Daygame is now firmly established as a discipline in its own right, with gurus specialising in it and offering their own particular take. In the UK, a group of men even espouse something called the “London Day Game Model,” a set of principles and actions designed to optimise one’s results while talking to girls in the street and in malls and coffee bars.
While I can see that such categorisation makes it easier for men to consume game material, the sheer quantity of which can appear overwhelming at first, my own view is that while there are differences in how best to approach sets in the day and night, you should nevertheless view game as a holistic set of principles leading to a skill set that can be used at any time of the day.
That said, last weekend I went on a daytime adventure in Berlin, cold approaching twenty-five girls around the Kurfurstendamm shopping district. Doing so, I was reminded how indispensable male horniness —perhaps more usefully termed the male hunter instinct —is when one is looking to meet women, prompting me to share some thoughts on the topic here.
While you can get lucky in the daytime and meet a cute girl you hit it off with straight from “Hello, can you tell me where the pet shop is?” in general, what makes for a productive daygame session is many approaches in a short space of time.
Berlin is the second-largest city in the EU, with 3.5 million residents (after London, which has 8 million) and the Ku’damm is its busiest shopping street. In a three-hour session, I was able to approach twenty-five girls, collecting phone numbers and sometimes Facebook profiles.
Received daytime wisdom dictates that the best results are to be found in cities with a million or more residents. but wherever you find yourself, ensure that there are sufficient targets so that you can burn through a large quantity of sets as quickly as possible.
This isn’t intended to be a daygame instruction guide, but here’s a quick rundown of the simplest workable method. Walk around, concentrating in particular on those stores that are popular with cute girls, such as Topshop, H&M, and Forever 21. When you see a lady you like, approach her, ideally from the front.
Say “hello” with enough impact to stop her. Tell her that you think that she looks very nice and make some observation about her. Perhaps she’s wearing an interesting hat or looks a little like Selena Gomez. Maybe she’s walking with exaggerated purpose, or perhaps she’s ambling along like a sloth. Whatever it is, pick something out and make a cheeky little joke about it so that she smiles.
Shake her hand and hold it for a little longer than necessary. Maintain strong eye contact throughout. Transition the conversation to more general topics, but ensure that you tease her lightly and remain both challenging and a little mysterious. After a few minutes, tell her that you have to meet your friends, but that you should meet up again. Pass her your cellphone and tell her (don’t ask) to enter her number.
The above is a very brief summation of my method. Does it work every time? No. Remember, though, that most well-known daygame writers have calculated an 11% approach-to-notch success ratio.
Many times you will approach a girl and she will make an excuse and move on without engaging with you, or she will claim to have a boyfriend or raise some other objection. This doesn’t matter. Accept that it’s part of the game and continue. Why? Because repetition and momentum are your friends.
Repetition + Horniness = Success
In the early part of your daygame session, scoring phone numbers or having great conversations is not the aim. Repetition is the aim. Why? If you attend to the task with vigour and determination, you will find that interacting with a succession of hot girls, even briefly, makes you feel horny, and that horniness gives you impetus . The idea of approaching suddenly becomes less of a chore and more a pleasure. You recognise that it is only by approaching that you will have the chance to sleep with one of these cute girls, which all of a sudden has become a significantly more urgent desire. Your horniness has all of a sudden been converted into momentum, which when it manifests itself in game is incredibly powerful.
At the end of a good session, you will find that your energy levels are high and conversations go more smoothly. Ideally, you will hit a sweet spot where it feels like you can do no wrong and every girl you speak to is drawn into your world and is unable to destabilise you with various nonsense.
An example of momentum in action: In Berlin, I went out intending to do ten street stops. At ten, I was just hitting my stride, so I decided to carry on. When I hit twenty, I was getting phone numbers galore and decided to continue to twenty-five. At the end of the session, I’d been on an instant date with a cute French girl and had a number of solid leads to follow up on my next trip to the city.
Whatever your particular approach to daygame, unless you happen to get lucky very early in a session, you should always aim to complete a large number of approaches. Not only is this great practice, forcing you to come up with conversational gambits on the fly and consequently sharpening your social skills, but it also has the effect of increasing your levels of horniness, your hunter instinct and testosterone, and improving your results as a direct result.