Index

Acupuncture, 125

Alcohol(ism), 15, 21, 34, 61, 153

Alzheimer, Dr. Alois, 108

Alzheimer’s Association, 112, 158, 165

Safe Return Program, 138

Telephone number, 165-166

Alzheimer’s Disease/dementia

alternative treatments, 125, 128-129

behavioral issues, 135-138

blended families and, 54-55

causes of, 24-26, 114, 118

cheering up patients with, 36, 48-49, 97, 130-132

children/grandchildren and, 54-55, 74-75, 145

documenting time with patients, 97-103

fear, 98

helping them cope, 96-103

stress/danger signs, 102-103

teenagers, 99-102

conversations about, 51-52, 176

cost of treatment, vii, 18, 53, 93, 100, 116, 158, 170-179

death, 126-127, 166-167

delusions, 58, 138-139, 142, 161

diagnosing/diagnosis of, 74, 93-94, 96, 108, 122, 125

self-, 109

tests for, 113-114

discipline and, 59, 136

dressing, 115, 116, 134, 151-153

drug therapy, 25, 29, 113, 116-118, 129, 134, 139-142, 155, 161

how drugs work, 119-120

prescriptions for, 124, 140-141, 161

side effects, 120, 123

early-onset, 56, 96, 108

eating problems associated with, 126, 148-149

educating yourself about, 25, 81-82

family history of, 51, 81-82, 123

hearing loss, 134

independence and, 85, 129, 144, 151

keeping calm patients with, 21, 134, 135

late-onset, 108

legal issues regarding, 81, 116, 126, 158, 173-179

measuring progress of, 122-123

new treatments, 120-121

parents with, 72-82, 140

personal hygiene and, 62-63, 73, 115-117, 150-151, 166

bathing, 150-151

adult diapers, 140, 151

repetitive behavior associated with, 36, 116, 146-147

safety, 145-146

siblings and, 75-79

sleep patterns and, 116, 129, 139

spouses with, 4, 51-71, 80, 140

children’s input regarding, 54-55

stages of, 41, 61, 92, 112-117, 120, 155

early stages, 18, 29, 51, 58-60, 129, 163, 174

personal, 117

Stage One, 112, 114

State Two, 112-113, 114-115

Stage Three, 115

Stage Four (Mild Cognitive Impairment), 115

Stage Five (Moderately Severe Cognitive Decline), 115

Stage Six (Severe Cognitive Decline), 115-116

State Seven (Very Severe Cognitive Decline), 116-117

sundowning, 4, 139-141

tracking patients with, 137-138

treating, 107-127

violent behavior, 154-155

wandering, 116, 136-137

warning signs of, 111-112

Amazon.com, 11

American Academy of Neurology, 113

American Medical Association, 124

American Nurses Credentialing Center, 124

Area Agency on Aging (AAA), 158

Aromatherapy, 38-39, 121, 128-129

Art therapy, 128, 130, 135

Assisted Living Facilities (ALF), 172

Barnes & Noble, 11

Bathing Without a Battle, 151

Bedsores, 169-170

Boy Scouts, 9

Brain scans, 108, 114, 121

Breathing exercises, 128

Brookdale Hospital, 128-129

Care Agreement, 177

Caregiver, 4, 79-80

boredom, 22

“burnout,” 40-42, 83

companionship for, 66-67

death, 4

depression, 4, 150, 157

health, 44-48, 50, 85-86, 127, 157

independence, 8, 10

mental fatigue, 22-23

mental state, 46, 157

professional help for, 162

reducing, 4-13

siblings and, 74-79

stress, 4-5, 62, 79, 80, 103, 162-163

combating/reducing, 38, 61, 147

drugs for, 38

from discrimination, 70-71

from sex, 63-64

physical signs of, 37-38

test, 160-161

Caregivers, professional, 83-95, 143

interviewing, 88-89, 92, 161

job description, 90

monitoring, 87

part-time, 84, 92, 161

references, 89

relationships with, 84-85, 90-92

when to find, 83-84

Chiropractors, 125

Cholinesterase inhibitors, 118, 119-120

Chores, 12-13, 45

teenagers and, 101-102

Columbia Teachers College, 59

Communicating

Alzheimer’s patients and, 36, 38, 51, 62, 92, 116, 131-135, 154, 168-169

body language, 62, 64, 131-134, 150-151

facial expressions, 133

problems with, 113

referential conversations, 168-169

telephone versus computer, 158-160

Computer literacy, 10, 42, 159-160, 179

confusion, 112, 118

Could It Be B12?, 125

Creutzfedlt-Jakob disease, 108

Dementia,

definition of, 107-108

misdiagnosis of, 108-110

vascular, 108

Department of Motor Vehicles, 123

Depression, 34, 110, 125

caregiver, 4, 150, 157

sending loved one to nursing facility, 34, 40, 53-54, 169

medications for, 34, 38

signs of, 34

Diary

of care recipient’s behavior, 153

time-management, 43-480

Doctors

communicating with, 81, 92, 94-95, 114, 122-123

drugs lists for, 122

house calls, 122

staff, 95

support, 123-124

visits, helping care recipient deal with, 121-124

your relationship with, 93-95

Driving, 123-124, 143

Drug therapy, 15, 25, 29, 113, 116-118, 129, 134, 139-142, 155, 161

alternatives, 121

for depression, 34, 38

for memory loss, 118

how drugs work, 119-120

inappropriate use of, 171

lists for, 122

prescriptions for, 124, 140-141, 161

side effects, 120, 123

Elder law, 25, 173-174, 178

Elder-proofing your house, 145-146

Elder Rage, 139, 142-145

Electronic brain stimulation, 120

Environment, 38-39

facility, 128-132

role of, 128-132

Estate planning, 176-179

Feelings, 14-40

agitation, 134-135, 138-139, 142-143, 147, 168

anger, 14, 17, 18-20, 36, 59, 171

depression, 34, 110, 125

envy/jealousy, 14, 55, 65-66

fear, 24-26, 51, 81-82

frustration, 18, 31, 35-36, 58-59, 130, 134-135, 154

causes of, 35, 37-38

getting professional help for, 39-40

gratefulness, 29-31

guilt, 14-18, 40, 52, 78, 80, 145, 156, 166, 171

appropriate, 16-17

inappropriate, 16-17

loneliness, 31-33, 56, 170

mourning/grieving, 15, 33, 166

repressing, 14-16, 155-156

sadness, 14-15, 34, 155-156, 166

shame, 26-28

tiredness, 22-23

Food and Drug Administration, 118

Geriatric Nurse Practitioners, 124

Geriatrician, 124

Geriatric Psychiatrist, 124

Gerontologist, 124

Geropsychologist, 124

Girl Scouts, 9

Globe and Mail, 29-30

Grimaldi & Yeung, 173

Health care proxy, 174-175

Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, 174

Healthboards, 160

Hebrew Home for the Aged, 128-129, 132, 139, 172

Help,

accepting offers of, 6-8

activities, 11-12

asking for, 7-8, 42-43

in-home services, 81, 163-164

organizations, 158

reciprocating, 10-12

registry, 8-10, 13

turning down, 76-77

Hobbies, 7, 132

Holidays, 149-150

Hospice, 126

Huntington’s disease, 108, 154

Inhibition, loss of, 5, 142, 152, 154

masturbation, open, 64-65, 152

saying inappropriate things, 27

Internet, 49, 159-160

asking for help via, 9, 42

researching facilities on, 17

Journal of the American Medical Association, 4

Judgment, poor, 112

Kiwanis, 9

Kleptomania, 154

Labeling objects, 146

Laughter, 128

Leckie, Robin, 29-30, 57-58, 109-110

The Legacy, 165

Lions Club, 9

Losing things, 112

MRI, 108

Massage therapy, 121, 125, 128, 170

Medicaid, 177-179

eligibility for, 177-178

Medicare, 126, 170-171, 177

Meditation, 128

Memantine, 118, 120

Memory Impairment Screen, 113

Memory loss, 5, 39, 109, 111, 115-116, 168

medications to help with, 118

Mini Mental Status Exam, 113

Mood/personality changes, 112-115, 123

Music, 11, 38, 135

making a CD of, 75, 144-145

Musically Speaking, 38, 75

National Family Caregiver Support Program (NFCSP), 158

National Institute on Aging, 112

NeedyMeds website, 42

Neurofibrillary tangles, 108

Neurologists, 125

Neuropsychologists, 125

Neurotic plaques, 108

New York Times, 15, 139

Nursing Home Transparency Act, 171

Nursing homes, 128-132, 168-172

abuse in, 155, 169

choosing, 53, 172

communicating with, 169

cost of staying in, 18, 53, 93, 170-171, 176-178

environment, 128-132

guilt/depression from sending loved one to, 34, 40, 53-54, 169

professional help with sending loved one to, 39-43, 124

protection from other patients in, 170

quality of care in, 170

rationales/reasons for sending loved one to, 18, 26, 54, 116-117, 141

researching, 17

spouses in, 52-54

staff, 92-93, 169

Nutritionists, 125

O’Connor, Sandra Day, 55, 65-66

Older American Act, 158

Paranoia, 117, 154

Parents with Alzheimer’s, 72-82

history with, 72-73

making a memory book with, 73-74

verbal abuse from, 72-73

visiting, 80-81

Parkinson’s disease, 108, 120, 125

Peer pressure, 14, 100-101

Pet therapy, 121, 129

Photo albums, 11

Power of attorney (POA), 81, 126, 174-175

Reasoning, problems with, 111-113

Religion, 28, 30, 67-68

Rewarding yourself, 4-6, 12, 45-46, 144-145, 149-150

inappropriately, 21

Self-discipline, 20

Seminara, Joanne, 173

Senile plaques, 108

Sleep, 4

Social workers, 40

Socializing, 66-68, 164

at work, 50

fear of, 26-28

in-person visits, 32

scheduled conversations, 20

telephone calls, 32, 44, 145

videophone calls, 32

with other Alzheimer’s patients, 135

with yourself, 69-70

Spatial/depth perception, 112-113, 136-137, 150

Spouses with Alzheimer’s Disease, 4, 51-71, 166

children’s input regarding, 54-55

fighting with, 58-59, 62

gay couples and, 70-71

marital status and, 55-57

new relationships, 56

sex, 56-57, 59-64, 153-154

alternatives to, 61

giving up, 61-62

hypersexuality, 61

in facilities, 65-66, 152-154

inappropriate behavior, 152-154

masturbation, 64-65, 152

rejecting, 63-64

restrictions to, 60-62

Steuben Day Parade, 29

Support

family, 75-82

groups, 32, 124, 135, 158, 163-167

physical, 31

social, 31

telephone, 165-166

where to find, 83, 159-160, 163-165

Task completion, difficulty in, 111

Television watching, 21, 33, 48-49

timebanks.org, 10

Twitter, 32

Verbal abuse/arguing, 42, 19, 72-73, 89, 117, 144

Vitamins, 118, 125

Volunteers, 7

finding, 44-45

unreliable, 13

volunteering yourself, 50

Walking, 130

Well Spouse Association, 158

Wills, 174

Yoga, 121, 129-13