Shopping Resources
Online and Mail Order
Babeland
Website, retail stores, and catalog of toys, books, videos, and safer-sex supplies. Women-owned and operated, but open to all orientations. Strict privacy policy. (For retail information, see the “Retail Stores” section below.)
800 658 9119
babeland.com
Blowfish
Mail-order catalog and website of toys, books, videos, DVDs, safer-sex supplies, S/M gear, comics, and magazines. They feature individual reviews of their products and a strict privacy policy.
P.O. Box 411290, San Francisco, CA 94141
800 325 2569
415 252 4340
blowfish.com
Coco de Mer
A sophisticated sex toy boutique founded by the daughter of Body Shop owner Anita Roddick,
their websites and stores in the UK and US feature smart selections and unique tools for enhancing fellatio. (For retail information, see “Retail Stores” below.)
020 7836 8882 (UK)
1 866 959 2626 (US)
coco-de-mer.com (UK)
cocodemerusa.com (US)
Condomania
Exhaustive site that sells virtually every condom under the sun, with fun facts, lots of condom information, and a helpful condom shopping guide.
1 800 9CONDOM
1 800 926 6366
condomania.com
Glyde Dams
Buy ’em here, by the dozen or in a party pack! sheerglydedams.com
Good Vibrations
Good Vibrations has a staff who are committed to dispensing accurate sex information about the products they sell. Website and retail stores carry toys, books, and DVDs. (For retail
information, see the “Retail Stores” section below.)
934 Howard St., San Francisco, CA 94103
800 289 8423
415 974 8990
goodvibes.com
LoveHoney
This UK-based site is a one-stop shop for quality sex toys, books, and videos. They make their own product videos, have an entertaining blog, and are committed to green practices and environmentally conscious products.
100 Locksbrook Rd.
Bath, BA1 3EN
England
0800 915 6635
lovehoney.co.uk
Retail Stores
A Woman’s Touch
Feminist sex store offering toys, books, and safer-sex supplies. Their website has great advice columns.
600 Williamson St., Madison, WI 53703
608 250 1928
200 N. Jefferson St., Milwaukee, WI 53202
414 221 0400
888-621-8880
a-womans-touch.com
Babeland
Retail store, website, and catalog of high-quality, carefully selected toys, books, videos, and safer-sex supplies. Women-owned and operated, and open to all orientations. They have in-store educational workshops and a highly trained staff.
707 E. Pike St., Seattle, WA 98122
206 328 2914
94 Rivington St., New York, NY 10002
212 375 1701
43 Mercer St., New York, NY 10013
212 966 2120
462 Bergen St., Brooklyn, NY 11217
718 638 3820
(Mail order) 800 658 9119
babeland.com
Come Again Erotic Emporium
Woman-owned store with toys, books, and lingerie.
353 E. 53rd St., New York, NY 10022
212 308 9394
Eve’s Garden
Woman-focused store with toys, books, and videos.
119 W. 57th St., 12th Floor, New York, NY 10019
800 848 3837
212 757 8651
evesgarden.com
Forbidden Fruit
Woman-owned and operated toy store/adult gift shop, and fetish boutique. A big supporter of the Austin S/M, fetish, safer-sex, and sex-positive communities.
108 E. North Loop Blvd., Austin, TX 78751
512-453-8090
www.forbiddenfruit.com
Good Vibrations
Staff is trained, and their Education department serves staff and customers and does outreach to health organizations. Website and retail stores carry toys, books, DVDs, safer-sex supplies. 603 Valencia St., San Francisco, CA 94110 415 522 5460
1620 Polk St., San Francisco, CA 94109
415 345 0400
899 Mission St., San Francisco, CA 94103
415 513 1635
2504 San Pablo Ave., Berkeley, CA 94702
510 841 8987
3219 Lakeshore Ave., Oakland, CA 94610
510 788 2389
308A Harvard St., Brookline, MA 02446
617 264 4400
(Mail Order) 800 289 8423
www.goodvibes.com
(See “Online and Mail Order” section for more mail order/Web info.)
Pleasure Chest
Retail store and website of novelties, toys, videos, and clothing.
7733 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA
90046
800 75 DILDO
323 650 1022
156 Seventh Ave. S., New York, NY 10014
212 242 2158
3436 N. Lincoln Ave., Chicago, IL 60657
773 525 7151
thepleasurechest.com
Canadian Resources
Come As You Are
No visit to Toronto is complete without visiting this community-oriented worker-owned co-op retail store, and they also have a mail-order catalog and website. They have toys, books, videos, safer-sex supplies, and educational resources, especially resources for the disabled. Products are hand-picked and individually reviewed. Stores offer educational workshops. Nous offrons des services limites en francais.
701 Queen St. W., Toronto, ON, M6J 1E6, Canada
(Toll-free) 888 504 7934
416 504 7934
comeasyouare.com
Good For Her
Woman-focused retail store carries toys, books, videos, and erotic art; hosts sex workshops, all geared toward female pleasure. In addition to regular hours, store has women and trans-only hours.
175 Harbord St., Toronto, ON, M5S 1H3, Canada
(Toll-free) 877 588 0900
416 588 0900
goodforher.com
Lovecraft
Retail stores and website offering toys, books, videos, and lingerie. Possibly the oldest women-owned sex shop in North America—open since 1972.
2200 Dundas St. E., Mississauga, ON, L4X 2V3,
Canada
905 276 5772
(Toll-free) 877 923 7331
lovecraftsexshop.com
Womyn’s Ware
Retail store, website, and catalog of toys, books, and fetish gear, education- and woman-focused. Store hosts sex seminars.
896 Commercial Dr., Vancouver, BC, V5L 3Y5,
Canada
604 254 2543
(Toll-free) 888 996 9273
womynsware.com
European Resources
Le Boudoir
The Spanish woman’s answer to a female-friendly, smart, and sexy online sex shopping experience—from Spain, they are a fabulous resource. Lovely; website is in Spanish. leboudoir.net
LoveHoney
This UK-based site is a one-stop shop for quality sex toys, books, and videos. They make their own product videos, have an entertaining blog, and are committed to green practices and environmentally conscious products. lovehoney.co.uk
Lust
A women-run, women-focused online sex boutique from Denmark, with a lovely site and fantastic selection. Site is in Danish. lust.dk
Second Sexe
French website, erotic boutique, and resource for women positive, feminist-identified products and porn. Exquisite site, lots to choose from.
secondsexe.com
SH!
A women’s sex shop that is all-inclusive and couples friendly, with two levels including handpicked toys, books, videos and lingerie. A well-educated staff, many after hours events and comfortable atmosphere.
57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB U.K.
Tel. 020 7613 5458
sh-womenstore.com
Tiberius
Austrian leather, latex and a variety of sexy tools.
A-1070 Wien, Lindengasse 2, Austria
Tel. 43 1 522 04 74
tiberius.at
leather@tiberius.at
Yoba
A gorgeous online women’s sex toy boutique, with lingerie and their own beautiful sex magazine. I wish American sex toy boutiques looked and felt like this (site is in French). yobaparis.com
Safer-Sex Resources
American Social Health Association
P.O. Box 13827, Research Triangle Park, NC 27709
919 361 8400
ashastd.org
Center for Disease Control National Prevention Information Network
P.O. Box 6003, Rockville, MD 20849
800 458 5231
cdcnpin.com
National AIDS Hotline
National STI Resource Center Hotline
Planned Parenthood
800 230 PLAN
plannedparenthood.org
Safer Sex Page
San Francisco Sex Information
Sex information and referral switchboard that provides free, nonjudgmental, anonymous, confidential, accurate information from a highly trained staff. Monday through Thursday 3:00 P.M. to 9:00 P.M.; Friday 3:00 P.M. to 6:00 P.M.; Sunday 2:00 P.M. to 5:00 P.M. PST. Ask any question about sex under the sun by emailing ask-us@sfsi.org.
415 989 SFSI
sfsi.org
Sex Education Classes and Workshops:
Organizations
(For stores near you that offer sex education workshops and classes, see the “Retail Stores” section.)
Body Electric
School of healing arts dedicated to exploring the healing potential of erotic energy, with a holistic, mindful, and spiritual approach (open to all spiritual orientations). Classes for men and for women, mixed classes, retreats, and more, in Seattle, Oakland, New York, and Los Angeles. 3771 Texas St., San Diego, CA 92104
510 653 1594
thebodyelectricschool.com
San Francisco Sex Information
Sex information and referral switchboard that provides free, nonjudgmental, anonymous, accurate information. They offer a fifty-five-hour training course in all aspects of human sexuality and monthly Continuing Education classes open to the public on a variety of current topics; for more information, see their website. 415 989 SFSI sfsi.org
Society for Human Sexuality
Social and educational organization that offers lectures and programs with the Center for Sex-Positive Culture in Seattle. They have a huge online library of sex resources. PMB 1276, 1122 E. Pike St., Seattle, WA 98122 sexuality.org
Sex-Related Websites
Cleis Press
Cleis has published groundbreaking, informative, and controversial books about sex and politics since 1980. The publisher of this book, they also have a great website showcasing their latest erotica, all their sex guidebooks, and Midnight Editions, their incredible consciousness-raising human rights books. cleispress.com
G-Spot Center
G-Spot Facts and Resources: Tiny Nibbles and Open Source Sex
Tiring of websites that are low on information and updated resources on the G-spot. I created this page on my website to serve as both a starting point and continuing education resource that includes podcasts, videos, erotica, articles on the G-spot, and more. tinynibbles.com/gspot
G-Spot: Wikipedia
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot
GLBT National Hotline
The GLNH is an all-volunteer, nonprofit organization. They provide telephone info, email info, referrals, and peer counseling for the GLBT communities. They have over 18,000 listings for the entire US, including groups, organizations, business, bars, doctors, lawyers, therapists, etc. Monday through Friday 4:00 P.M. to midnight; Saturday noon to 5:00 P.M. EST.
888 THE GLNH, 888 843 4564
glbtnationalhelpcenter.org
Scarlet Letters
Webzine of articles, erotica, and more. scarletletters.com
Scarleteen
Resource of sex information geared toward teen women, but with great sections for young men. scarleteen.com
SIECUS (Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States)
SIECUS is a national nonprofit organization that develops, collects, and disseminates information on sex, promotes sex education, and advocates individual choice.
90 John St., Ste. 402, New York, NY 10038
212 819 9770
1012 14th St., NW, Suite 107, Washington DC
20005
202 265 2405
siecus.org
Tiny Nibbles: Violet Blue’s Open Source Sex
My own website for sex culture commentary, accurate sex information, updated resources for all things related to human sexuality, an awesome blog, and epicenter for current information on new sex books, sex videos, sex studies, sex in the news, my famous podcast, TV appearances, news on people doing cool things in the world of sex, and much, much more. tinynibbles.com
The Sex Carnival
Run by a woman and staffed by several others, this multi-author sex blog is a resource bar none on sex toy reviews, sex news, sex classes, and most especially the world of kinky sex. thesexcarnival.com
Highly Recommended Reading
The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips by Rebecca Chalker
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl
The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot by Cathy Winks
The G-Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry
The Guide to Getting It On! by Paul Joannides
A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting by Deborah Addington
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse by Staci Haines
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue
The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women by Mikaya Heart
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg and Fran Odette
The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue
The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex by Karlyn Lotney
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us (2nd. Ed.) by Felice Newman
Recommended Viewing
(A caveat: it’s difficult to find modern-looking videos on this topic.)
The Best of Vulva Massage, The New School of Erotic Touch
Unlocking the Secrets of G-Spot (DVD), Better Sex Video
series, Sinclair Intimacy Institute
Female Ejaculation for Couples, Fatale Media
G Marks the Spot, Sexpositive Productions
How to Female Ejaculate: Find Your G-Spot, Fatale Media
Safe Sex Info
Before you put each other’s naughty bits in your mouths or even think about rubbing your bodies together, it’s a good idea to know where these bits have been. But since we don’t all live in a perfect world—in fact, no one does—you’ll want to use condoms, gloves, dental dams or finger cots when you have oral, vaginal and anal sex; when you use or share sex toys; and in some cases, when you give hand jobs. When someone pulls out a condom, dam, glove or ’cot, you know you’re in good hands. Here are the items in your first line of defense against invading infections and viruses, in short order:
Condoms: Available in latex and polyurethane, in dozens of sizes, colors and flavors. Animal skin condoms do not prevent the spread of some viruses. A condom is a snug sheath that unrolls onto a penis or sex toy. Use condoms for fellatio, for vaginal and anal sex, for covering sex toys that are made of porous materials, or for when you want to share a sex toy. Change condoms for different sex partners and orifices—something used anally should be covered with a condom before being inserted orally or vaginally. Don’t reuse your toy condoms. Do not use anything containing oils of any kind where latex condoms may come in contact; however, polyurethane condoms may be used with oils.
Dental Dams: Thin squares of latex or polyurethane used as barriers for cunnilingus and rimming. Lubricate the genitals, place the dam on top, keep a good hold on the dam and lick to your heart’s content. Available in a few flavors and colors. In a jam you can use plastic wrap or a condom cut open and laid flat.
Gloves: Use latex or nonlatex gloves for hand jobs on any gender. They protect against germs from your hands going onto genitals, can protect your hands from picking up viruses or germs, and make hands
a smooth surface free of jagged nails or scratchy calluses.
Finger Cots: Tiny condoms made of latex that unroll over a finger to create a sterile surface. Great for on-the-go escapades.
If you choose to go at it uncovered, here is what you are at risk for. Make an informed decision!
Sharing Sex Toys
Anal to Oral Contact (Penis or Sex Toy)
Unprotected Anal to Vaginal Contact
