Abram/Abraham, 51–52, 54–56, 59–60, 73, 144
Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, The (Mark Twain), 133–34
Aelred, 82, 95, 99, 121, 164n6
fall from friendship, 88–90
God is friendship, 117–18
real friendship is spiritual, 90–92
Spiritual Friendship (Hill), 83–92
Alter, Robert, 162n2
amicitia, 43, 79, 85–86, 118, 121, 165n2. See also De Amicitia
on creation and beginning, 30
Aristotle, 14–27, 29, 32–34, 37, 59, 72, 90, 107
Eudemian Ethics, 16–26, 159n1 (chap. 2), 160n2 (chap. 2)
friendship as pleasantest thing, 20, 25, 91, 126, 132
friendship as point of human life, 15–16, 22–26
real friendship, 19–22
theological questions, 22–27
death of a friend, 77–78
friendship in the Trinity, 119–121, 165n2
marriage oriented to friendship, 96–97, 109, 113–14
author vis-à-vis characters, 54–56, 146–47
Bachelor, The, and The Bachelorette (television series), 101
beauty, 25, 39–40, 108, 144, 155
Bennett, Jana Marguerite, 164n6
Book of Common Prayer, 4, 105–6, 157, 165n7
Brown, Raymond E., 163n11 (chap. 6)
Call Me by Your Name (film), 165n8
caritas, 79, 86, 90–91, 118, 121
Carmichael, E. D. H., 163n2
celibacy, 93–107. See also sex
Cicero, 41, 78, 83–84, 86, 91, 107
Laelius de Amicitia, 41–47
clones, friendship of and with, 137–39
Colón, Christine A., 164n6
Comforters, The (Muriel Spark), 55–57
creator cannot love, 54–56
Dante
Paradiso, 107
David and Jonathan, 60–64, 161n1, 161n3, 161n4, 161n5, 161n6
De Amicitia, 41, 161n3 (chap. 4)
ethics
moral development, 125–26
point of, 15–16
Ex Machina (film), 140–41
extraterrestrials, 140
Field, Bonnie E., 164n6
40-Year-Old Virgin, The (film), 101
friends
number of, 13–14, 21–22, 40–41, 45, 80, 85–86, 100
seeking new, 21, 40, 45–46, 101, 152–53
friendship
with animals, 88–89, 135–36, 139, 141
characteristic human activity, 10
characterizing all creation, 87, 117–18
and Christian love, 75–76, 86–88
and concrete commitments, 132
cultural confusions of, 13–14
See also practices
Gaudium et spes (Vatican II document), 49–51
Gilead (Marilynne Robinson), 155
God
Father, the, 8, 49, 68–69, 71, 73, 75–76, 119–22, 146
and friendship, 22, 24–27, 71–73, 144–48
strangeness of, 2, 5, 31–33, 54–57
See also Jesus; Holy Ghost/Spirit
good and bad/evil
knowledge of, 88, 93, 95, 163n14
Hitchcock, Christina S., 164n6
Holy Ghost/Spirit, 76–77, 119–21, 146. See also friendship: in the Trinity
Jenson, Robert W., 143, 146, 167n3
Jesus
implications of full humanity, 49–51
incarnation, 50–51, 67–68, 71–72, 120, 145, 147
loved by the Father, 73
mission to establish friendship, 67–71, 84, 120, 122, 145
multiplies friends, 86
and sex, 100–101
See also friendship: in the Trinity
Job, 2–3, 64–67, 99, 143–48, 162n8, 162n9
Kenny, Anthony, 17, 159n1 (chap. 2)
kingdom of God/heaven, xi, 8, 67, 99–101, 109, 111, 135, 152, 153, 159n1 (chap. 1)
Laelius. See Cicero
Legaspi, Michael, 167n2 (chap. 11)
l’Épée, Abbé Charles-Michel de, 136
Lienhard, Joseph, 77
life to come, the, 9–10, 113. See also kingdom of God/heaven
Lord of the Rings, The (J. R. R. Tolkien), 131–32, 135
Lost in Translation (film), 127–29, 166n1
love
word in Scripture, 51–55, 60–63, 67–69, 75
See also Augustine; God
Lovegood, Luna, 129–30
debates, fallout of, 7–8
and friendship, 95–97, 101, 113–14
nonresurrection of, 8–10, 99–100
See also Augustine; celibacy; Montaigne, Michel de
Mary Magdalene, 70
McCabe, Herbert, 10, 73, 140, 159n1 (chap. 1), 160n1, 163n13 (chap. 6)
Mead, Andrew, 4
mind
shared, 22, 55, 69, 71–72, 84, 91–92, 108, 123, 131–32, 135–37, 144, 146
intercourse of, 114
Harry Potter and Voldemort, 130
Montaigne, Michel de, 107–108
Murray, Bill, 166n1
naked, 2, 97–99, 105, 167n2 (chap. 11)
neighbor, 42, 75, 78–79, 91, 105, 136–39, 153, 161n6, 166n8
Never Let Me Go (Kazuo Ishiguro), 137–39
O’Donovan, Oliver, 87, 91, 108, 136, 153, 166n5, 166n8
Lysis, 34–40
pleasure, 19–22, 24–25, 27, 37, 82, 91, 104–5
practices, 125–26, 148–49, 151–55
Punch (magazine), 126
Ready Player One (Ernest Cline), 140
Rowling, J. K., 139
rules, 112–15
Sacks, Robert D., 65, 90, 97–98, 162n8, 163n14
Saint-Exupéry, Antoine de, 2
same-sex relationships, 7, 40, 111, 113. See also Plato: Lysis
Scarry, Elaine, 39
Schwartz, Daniel, 163n6
Scott, John, 4
Scriptures
interpretation of, 14–15, 50–51
fornication, Christian invention of, 111–12
Roman view of shameful, 110–11
See also celibacy
sin, 44, 50, 72, 101, 111, 152–53
slave, 35, 54, 111, 123, 133–34, 141
Sparrow, The (Marie Doria Russell), 140
Susan (author’s wife), 1–5, 10–11, 147
Thomas Aquinas. See Aquinas
Vercors (Jean Bruller), 139, 166n10
Vernon, Mark, 34
Vitoria, Francisco de, 136
White, Carolinne, 90–91, 165n2
Widower’s Notebook, The (Jonathan Santlofer), 101–2