Most men who know about game will be familiar with “shit tests,” a fairly unpleasant term for those annoying tests girls throw in to try to determine a your fitness as a sexual partner. While these may be annoying, current game thinking posits that they are actually great opportunities to shine by smashing the test and proving your “alphaness” at the same time.
There is one particular test, however, that more experienced players are often exposed to that is particularly irksome but that must be negotiated if you hope to progress in the higher ranks of game.
To recap for anyone who wasn’t listening at the back, shit tests are those annoying little curveballs that women throw into interactions, basically to try to determine if you are really the rock-solid player you’re trying to be. To men who are just starting out, it seems counterintuitive that a girl should start being deliberately obstructive when she actually otherwise appears to like you. In fact, it’s entirely logical.
Girls want the highest-quality partners that their SMV can attract. When a man walks up to her and does a pretty good job of conveying high value, she will be pleased but cautious. Is he really what he claims to be? To make sure, she will drop in “beta bait” questions such as the following:
The danger for the newbie is to fold into the girl’s frame and say what he thinks she wants to hear, e.g., “No, I’m not a player, young lady. I’m a very nice young man who would like to wife you up and buy you a car and a nice house with a white picket fence in the suburbs.” Of course, this would be fatal. The girl is testing to see if you have the confidence of your convictions.
Generally speaking, the less advanced a guy is, the fewer shit tests he will have to overcome, which is mostly because women tend to take pity on men they regard as weaker and so won’t give them as hard a time. Whatever you do, never fall into the trap of imagining that not getting tests at all is a good thing—quite the opposite. In fact, if anything it suggests that your game isn’t on point, your demeanour not sufficiently dominant.
If you are getting tests, that’s good because it indicates that you are in the game. The best strategy is either to agree and amplify, e.g., “Am I a player? Hell, yeah, you wanna join my six other girls back home?” or simply smile and ignore the tests by changing the subject.
This latter strategy is increasingly the one I use, and it produces good results. Plus, it also has the advantage of not having any complicated lines to remember. Considerable material is available on the best ways to get around tests, but sometimes the best policy is simply to do nothing and make her squirm with embarrassment for having been so gauche before your oak-like serenity.
One particular test, though, is in a different league from the rest, and it is not a test that new or even lower-intermediate men are likely to get on a regular basis because it pertains to the direct expression of sexual desire for the girl, and most men are simply too scared of being up front about what they want (sex) and thus hide their true urges behind a cloud of friend zone-worthy blabber.
I recall once reading on a website that game nirvana for a man was being able to take an elegant young woman out, and over a glass of wine tell her he would like to bend her over and fuck her. At the time, new to the game, such brazen honesty seemed entirely impossible. I could have more easily conceived of knitting a stepladder to the moon than of doing any such thing.
Times have changed. These days after endless repetition in similar situations I am able to be up front sexually with women, and arguably perhaps I go too far sometimes. As horny as you can get a girl in a bar by whispering what you’re going to do to her when you get her home, it can backfire when her anti-slut defence wall goes up, she goes home, and you’re left alone.
Now I tend to follow my horniness and tell girls precisely what I’m thinking, particularly if we’re on a date and the potential for sex is imminent. This has left me open to the nuclear shit test, though, which goes something like this:
“You just want to get laid. You’re desperate for sex.”
There’s something a little unfair about this and not only because it’s not true. These days I am never “desperate” for sex, as it can so easily be acquired elsewhere. No, it’s unfair because the girl is calling me out in spite of what I’m doing is actually pretty alpha.
I’m willing to bet that most of the girls I’ve dated have rarely been with a man who has had the confidence to be so up front with them right off the bat (in fact, many girls have told me this themselves), but that degree of masculine honesty is not enough. They still seek to destabilise me by aiming straight for the central pillar of my approach, undercutting the idea that it might be sheer courage that allows me to be so forthright and suggesting it’s desperation instead.
The female psyche is nothing if not clever.
The first thing to say is that if you get the nuclear test you are by no means at a disadvantage. I have slept with pretty much every girl who’s thrown something like this at me.
The number one strategy, as always, is simply not to back down. Whatever you do you can’t, at this stage, try to backpedal and say that you’re not actually interested in sex. That would be ridiculous and counterproductive and not true to your masculine self. What you have to decide is whether to continue on the course you’ve already set (i.e., rapid escalation) or whether to pull back a little and allow the situation to breathe.
Deciding what to do really comes down to calibration, something that cannot be taught easily in a book. At the same time, if you are eliciting such a test from a girl it is likely that you are pretty experienced already, so draw on that to decide whether or not you think she might be up for something that night. If so, then proceed as before. If not, you need to apply the brakes. Here’s what you say:
“Of course, I want to have sex with you. I’m a man, you’re a woman, and I’m attracted to you. It’s only natural.”
Then you should lean back, ensure that you’re not touching her, and turn the conversation to more neutral topics. In this way, you will defuse the test while still maintaining your frame, which is vital if you are to pick up where you left off later that night or on another occasion.
Remember that shit tests from girls are never a bad thing. In fact, they show that you’re proceeding along the right lines. Keep going, and just be very careful not to bend your position to suit what you think she wants to hear. Doing so will mean you will inevitably lose the girl.