our strange message exchange three times to see if I had missed something. But I still wasn’t sure.
I took a deep breath and lowered my fingers to the phone. I could ask him, though, right? As friends, obviously. He could come with Thembi and me. Three friends going to a dance together. Platonic. I typed the message to him slowly, carefully choosing every single word. I read it over and over again, but just as I was about to press Send, I chickened out.
I sighed and lay back down on my bed. Clearly it was going to take more than drawing some shapes on my body and wearing a pretty dress to fix me. My confidence had waned again. I tried to grab it back, but the grains had left my fingers and were slipping away again. Why was this something that was so hard to hold on to? It was so hard to find, and when you had it, you’d think you would clutch onto it as if it was the most precious thing in the world.