There are two common misconceptions about game that come up time and again. The first is that game is simply a collection of cheap tricks, chat-up lines, and “negs” rather than an holistic set of self-development principles that includes—but is by no means limited to—advice on how to talk to girls. The second is that game is a waste of time, and that those who engage in it are doing little more than subjugating themselves to already entitled women.
It probably comes as no surprise to you that I strongly refute both of these positions, but here I wanted to provide a slightly different perspective on game, namely that engaging in it will improve many key areas of your life as a natural side effect alongside your success with women. To that end, I discuss below five ways in which game has improved my life and will undoubtedly improve yours too.
1. Vastly Improved Confidence
Let’s be completely honest for a moment. Cold approaching women one has never met before in the street or in clubs and bars is perhaps one of the most nerve-wracking things a man can do. Fear of rejection is hardwired into us, as in prehistoric times it could mean ostracization from the tribe or even death at the hands of a jealous alpha male.
While these eventualities are remote in 2017, the vestiges of our primordial terror remain. We’ve all heard stories of ex-military men, marines, and the like who have faced incredible danger on the battlefield but who nevertheless are daunted by the prospect of having to approach some skinny 23-year-old girl in Starbucks. So the struggle is real for all of us.
However, the upsides of this are enormous. If you are able to marshal your fear and approach anyway, you will soon find that your confidence skyrockets. Not only are you doing something that perhaps 95% of the rest of the male population lacks the courage to do, but you are also exposing yourself to many more social situations than the average person.
As a result, you will find that ordinary, everyday situations, such as socialising at a party or dealing with people generally, will no longer faze you. After all, since you’re doing something that would terrify most of your peers, everything else is going to seem pretty much easy in comparison. Certainly, I personally find that after a good daygame session there is really very little that can intimidate me in the rest of my social life.
2. Better Storytelling Ability
If you go out into a busy city centre and stop 100 girls to talk to them, you’d better have something to say either prepared or off the cuff. When you’re standing there before her gaze like a rabbit in the headlights, it’s very easy to dry up and run out of conversational fuel. The great thing, though, is that if you approach regularly you will naturally get better at improvisation and storytelling simply because you will have to.
What must be understood about so-called storytelling in the context of game, business, and socialising (and it is crucial for all three) is that you don’t have to be JK Rowling or Steven King. No, storytelling for regular social interactions really means making a very little go a very long way. With enough skill and practice, you can make a story about how you had to take some shirts to the dry cleaners fascinating and suspenseful.
Storytelling is a wonderful ability to cultivate since most social and business scenarios are energised by it. If you can tell a story engagingly and captivate your listener, you will be considered intelligent, creative, likable, and interesting, all very much plus points in whatever sphere you’re concentrating.
3. Improved business skills
Storytelling is only one of several key transferable business skills you will see improve if you get seriously into game. Since your confidence will improve, you will also find that your public speaking will get immeasurably better. You will find recording podcasts or videos a lot easier. You will become naturally better with clients and suppliers.
If you are cold approaching regularly and keeping a record of your progress, you will have nurtured both discipline and accountability. You will have interacted with a large number of people, which will mean that your insights into current consumers will be improved. You will likely be less phased by tough negotiations or having to deal with difficult people. Given how intimidating cold approaching can be when you start, if you can do that, you can certainly handle a difficult customer or boss.
4. Sharper Fashion and Grooming
Many men wonder if they should improve their dress sense, grooming, and physique before they go out to approach girls. My advice is start approaching today and you will find that you will naturally begin to improve your overall look anyway. After all, how can you not? Once you start getting immediate live feedback from the marketplace by interacting directly with your customers (girls), you will naturally want to improve your product (yourself) to the best of your ability.
When I started doing game many years ago, I developed a whole new level of interest around my grooming, fashion, and physique. After all, why wouldn’t I? As someone who is continually going up to new, sexy girls, it was absolutely in my best interests to ensure that I looked as sharp as possible at all times. This is an example of how the practice of game itself will naturally lead you to improve your standards in other areas.
5. A Gateway To A Whole New World of Learning
In a related point to the above, getting into meeting and attracting girls opened up a whole new world of learning for me for which I will always be indebted.
Largely as a consequence of the emergence of the Internet, which was developing in tandem with the modern study of game as we know it, men began sharing stories, tips, techniques, and advice with one another online. In time, this advice broadened from simply being about girls to encompassing a broad range of topics that include weight training, nutrition, fashion, business, finance, politics, and even philosophy.
Without a doubt, my interest in game has meant that I have been exposed to wisdom shared by other men on a whole range of topics that has entirely changed the direction of my life, an incredible and unforeseen outcome.
You should by all means get into game because you have a strong desire to get good with women. That is a natural and laudable goal in itself, but you should also realise that it is a path strewn with many other rich fruits, and always keep your eyes and mind open. Game has significantly improved my life in a great many ways, and it will yours, too, if you let it.