Yes No Planning to on________3 Status of
Present Relationship
Would you buy a car without shopping around? Would you purchase a house by only looking at the outside? Would you choose a vocation without looking at its positive and negative aspects? In most of the important decisions we make, we usually shop around, weigh the advantages and disadvantages, and count the cost. However, when it comes to one of the most important decisions in life—marriage— few people really examine the relationship to see if it is based on a solid foundation. How compatible are you with you future marriage partner? Do you have the same goals, interests, and expectations? Can you see yourself living with that person for the rest of your life?
Answer the following questions and share together how each of you views your potential partner.
1. I have known my fiancé for:
2. I first met my fiancé at:
3. Have you announced your engagement yet?
Yes No Planning to on________
Have you set a date for the wedding?
4. My fiancé and I see each other:
| Every day |
1-2 days per week |
| 3-4 days per week |
5-6 days per week |
| Less than once a week, ________ times per month |
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5. Have you ever been engaged to anyone else?
No Yes How long ago?___
6. The strong points I see in my fiancé are:
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B.
C.
D.
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F.
G.
7. I want to get married because:
8. My definition of love is:
9. My fiancé and I have the following interests in common:
10. I think a good sense of humor in marriage is important because:
11. I feel that my fiancé’s manners are:
12. My fiancé irritates me most when:
13. I feel our relationship has been most successful in:
14. I have the following expectations for my fiancé (leader, good cook, gentle, provider, etc.):
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B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
G.
15. My fiancé has the following expectations for me:
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B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
G.
16. I am happiest in our relationship when:
17. In our relationship I hurt most when:
18. My fiancé and I differ about the following things:
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B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
19. The following are some of the goals I would like to work toward in our marriage:
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B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
20. I believe my friends have the following opinions about this marriage:
21. Please check any of the following items you feel could be a potential barrier to this marriage:
Divorce
Pregnancy
Abortion
Cultural differences
Racial differences
Intellectual differences
Economic differences
Age difference
Young or early marriage
Parental conflicts
Sexual problems
Homosexual background
Physical handicaps
Personality differences
Drug or alcohol use
Explain each item you checked: