CHAPTER 12

Crystals for Emotional Well-Being

No doubt you have been stuck at some point with some feelings that you didn’t want to express. Finding relief from negative emotions such as anger, grief, and jealousy can be a steep learning curve. It takes a lot of awareness and some help from our crystal friends to provide a way through our emotional experiences.

Crystals take us to a new emotional level where feelings about ourselves and others become lighter, transforming our moods in the process. The mind is cleansed, the heart is free, and we feel open to a whole new way of living!

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How to Use Crystals for Emotional Clearing

You might have heard the quote “I think, therefore, I am,” from Rene Descartes, the seventeenth-century French philosopher. That is so true! When you carry excess emotions such as anger or jealousy, biochemical reactions occur in your body that pump out more adrenaline, causing your heart to beat faster and nasty acids to churn in your stomach. So you feel bad in your head and in your body, and a vicious cycle begins.

Working with crystals gives your emotions a chance to restore balance before negative energy manifests at the physical level.

Clearing Anger

There is no greater poison than anger, says the Dalai Lama, the Tibetan Buddhist spiritual leader. Anger clouds your thinking and your ability to act in a reasonable way. You can also feel it physically as a raised heart rate, high blood pressure, and sour acids in your stomach. If we have an opportunity to consciously manage our negative emotions before they turn into anger or rage, our physical, mental, and social health will not suffer.

Anger acts as an energy blocker, usually at the solar plexus chakra. Blockages due to anger also often occur at the throat chakra, due to repressing words about feelings, and in the root and sacral chakras if you have suffered abuse. These chakras shut down their energy flows when affronted with negative energy to protect them from an energy overload. However, when chakras are in the “off” position, they don’t let in much healing light and can block out love and compassion, the anecdote to anger.

Now you may think if your anger is really big, you’ll need a really big crystal. In fact, even a small one about an inch in diameter will help. Try selecting a crystal from this list to help clear negative energy:

If you find that you are truly having a hard time letting go of your anger, you might also want to try meditating with a love stone (discussed a little later in this chapter) or one of the Master Healers.

True Forgiveness

Forgiveness does not erase the wounds that have already occurred; it’s simply a limit on punishing those who have hurt us. It takes effort and courage to let go. However, it’s imperative that we do it. Hanging onto grudges kills the soul.

The shadow parts of ourselves are whatever we have shoved aside to either ignore or deal with later. By knowing ourselves better and embracing those shadow parts, we bring love and light into all dimensions of our being. It is from this enlightened space within us that forgiveness can be found and expressed to others. If you are not there yet and have some forgiving to do, a spiritual cleanse is a good way to prepare yourself. By cleansing yourself consciously rather than disassociating from the shadow, you will free yourself from negative feelings.

The following crystals are good to support a spiritual cleanse:

To initiate an energy cleanse, it is best to spend some quiet time away from others and begin by holding one of the suggested crystals in your left hand at your heart chakra. Focus on what you need to release as deeply as necessary, whether it is pain or anger. Continue to hold the crystal until you feel the energy clearing. If you experience a dramatic or sudden release of pent-up emotional energy—what we call a catharsis—do not be too concerned. Breathe deeply and rapidly and it will pass.

You will know that you have cleared what is needed when you feel a sense of peace and are more relaxed. The best compliment is from others who know you well and can observe your positive changes. Sometimes it takes a while for these changes to settle in and be integrated within yourself.

The 12 Love Stones

For centuries, both women and men have used gemstones and crystals to attract their love partners. However, when our love needs are not met, our expectations about life are left in an uncomfortable spiritual position. We begin to doubt, rather than be in wonderment about the process of relating to another person. If you exchange crystals with a friend, you will be forever connected to each other. So, to make that lifelong connection with someone extra special, choose one of the love stones!

Crystals have magical properties that break through personal barriers and help to attune oneself to a higher love vibration. The easiest way to get crystal energy is to wear the crystal as a pendant. The effects of crystal healing at the emotional and psychological levels are subtle. As your personal vibration changes to a higher, more positive outlook, you will attract your soul mate to you. If you already have a partner, your love relationship will deepen.

Some key crystals are useful in healing relationship issues. If you wish to combine a few of the crystals for help with multiple issues, you can combine three or four crystals—but no more because your heart will be busy enough as it is:

If you need to attract a new partner, to move on with a new relationship, or to help heal the one you have, read the descriptions again and then select the crystal that best fits your situation.

Opening Up to Joy

Many crystals will modify your mood and uplift your feelings. Some crystals seem so serious with their energy, focusing your mind on troubles, cleansing, clearing, and healing. Make a special “stress day” pouch of crystals to alleviate your mood. Pack a pouch with opal, rose quartz, moonstone, and citrine. Add a wrapped gummy bear candy to absorb the lovely crystal energies and eat it later when you need an additional perk!

Take a break once in a while and just feel really good and happy. Here are some more crystals to perk you up:

With the play of light or luminescence, any crystal will generally light up your heart and open your third eye to the special pleasures of life. Open up your heart chakra and your eyes and look around at the gift of living at this very moment.

Lucky You!

There are so many crystals for luck, but in this part of the book, let’s focus on wishing. You’ve heard songs about “wishing upon a star,” and you can wish with crystals, too. It’s actually a form of programming, but if you use the right crystal, your wish might come true. How, you ask? The crystal amplifies the thought energy and lines up the universal energy for wish fulfillment.

Which crystal is best to use for wishing? A double-terminated clear quartz crystal provides one end for giving and one end for receiving energy. After you have programmed your crystal for positive manifestation, hold it at the center of your heart chakra. Visualize what it is that you’re wishing for. See the request going out as white light from your heart center through the tip of the crystal with your request. If the wish is your heart’s highest purpose, you should see some results. How soon depends on how long it takes the universe to line up the energies.

Co-creating with the universe is tricky business, so be very specific about what you ask for. Your intention will be aligned with the universal laws of attraction. Here are some crystals that can be particularly useful in this regard:

Granting a wish for someone else is easy to set up. Write the wish on a piece of paper and place it inside a special wish box with a lid. Place the seven wish crystals on top of the wish sheet in the box, close the lid, and leave it in place without disturbing it for three days. On the third day, remove the paper and burn it, sending the message and the accumulated energy into the universe for manifestation.

Crystals for Emotional Healing

It seems as though more and more people are suffering from deep emotional wounds these days. The prescriptions for antidepressants are skyrocketing, and we all have a friend or two who’s down in the dumps. That’s where crystals can really help, by gently releasing energy so it flows more freely in your subtle body. Crystals can help convert negative energy into positive vibrations, but they are not a substitute for treating more serious mental health issues. For severe depression or anxiety, seek professional medical advice. Remember that people will experience crystals differently. If one crystal doesn’t work for you, go to another type.

The next time you’re feeling blue, bring out some of these big guns:

Relationships

Relationships may seem tricky to master, especially as there aren’t really manuals or guides written specifically for the people involved in the relationship. So, you may feel like you are on your own except remember that you do have your pals with you—crystals! They are a life saver when it comes to holding energy for relationships. They can keep you grounded and aware, dissolve anger, open your heart, sort out your thinking, and still give you lots of energy to have some fun! Let’s have a closer look at the chief crystals for love-seekers:

CARVED IN STONE

Emerald: I activate your heart to follow love and compassion to its fullest. I provide self-acceptance. I ask you to surrender to divine love and feel the abundance of your true spirit.