It is well documented that as men we are very logical beings. While not necessarily averse to risk, many of us would prefer to weigh the pros and cons of a given situation to make a proper risk analysis before taking action. When meeting and attracting women, however, and in wider aspects of life, this isn’t always possible or even desirable.
In his recent book World Order, Henry Kissinger notes that political decisions “must be made before it is possible to know what the outcome may be.” This philosophy is equally effective in game.
We all like certainty and to know where we are in any given scenario, but if you want to get good at game, you have to approach a great many women. There’s no easy way around it, and in doing so, you will quickly learn that there is no such thing as certainty. Every part of the interaction is subject to her whims as well as a myriad of other external influences.
For example, when you walk up to a girl, tap her on the shoulder, and start talking, you have absolutely no idea whether she’s going to be receptive or not. If the conversation goes well and you whip out your phone to take her number, you have no clue whether she will give it to you or refuse.
When you meet her for a drink, at some point you will go in for a kiss. Will she allow it, or will she turn her cheek away? In each of these instances, you are compelled to act—or lead—without having any idea whether it will be efficacious or not.
It may not seem obvious, but the desire to know everything in advance and to control events can mess up what otherwise might have been a promising interaction. When we launch ourselves into game, we soon realise that we are in a slipstream being buffeted about by women and circumstances. This can feel uncomfortable, and it is natural that we should seek the comfort of old certainties, but it is only by pressing forward into uncertainty that we can expect to make gains.
It my view, in modern Western cities, the key to game is flexibility because essentially relegated to playing what Roosh V calls “clown game,” we have little choice but to dance to the tune that women play if we hope to get laid. In the entropic urban sprawl, girls with differing agendas and schedules come and go. The canny player will live entirely in the moment, ready to go along with the flow if that particular flow is likely to lead to sex at the end of the night.
While walking through London some time ago, I came upon a pretty Swiss girl, a tourist spending a few days here with her friends. I approached her, and we started talking. It turned out that her friends had abandoned her in a nightclub, and she was now walking around, looking for somewhere to eat. It was quite late, and I wasn’t aware of any restaurants still open in the vicinity. Still, I took her hand and told her that we would go for food together. I then led her towards Waterloo Bridge, talking the whole time.
I had no clue whether or not there would be a restaurant open when we got to the other side of the bridge. What I did know was that my apartment was in that general direction. In other words, I went with the flow and took action, without any certainty of how things would pan out. Luckily, the strategy paid off. When we reached the centre of the bridge, we made out, and shortly afterwards all talk of food was forgotten, as we took a taxi back to my place.
My intention in telling this story is not to brag but to illustrate my point. Had I faltered and got hung up on the girl’s logical request, there’s a good chance I would have lost the lay. As it was, I led her, going with the flow and having no idea of how things might end up. It could have been that faced with no McDonald’s and a long walk back to her hotel, she would have slapped me round the face and walked off into the night. By simply sticking with it, however, and even though uncertain of the outcome of my strategy, I was able to turn the situation around to my advantage.
If you want to achieve success with today’s girls, you have to be prepared to take a leap of faith. If she suggests taking a cab across town to a gig or calls you up late at night to meet her in a park near her place (as happened to me with another girl a while ago), go with it as long as it doesn’t conflict with anything else more important you might have lined up to do.
I don’t mean that you should supplicate yourself and do anything she wants, but I do mean that if you have made up your mind to get laid you must commit to following events though to their conclusion.
You may not be quite certain how an individual scenario will turn out, but don’t sweat it. Turn up anyway, and be confident in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. You may not score every time, but you will gain valuable experience that will help you in the future. More often than not, though, you’ll be surprised. You don’t always need a road map to reach the finish line.