15. Safe


 

A sense of safety is missing from the life of everyone who is anxious. Toward the end of my induction of a patient who is anxious, reluctant, or uncomfortable, I don’t hesitate to say “You’re safe here, and I won’t let anything happen to you. It’s all right to go as deep as you need to go to solve this problem.”

One definition of anxiety is that it is a chronic state of fear, and an unending problem for an anxious person is the feeling that “I have to be on guard to protect myself.” What a relief to be told in trance that you can suspend that feeling for a little while, and be safe, because I will protect you. It builds rapport.