Charlotte, Duchess of Buccleuch, to Lady Margaret

Drumlanrig Castle, 12 August 1867

My dear Margaret,

It is the Glorious Twelfth, but as you can see from my address I have eschewed grouse-shooting this year. Your father has once again accepted the Duke of Sutherland’s invitation to Dunrobin Castle, but I find myself rather disinclined to socialise at present.

I have your sister Mary with me for company. We have been spending time walking in the grounds getting to know each other a little better. A strange phrase to use regarding one’s daughter, perhaps, but long overdue as far as I am concerned. Mary lacks your impetuousness, but neither has she Victoria’s reserve. After long consideration I decided to explain your situation to her—though not, I hasten to add, anything concerning Lambeth! In doing so I have contradicted your father’s instructions, but I find myself quite unable to ignore Mary’s questions. She begged my leave to write to you herself. I reluctantly refused. While your father did not expressly forbid communication, I have no doubt that is what he intended. It would be wrong of me to encourage my youngest daughter to follow the example set by her elder sister, in disobeying her father’s wishes. As for myself, however, I have learned, Margaret, that a mother has a duty to her daughters which can sometimes subvert her duty to her husband. I intend to continue our correspondence if it pleases you.

I will remain at Drumlanrig at least until September, and hope that you will write to me here. You are much missed, Margaret. I pray you do not forget that.

Mama

P.S. Please tell Lady Powerscourt that I am much obliged for her recommendation that I order some table linen from Mr. Ferguson’s factory in Banbridge. The quality of the sample you sent is superb.