3 March 2012
It was just another morning. Everything seemed normal. We were all sitting in the living room. Dadoo was sipping tea. Vikram and Mala didi were reading the newspaper hoping that Dadoo too would become interested and pick it up. I was engrossed in reading a memoir I had picked up a couple of weeks ago. Mamma was trying, unsuccessfully, to engage Dadoo in a conversation. Later she left to attend a kirtan in the neighbourhood.
The four of us – Dadoo, Vikram, Mala didi and I – were sitting in the lawn when Mamma returned after two hours.
Dadoo looked at Mamma blankly and then politely asked, ‘Whom do you want to meet?’
Mamma stared at Dadoo unable to comprehend what he was saying. Before she could respond he repeated, ‘Do you want to meet someone here?’
We were stunned into silence, and looked towards Dadoo. He was still looking at Mamma. Expressionless. Not even confused.
‘What are you saying? I am Asha,’ she said with pain and started whimpering.
‘Asha?’ he muttered as if trying to remember something. Trying to connect. But his face was wooden.
‘I am Asha, your wife!’ Mamma was crying by now.
‘Daddy, don’t you remember Mamma? It’s Mamma,’ said Mala didi.
But Dadoo was blank. He then got up from his chair, looked at Mamma again and then at us. He slowly went inside the house, lay down on the bed and covered his head with a bedsheet …
‘What is he saying? I am Asha … fifty-two years of marriage …’ Both Vikram and Mala didi got up and ran to console her. She looked at them wildly and wailed slipping down, ‘Oh God, what has it come to now. I had never, ever expected this. It is all over!’
Vikram ran to the kitchen and brought water for her. Mala didi held her close and tried to comfort her but she too couldn’t stop herself from crying, she too was broken and helpless.
Suddenly Dadoo shouted, ‘What is all this, where am I, what is happening, whose house is this?’
Mamma got up and ran into the room wailing and shook him saying, ‘I am Asha, Asha, your Asha.’
He looked at her wildly, there was a deadly silence and then he asked, ‘Asha? Who Asha? You know me?’
One more year has passed.
He looks at his face in the mirror and says, ‘Namaste-ji, bahut dinon ke baad mile [namaste-ji, we are meeting after many days]. Is everything fine at home? What about my father and mother? How are they doing? They must be thinking what a callous son I am, I haven’t gone to visit them for many years.
To Mamma he says, ‘My wife lives in a foreign country. Please call her. I am missing her.’ And when Mamma retorts, ‘I am your wife’, he exclaims in surprise, ‘What has happened to your face, you look so old! No, you can’t be. My wife is very young and beautiful.’
A framed photo of his along with his four children and wife opposite the bed on the wall is of unknown people, which brings fear and dread in his heart because he believes that everything – the house, food, money – belongs to these people and they will turn him out of the house anytime.
When he saw a car on the road, he innocently asked, ‘What does it eat? Plants? Must be eating a lot. That is why it is running so fast.’
He is hospitalized now and then. He forgets how to urinate, he has no control on his bowel movements.
Even now there are rare moments when he connects and there is a flash of light in his eyes and he says with conviction, ‘Mauj karo [enjoy yourself]!’
What he has and is not aware of is that he is surrounded by his family who loves him, pampers him, cleans him, laughs with him and shares his world of hallucinations, day-dreams and head trips. Here yesterdays, todays and tomorrows have all merged weaving fantasies of a new world. They have accepted what he has become and are at peace with it.
He lives in his own world – a world within.