Susannah Elmhirst to Lady Margaret

The Rectory, Lambeth, 20 June 1866

My very dear Margaret,

I trust you will forgive the informality of my method of address, but I cannot think of you in any other way. I have been trying to compose this letter since Sunday, when I arrived home to find my brother in a distraught state, but have found myself struggling to find the right words. Sebastian disclosed the gist of the painful conversation you had. I confess I had guessed how matters stood between you, though I had no idea that he had been so foolish gone so far as to declare himself. My brother, while in some ways very practical and worldly, has a romantic streak, and no idea of the expectations your family will have invested in you. I confess, I was surprised to hear that you had allowed his hopes to flourish. For what it’s worth, and difficult though it must have been, I think you made the right decision, for both your sakes.

Sebastian has thrown himself into his parish duties. I know you well enough, Margaret, to surmise that his well-being will be your first concern. Rest assured that I will take care of him as I always do. He had no idea what your own plans were. Whatever they are, I hope one day we will meet again. It has been a privilege and a pleasure to know you.

This has been such a difficult letter to write. If there is anything I can do for you, now or in the future, please do not hesitate to ask. I consider you a friend, and will miss you greatly.

With my very best wishes for the future,

Susannah Elmhirst