The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.
—BILL PHILLIPS
As I’ve been writing this book, I’ve been knitting scarves for my daughters. I’m not an experienced knitter by any stretch of the imagination, but I love challenging myself to learn new things and becoming more proficient in handwork. Plus, I love to multitask. Knitting is a great way to use those moments while I’m chatting with a friend or we’re watching a movie as a family to also do something with my hands.
Ever since I started, my daughter, Kaitlynn has been watching me knit and begging me to teach her. So the other day I pulled out some yarn and needles and we had a knitting lesson. She was eager to learn—so eager, in fact, that she wanted to skip right through the basics and try to make hand warmers (I love that girl’s ambition!).
As I was showing Kaitlynn how to cast on and do the knit stitch, she was getting impatient at how tedious the process was. She quickly flipped ahead to a more difficult pattern in the instruction book and asked if we could please make that. My advice to her had to do with the many life lessons I’ve learned the hard way: “You have to do the little things before you can do the big things.”
This book is made up of suggestions of little things that make up the big picture.
• Remember you are not Superwoman, and release yourself from the pressure to do everything.
• Learn to prioritize what’s most important and focus on the best stuff.
• Set goals and take the right steps to accomplish them.
• Understand the art and importance of discipline to streamline your life and get things done.
• Get ahold of your finances for the right reasons, and manage your money purposefully.
• Take care of your home and day-to-day responsibilities in a simple way so you have time to do things that matter most (like loving on your loved ones).
• Learn how to move forward when distractions, life-changing events, and setbacks occur on your journey of living on purpose.
• Look beyond yourself and make a difference in the needs of those around you and around the world.
• Practice self-care to be a better woman overall.
It might seem that those little goals—like getting to bed on time, exercising consistently, saying no more often, and cutting out physical and calendar clutter—aren’t going to make that big of an impact. I know the feeling. We’re all impatient. We want to run ahead and enjoy that great success, land that amazing job, or knit that incredible pattern. Now.
But it’s rare that you can jump ahead in life and do difficult things (and reap the rewards) if you haven’t first started and mastered the simple things. Yes, it involves doing a lot of the same stuff over and over again. It can be time-consuming and tedious. And it takes time to see progress. But those little things are often the start of very big things.
Just like knitting a beautiful scarf requires doing one stitch at a time, so in your life, you need to do the little things over and over again. Over time, those little things all add together to make a big difference in your life—like the beautiful scarf I finished recently.
I’m delighted you have stayed the course with me on this journey. You may already be experiencing some big changes in your life. Or you might have tabled some of my suggestions and are now finally ready to implement them into your life.
If you have not yet begun to dive in to some of the practices you’ve learned in this book, I encourage you to take the next step and implement the following seven habits that I am confident will change your life. Commit to doing one every week. The habits will build on themselves, and by the end of two months, you’ll be in a much better place than you are now.
If adding a new habit every week for seven weeks seems overwhelming, just pick one to focus on for the next month. Don’t get hung up if it takes you longer than a week to work on a habit. Remember: moving in the right direction, even at a snail’s pace, is still moving forward!
SEVEN HABITS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE
1. Start taking care of yourself. If you don’t put a priority on your health and mental sanity, you will pay for it now and later. Not only will you be constantly overworked, exhausted, and stressed, but you’ll also suffer from the physical and emotional fallout that comes from not making yourself a priority.
2. Go to bed early and get a good night’s rest. Most Americans are severely sleep deprived. It’s no wonder they don’t have passion and purpose for life; they can barely keep their eyes open and their heads from nodding off! Refueling your sleep tank is important to being efficient during the day.
3. Make the most of your mornings. Getting your day off to a great start is one of the best ways to kick-start your productivity. Wake up a little earlier, and spend time building your faith by reading the Bible and praying. Start tackling a few items on your to-do list. Make a goal list for the week. Go for a walk around your neighborhood.
4. Set five small goals. Without goals, all your good intentions amount to nothing. You need concrete, realistic goals if you want to make traction in the right direction.
5. Break down your goals into bite-size pieces. Sometimes a big goal can seem overwhelming. Break down your big goals into monthly, then weekly chunks—things you can accomplish in fifteen to thirty minutes at a time. You’ll instantly transform your goals from daunting to doable.
6. Find an accountability partner. You can’t live life on purpose on your own. Find a friend or two who are willing to keep you on task. Set up regular check-ins, whether online, in person, or over the phone. Share ideas on how to practically engage in an accountability relationship.
7. Replace the TV or Internet surfing with productivity. Feel like you don’t have enough time? Well, you’re not alone. Most Americans feel like they are incredibly strapped for time. But the average American also watches four hours of television per day. If we all invested even half of that time into improving ourselves, working toward our goals, working out, getting more sleep, and so on, think about how much better we’d feel and how much more fulfilled we’d be in life!
SAY HELLO TO A LIFE THAT MATTERS
When I was eleven years old, I committed my life to Christ. From that day forward, I’ve constantly lived with the realization that I only have one shot at life—and that my time on earth is finite.
I didn’t have any amazing gifts or talents. I was pretty much just an average girl who got average grades and lived an average American life. But I wanted something more. I didn’t want to be content with average.
So I started reading voraciously. I set my alarm to get up early. I set goals and worked toward them. I began investing every day thinking of what would matter most at the end of my life. All of those little things added up to a life changed.
At the time, it didn’t seem like it was making a big impact. But now, twenty years later, those daily choices have added up to shape me into where I am today: blogging, writing, speaking, and, most of all, loving my life! Yes, there are hard things. Yes, I make many mistakes. But I get up every day excited about what lies before me. Eager to meet the day and the challenges. Anxious to make a little more traction each day toward bigger goals I have for the future.
No matter your age, your financial situation, your education, or your upbringing, you can live an exceptional life. You can say goodbye to survival mode and hello to a life that matters. A life that makes a difference. A life on purpose!