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I learned about propinquity when dating. You tend to date and marry those that are geography close to you. This was before the internet and dating sites. So it was my truth at the time. Location also effects your failure factor. For example if you want to be a world renowned nuclear physicist it might pay off to be near or work for a nuclear facility. If you want to be the best actor in the world but you want to live in Cheyenne Wyoming this choice might limit your ability to achieve your goal. If you wonder why you don’t have an acting career and all of the bling of success while living in Wyoming it might serve you to move. Again your choice, but doing what you are passionate about and choosing how to pursue that can limit your options or expand them. Again the failure factor might be your location or your propinquity to what you want to do (opportunity).

In fact one of my reasons in becoming an author was the realization that successful authors can live where ever they want. I hoped that I could support my family through writing while living in Wyoming. So in some respects the choice to move to Wyoming from Seattle plaid into the cascade of decisions that lead to me writing this book about failure now.

I’m not going to sugar coat it. It was a hard decision to move to Wyoming and it is the kind of decision that haunts you when you have big dreams and you think risking it all is the recipe for success. That kind of thinking makes family life hard, if not impossible. Making that choice then in my early 30’s did something for me. It helped to build a value system and strength that I never knew I had.