Midlife, Well-Being
Aging Successfully
Aging is about change, and change is about loss, adaptations, and new beginnings.
There are some things over which you have no or little control that influence your aging. But there is plenty that you can take charge of so that you can fully engage in the aging process and benefit physically, spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally.
People who grow old well focus on the growing and not on the old.
Work, Well-Being
Back-to-Back Meetings All Day
So you have back-to-back meetings all day with incredible demands on your time. All that you read and hear about taking breaks and time for yourself during the day seems totally out of reach. Yet you know you need to take care of yourself while being the consummate professional.
Try these tips for keeping your sanity while achieving your goal.
Create space for health in your back-to-back schedule.
Family, Friends, Partner
Tone It Down
More important than what you say is how you say it.
If you were reading a transcript of conversations you have with your parent, child, lover, or coworker, you might not have any idea about the real meaning of the words. The emotion behind the words is set by your tone.
Think about it. If you are angry, fed up, sarcastic, impatient, intimidating, bored, accusatory, excited, enthusiastic, supportive, or loving, your tone gives the listener a lot of information. However, you may be one of those people who have no idea that your tone is often harsh, mean, or even insulting. Maybe it is what you heard when you were growing up or acquired from frequently being on the defensive. Whatever the reason, it is not OK to continue this negative tone just because it is what you heard or you proclaim it to be “the way I am.”
To keep your sanity when trying to communicate with someone, try these:
Pay attention to how you sound when you talk to someone. Your tone is what people believe.
Friendship
Friendships When There Are Three
What is it about threesomes? Girlfriends, I mean.
Problems form when two women out of three (or more) pair up against the other. You can easily see this dynamic in kids when a nice game of hopscotch is somehow turned upside down when the third friend arrives. One of the three may become manipulative and sets up the other two against each other, which leads to real problems.
The feelings are the same when little girls grow up. Trouble brews and competition escalates when someone feels left out and uncomfortable with the way the friendship is moving. She’ll want to get one of the friendships back to where she thought it was, which may cause unnecessary tension among everyone.
Is there a way to coexist with the “girls,” not take sides, and just have some fun? Here’s how girlfriends can get along when three is usually a crowd.
A friendship of two is not the same as three. You have to accommodate.
Parent
Take Good Care of My Baby
No one should be an isolated caregiver to children. You need the support and occasional company of other adults. Whether a parent or a caregiver in a daycare center or family child care home, everyone needs support, because at times caring for children can be lonely, frustrating, and challenging.
If you are a mother, grandmother, aunt, or friend, save your sanity and the sanity of those you love as you chip in and help parents and other caregivers look after the next generation. When you search for child care:
When you think about having someone care for your child, be mindful of matching your child and the caregiver so your child thrives and the adult is fully engaged.
Well-Being
Finding Time to Meditate
You hear over and over again how valuable meditation is for your peace of mind, emotional stability, and physical health. You don’t deny it, you just don’t feel you have the time to do it.
Images of sitting cross-legged in a mountaintop retreat for three days are relaxing but just unattainable. So how can you begin to allow yourself to even think that meditating is available to you in your hectic life?
Regular meditation soothes the soul and protects you from the negative effects of stress.