Cultivate Inner Peace and
Spirituality
Stress. We all experience it. No matter how “perfect” someone’s life or social media posts may seem, no one is immune to stress. It’s a normal, almost expected, part of daily life today thanks to busy family lives, work pressures, being connected to our phones and computers 24/7, financial ups and downs, relationship issues, and health issues. Pretty much everything in our busy lives can trigger stress, both emotional and physical. Even good experiences like running a race, giving a speech, or celebrating a big event can cause stress.
What’s common in all these situations is that they require a response from us. In fact, it’s how we respond to stressful situations that determines how stress affects us. If we get angry, frustrated, or sad and depressed; think about things over and over and lose sleep; and/or let what’s happening in our lives affect our relationships, then the stress will only persist, triggering more of a reaction in our bodies, referred to as the body’s stress response. But if we allow stressful situations to exist and simply pass without much reaction from us, the stress is short-lived. This is my goal for you with this book: I want to help you, as I do with all my patients, to look at and react to stress differently, using the tools I describe on the pages ahead.
Your body’s stress response is a natural one: it’s your internal alarm system (the so-called “flight or fight” response) that prepares you to fight a perceived stressor or run from it. But you can control how long it lasts. Your stress response can be short-lived, which doesn’t take as great a physical toll on you because your body has a chance to recover from it. Stress responses can also be chronic, in which case there is very little recuperation time and plenty of wear and tear on your body and mind over time. This is what occurs with so many of us today, but it doesn’t need to be the case. With the right tools in your daily-life arsenal, you can react to stress differently. A more even-keeled response will result in a healthier, happier you—and more beautifully radiant skin.
How Stress Affects the Body and the Skin
When we experience long-term chronic stress, the health of our body and our skin can suffer. Our spirit can get worn down too, depleting our inner strength and outer radiance as well as our hope and happiness. But recognizing how stress affects the body and the spirit will help you understand how and why it can (but doesn’t need to) trigger health problems and affect longevity. Consider how stress is affecting us, from the American Psychological Association:
• 43 percent of all adults suffer adverse health effects from stress
• 75 percent to 90 percent of all doctor’s office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints
• 40 percent of adults lay awake at night because of stress
When the body encounters a perceived stressor, be it a looming deadline or a fight with a spouse, the body responds accordingly. The hypothalamus (the part of the brain responsible for hormone production) communicates with the adrenal glands situated above the kidneys, alerting them to pump out stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine or adrenaline. These hormones help get the body ready to react.
When these hormones are released, the liver produces more glucose or blood sugar to provide the body with extra energy. Our muscles tense up, the body’s way of guarding against injury and pain (why hands-on relaxation techniques like massage can help). We also start to breathe rapidly. We’re entering full-on panic mode. If you’re starting to feel stressed just reading these symptoms, stop reading and take three long, slow breaths in and out. Breathe in while quietly counting to four, hold your breath for a count of seven, and then breathe out while quietly counting to eight. You feel better, right? It’s amazing what stopping to consciously breathe can do. This is one of the most effective tools in your stress-busting arsenal because it puts the brakes on your body’s stress response. Taking deep breaths in and out (which I discuss more throughout this book) is also a way to put yourself back in control of a stressful situation. It costs nothing and requires nothing except for you to stop and breathe. And you can do it anywhere: in your car during a traffic jam, at work before a big meeting, or at home when interacting with family members. Keep this in mind as you encounter stress in your life.
These same stress hormones that cause you to breathe rapidly also cause an increase in heart rate and stronger contractions of the heart muscle. The blood vessels that direct blood to the large muscles and the heart dilate, increasing the amount of blood being pumped though the body. The result can get more blood to your heart and muscles to help you to run faster if you’re in a race (a good thing!), but when chronic it can trigger increased blood pressure.
Under stress, your body also releases a protein called neuropeptide S or NPS, which decreases sleep and increases alertness. The body is essentially keeping you awake and alert to face the danger it senses. So, if you wonder why you’re tossing and turning or waking up in the middle of the night and having trouble going back to sleep, stress is a likely culprit. At night before bed, or even in the middle of the night when you wake up, go back to the deep breathing technique I just mentioned. This can be a helpful sleep aid. By taking time to breathe deeply, you not only interrupt the body’s stress but you also allow your body to relax, which inevitably lets you drift back off to sleep.
All these reactions in the body can trigger both emotional and physical problems, particularly when they’re being activated for long periods of time. Long-term stress has been linked to everything from depression, anxiety, and headaches to heart attacks, strokes, and type 2 diabetes. It’s also been associated with gastrointestinal disturbances like constipation, ulcers, irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), and colitis. (APA, 2018)
Scientists from around the world believe that too much chronic stress can reduce our lifespan by causing age-related deterioration in our bodies. In a nutshell, stress causes us to age faster. Researchers at Oregon State University are studying this relationship between stress and aging. One connection they found has to do with something called telomeres. Telomeres are cap-like structures at the end of a chromosome or genetic material in each of our cells. They protect the end of the chromosome from deteriorating. The researchers found that those under extreme stress have shorter telomeres than others. When telomeres get too short, the cell can no longer divide and tissue can’t regenerate any more. (OregonLive, 2012) This shortening process or “internal clock” is associated with aging, say researchers at Stanford University Medical Center. (Broughton et al, 2005)
The younger you are, the longer these telomeres should be. Lifestyle factors, such as smoking and consumption of sugary processed food and drinks, have all been linked to having shorter telomeres. It stands to reason then that eating fewer processed and sugary foods and more whole foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, healthy fats, and lean proteins can help keep your telomeres longer. This is a growing area of research today, and I believe we’ve just started to see how important these telomeres are to every single aspect of our health. (University of Utah, 2019)
Reducing stress and living a healthy, fulfilled life can help keep telomeres longer too. In fascinating research from Howard University Medical Center, for example, it was found that regular practice of transcendental meditation or mantra meditation stimulates genes to produce telomerase, an enzyme that adds molecules to the ends of telomeres to lengthen them and protect them from deteriorating. (Eureka Alert, 2015) So not only can meditation relax you and focus your mind, it can also truly keep you young! (Read more on these meditations in chapter two.) Each of us can find techniques like meditation and breathing that work to help us get a handle on stress. We can find ways to control our stress response with techniques that are easy to learn and easy to put into practice so that stress doesn’t trigger long-term problems. I share what’s worked for me and for my patients throughout this book. (Duraimani et al, 2005)
Stress and the Skin
My patient Michael, an attorney, was under a lot of pressure at work. He noticed that every time he had a big trial coming up, his psoriasis would get considerably worse, with red and white, patchy, scaling skin all over his body. It bothered him, as did the incredibly long hours he was putting in at work, but he didn’t think he had the time to address it. It was Michael’s wife who encouraged him to see a dermatologist. That’s when Michael booked an appointment with me.
When Michael came into my office, his psoriasis was in full flare-up mode. We spoke about his condition and how we could treat it with prescription medication, but we also spoke about the importance of taking better care of himself: healthy eating, stress-reduction techniques, regular exercise, and just simply taking time for himself, which is something so many of us forget about in today’s hectic life. Psoriasis may be a chronic disease, but combining a healthy lifestyle with treatment can absolutely reduce the symptoms and flare-ups. I see this all the time with patients in my office. By changing how they live their lives, they can also improve the health of their skin and their bodies.
During stressful times, neurotransmitters or brain chemicals that communicate information throughout your brain and body are released, triggering stress-related responses like inflammation of the skin, which is the largest organ in the body. The result can be a worsening of skin problems like acne, eczema, and psoriasis if you aren’t taking steps to mitigate the stress. Stress-triggered inflammation can also contribute to premature aging of the skin, including fine lines and wrinkles. If the stress is chronic—and again, with the right coping tools in place, it doesn’t have to be—the skin’s barrier function is also compromised, allowing irritants to enter through the skin, and allowing moisture to escape. This is why stressed skin gets dry, rough, and dull. Researchers at Mt. Sinai School of Medicine in New York believe this impaired skin barrier function is also linked to slower wound healing and increased susceptibility to infections. This is why, when a patient comes to me to discuss their skin problems, I ask them about their lifestyle. I know that if together we can come up with techniques that will help them de-stress, their skin problems have more of a chance of clearing up for good. (Lebwohl et al, 2005)
How We React to Stress
Michael took my words to heart and made a conscious decision to start taking care of himself. When he came back for his follow-up several months later, he looked like a different person. His skin was clear and had been for several weeks, and he felt better than ever. Michael had started exercising thirty minutes in the morning several days a week at his company gym, which he had never taken advantage of before. Instead of catching up on TV shows on his computer during lunch, he started meditating. Michael started eating better too, reaching more for fruits and vegetables rather than processed grab-and-go snacks. He wasn’t perfect, and no one is. There were days when he didn’t fit in a workout or meditation and there were plenty of days when he reached for his favorite chips as a mid-afternoon snack, but overall his entire lifestyle and approach to life improved. He explained to me that not only did his skin improve, but so did his clarity of mind. He found that, as a result of the changes he made, he was more focused and productive at work. He was also happier overall, which affected his relationships at work and at home.
Like Michael, when we’re under stress and functioning in crisis mode, we tend to slack on healthy habits such as getting enough sleep, exercising, and sticking to a healthy diet. This is understandable. We’re all human. It’s hard to reach for an apple when a warm chocolate chip cookie holds more comforting appeal. This is okay to grab once in a while, but persistent unhealthy choices over time can further fuel stress. Unhealthy foods that contain empty calories and lack key nutrients can trigger low mental and physical energy, which makes it hard to get things done. Not getting things done can trigger more stress. Processed foods in general, which include so many of the foods we reach for during stressful times, can trigger addictive eating, which makes you want to eat more. Not moving your body can also make you less motivated and less confident. If the stress and lack of activity is short lived, the effects on the body aren’t severe. But when stress and lack of activity are chronic, these unhealthy habits can make us more predisposed to despair, weight gain, and premature aging.
It’s important to be able to recognize the causes of stress in our lives and to manage them. Some stressors cannot be eliminated entirely, though, and this is when our frame of mind becomes critical. We can control how we react to a situation that’s beyond our control. Don’t let a difficult person or situation steal your peace. How we perceive a situation, as well as how we react to it, makes a difference in whether we’re relaxed or we trigger our stress response. We’ve all seen an example of this when stuck in a traffic jam. Some people react with anger and aggression, honking their horn and yelling out the window about the prospect of being late for wherever they’re headed, and others are able to sit back, listen to the radio, and accept the possibility of being delayed. With practice, we can shape our natural tendencies and react to things differently. One way to do this is by repeating a mantra like this (or one of your choosing) when you’re under stress: “I will not let this situation affect my peace.” (Ovetakin-White et al, 2019)
Stress and Vitamin C
Whatever you do, be sure to get enough vitamin C on a daily basis. You can find this key nutrient in fruits like oranges, papayas, and strawberries, and in vegetables like red and green peppers, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and asparagus. Here’s why you need it: Stress, particularly if it’s intense and prolonged, rapidly depletes vitamin C from the body. In fact, one of the highest concentrations of vitamin C in the body is found in the adrenal glands, which play a central role in dealing with stress. It’s not surprising then that vitamin C helps reduce both the psychological and physical effects of stress. This vitamin seems to counteract or even prevent secretion of the key stress hormone cortisol that’s responsible for triggering the “flight or fight” response to stress. Vitamin C is also responsible for protecting blood vessels, helping to create the skin-firming protein collagen, and supporting the immune system. (Blaylock, 2015)
Stress and Weight Gain: The Truth
It turns out there’s a lot of truth behind the whole idea of stress eating, and it may have little to do with our willpower or lack of it. In the short term, stress can shut down appetite. When under stress, the hypothalamus produces a hormone that suppresses hunger. Adrenaline, produced by the adrenal glands, also temporarily puts eating on hold. But if stress persists, then this normal stress response goes haywire. Elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol begin to trigger our sugar and carbohydrate cravings. This is why chronic stress can actually increase the appetite, thanks to cortisol. And it’s not healthy fruits and veggies that we crave. It’s sugar and fat like cookies, candy, cake, chips, and fries. In fact, this desire for comfort foods may be a biological way of feeding the body enough energy to sustain the stress response long term. These highly processed foods can, in turn, also fuel addictive eating. What ensues is a vicious cycle of binging and addictive eating that can challenge even those of us with the toughest willpower. Eating this way over the long haul can pack on pounds, particularly in the abdominal area, which can lead to cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, and stroke. But it doesn’t have to. As I mentioned, by controlling our response to stress, we can stop this whole binge eating reaction in its tracks. Think about it: if, instead of reaching for a cookie when a work deadline is looming, you took a deep breath and walked outside for five minutes, you would turn the tables on the stress response and regain control of the situation. Your reaction is controlled by you.
Complementary and alternative healing therapies, which I talk about later in this chapter, are an effective way to get stress and anxiety under control. With this in mind, everyone needs to find ways to reduce stress and find new ways to eat for energy during times of stress. (Schulte et al, 2015)
Eat to Beat Stress
A well-balanced diet can help you function your best during times of stress. Some ways to avoid unhealthy stress-induced eating that have worked for me and my patients are included here.
Prepare your pantry and fridge. If you tend to reach for the fastest meal while under stress, then stock your kitchen with quick, healthy food options. This can include fruits, vegetables, hard-boiled eggs, yogurt (dairy or non-dairy), nuts and seeds, healthy grains like rice cakes and air-popped popcorn, and healthy, protein-rich dips like hummus. You can also cook extra portions of healthy meals on the weekends that can be quickly re-heated during the week. Try to avoid buying foods you know are unhealthy so they won’t be an option during stressful times.
Keep healthy restaurants on speed dial. Knowing ahead of time where the healthy restaurant options are in your area can help you avoid unhealthy eating pit stops. Also, take a look at the menus at these restaurants so you have nutrient-packed standbys when you’re in a rush. Sarah, one of my patients who was struggling with persistent acne, explained how this tip helped her change her diet for the better. A sales rep responsible for driving around to different clients all day, Sarah started becoming proactive about where she could pick up healthier meals. Once she started doing this, she lost some of the extra pounds she had put on since she started her job, her skin cleared up, and she had more energy and enthusiasm for life. It’s truly amazing how a change in diet can result in such a pronounced change in the body, the skin, and the spirit!
Swap out unhealthy snacks. We’re all familiar with the sugar and processed food cravings that accompany stress, but stopping these anxiety-provoked binges before they start will keep your energy and mood up and keep your skin radiant and more youthful looking. Instead, try mixing protein with a fruit or grain (for example, an apple with a nut or seed butter, homemade trail mix with nuts, seeds, and dried fruits, or string cheese and crackers). It’s the protein that will keep you satisfied and the fruit and grains that will help satiate your cravings.
Take a moment to relax. So much of unhealthy eating starts with mindless eating: munching while working on a project, eating while talking on the phone or watching TV, snacking when anxious and distracted. If you take a moment to step back from your mindless craving and break away from the situation, you’ll find that your need to eat is lessened, as is your stress. Taking a walk around your office or outside or just closing your eyes to breathe deeply are proven ways to shift the focus of your mind and help you relax. (Mandal, 2019)
Breathing for Stress Relief
Breathing is the only function of the body that we perform both voluntarily and involuntarily. As I mentioned earlier, controlling the breath is a powerful technique, also called pranayama, that’s a major component of yoga and meditation and is critical to good health. (Prana is the Sanskrit word for breath, spirit, or universal energy.) Through it, we can regulate anxiety, improve sleep and energy levels, and reduce stress. It can also regulate heart rate, blood pressure, circulation, and digestion. Not only can it help physical and emotional health, but it is an integral part of mindfulness and spiritual awareness.
Diaphragmatic breathing, in particular, helps calm the body and the mind. The diaphragm, called the most efficient muscle of breathing, is the large dome-shaped muscle located at the base of the lungs. Diaphragmatic breathing (deep, slow breathing that originates from below this muscle and travels upward into the chest area), as opposed to shallow breathing from the chest (how most of us breathe and a hallmark of anxiety), has been used for thousands of years as a way to enhance health and even spiritual practices.
Diaphragmatic breathing is how we breathe from the time we’re born, but then our breaths become shallower as we get older and start to experience more stress. Also called yoga breathing, diaphragmatic breathing is both a form of meditation and a preparation for deep meditation. To perform diaphragmatic breathing, try the following steps:
Find a quiet place, get comfortable, and start by relaxing your head, neck, and shoulders. You can lie on your back on a flat surface, or in bed with your knees bent and your head supported. Place a pillow under your knees to support your legs, if necessary. You can also do this sitting in a chair at home or at work with your knees bent and your feet flat on the floor, head and neck relaxed.
Gently move the tip of your tongue against the roof of your mouth, just behind your upper front teeth, and inhale deeply to a mental count of four. Try to inhale from your stomach area (your diaphragm), not your chest.
Hold your breath for a count of seven. Then exhale quietly and completely through your mouth with slightly pursed lips to a count of eight. This is one breath cycle. Repeat this cycle for five minutes.
You should try to practice this breathing for five to ten minutes, one to three times per day. Some apps like Stop, Breathe and Think; Paced Breathing; and Calm can help you do this by sending you reminders to pause during your day to take relaxation breaths.
Take a Deep Breath and Commit to Quit Smoking
Taking long, deep breaths in and out is a common relaxation practice. It’s also common practice for smokers, and taking a break from the craziness of life to do this outdoors is how smokers begin to associate smoking with relaxation. This is why so many smokers reach for a cigarette when they’re stressed and why, once this habit gets ingrained and nicotine dependence sets in, it’s so hard to break.
Smoking is not an easy habit to break but it is 100 percent possible. And you can do it. Just as controlling addictive stress eating can be done—by taking baby steps to change—so too can getting a handle on smoking be accomplished.
While the relaxation effect of smoking is good in theory, all those chemicals being inhaled into the body (more than seven thousand altogether) are not healthy. According to the National Cancer Institute, hundreds of these chemicals are toxic and about seventy are known to cause cancer. These include formaldehyde, benzene (found in gasoline), polonium 210 (radioactive), and vinyl chloride (used to make pipes). Plus, every one of these chemicals contributes to premature aging of the body and the skin. (Kennedy et al, 2003)
Secondhand smoke is also toxic. This smoke, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, contains the same seven thousand chemicals that smokers expose themselves to when smoking. Secondhand cigarette smoke can cause frequent and severe asthma attacks, respiratory infections, ear infections, and sudden infant death syndrome, as well as heart disease, strokes, and lung cancer. Researchers at the University of California San Francisco found that nonsmokers who sit in a car with a smoker for just one hour (even with the windows slightly open) had significantly increased levels of carcinogens and other toxins associated with cancer, heart disease, and lung disease in their urine, which means that these chemicals have entered the body. Even “thirdhand” smoke, the smoke pollutants that remain in an indoor environment on surfaces or in dust where smokers have smoked (such as a home or a car), has been shown to be dangerous to health. (Ferrante et al, 2013)
For all these reasons, it’s important to commit to quit. I know it’s not easy, but like any other good habit that you’re trying to incorporate into your life, it takes awareness, motivation to change, and persistence. What this means is that if you slide back into old habits, you simply accept what happened without judgment and try again without giving up. Repeat as often as necessary and the good habits will eventually win out. I have seen this with so many of my patients. This is where relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, and walking outdoors in nature can help you cope with the stresses of daily life so you have less of an urge to reach for that cigarette when life gets tough. Remember, you are worth the change you’re going to make.
Where Do You Go from Here?
Reducing stress in your life is one of the single most important things you can do to boost your health and your overall well-being. As I’ve discussed, stress takes its toll on every aspect of our lives and our health—of body, mind, spirit, and skin. So many of my patients worry that taking steps to de-stress will add another to-do item to their already long to-do list. Nothing could be further from the truth. Simple, easy de-stressing tools, such as the breathing exercise I had you do, are what I want you to leave this chapter and this book with. Add in what you can when you can. What you’ll find is this: once these relaxation strategies become habit, you’ll find yourself looking forward to doing them and wonder how you ever survived without them.