Divorce Annulment DeathYou may have been married before. If so, please answer these questions. If you have not been married before, skip these questions and go on to the next chapter.
Many times, the individuals involved in second marriages carry into their new relationship problems and expectations out of their previous marriage. For example, if you had difficulty in communicating with your mate in your first marriage, will this trend continue? Why should your new relationship be any different? How will it be different? What will you do differently?
Problem areas are easier to identify than expectations. In your first marriage your mate may have taken care of and babied you when you were sick. In your second marriage, your mate may not baby you when you are sick. How will you feel about this? How will your new mate know what your expectations are?
The following questions are not exhaustive but may be helpful in starting discussion on potential problems and expectations brought about by more than one marriage.
1. Date of my first marriage:
2. How old were you and your ex-spouse when you married?
Myself My ex-spouse
3. How did the first marriage terminate?
Divorce Annulment Death
4. My marriage lasted for years.
5. Did you have any children by your previous marriage?
Yes No
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
6. The strong points of this marriage were:
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
7. The conflict areas of this marriage were:
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
8. I have the following expectations about my new marriage, brought about by my previous marriage:
If you have only had one previous marriage please skip these questions and go on to the next chapter.
1. Date of second marriage:
2. How old were you and your ex-spouse when you married?
Myself My spouse
3. How did the second marriage terminate?
Divorce Annulment Death
4. My second marriage lasted years.
5. Did you have any children by this second marriage?
Yes No
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
| Name | Age |
6. The strong points of this marriage were:
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
7. The conflict areas of this marriage were:
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
8. I have the following expectations about my new marriage, brought about by my previous marriages: