A research team recently polled over 2000 men and women separately where they wanted to know the reason behind their break up and interestingly some of the results were common while some others are really amazing for us. However the main objective of the research to give the proper information on the common cause that can prevent their break up of relationship and strengthen their bonding and make it longer. 39.7% said that they just fall in love with someone else, 36.6%, said that their partners cheated, 29.3% said that partners lied about something and they could not bear anymore, 29.1% were always fighting and after that they decided not to stay together, 21.1 %, said that the partner stopped behaving sweet and romantic as previous days, 20.6% said that the partner was not ambitious towards career, 20.2% said that the partner moved away, 18.9% said that the partner was not able to adjust with his or her family and 15.7% were separated as they were not satisfied regarding sex. So, the research results show that the reasons may be different but the basic thing remain same, i.e. a trouble in keeping tow people together. Hence, the inevitable outcome is the break up.
Your partner starts ignoring you either physically or emotionally.
Distance and cold behavior, either physically or emotionally towards your partner is a major cause of break up. Physical distancing has come into the forefront when your partner gives less and less time for you and gradually after either of you or your partner are avoiding each other and not behave or doing together the things which you earlier did. Emotional distance creation is more subtle and much strong indicator that the relationship is now moving towards the end of the road. In this situation your partner communicates with cool and unwilling way and showing not to give importance to you and avoid in discussing any future plans.
Your partner intentionally makes changes in daily routine to avoid you
It is generally observed that your partner has rearranged his or her daily routine in order to avoid you and spend more time in office or get involved in some other tasks at the time of troubled relationships. At this time your partner is spending lots of times with new friends, spending more times with party boys and then it is an alarming situation of your relationship.
Notice the changes in the frequency of your confrontation
Constant fighting does not make any sense, but do not be delighted when you notice that your partner suddenly stopped arguing. At the time of the troubled relationship, it has been predicted that partner wants to minimize his or her emotional touches gradually by eliminating direct confrontation. At this time your partner is completely frustrated with you and no longer interested in caring you. However the exact opposite interaction can also be a warning situation where your partner suddenly makes a tremendous fight and pressure you and blow up on you for as such no reason and this trying to make an excuse to leave the relationship.
Stop and avoid physical intimacy gradually
Everyone should believe that physical intimacy is the most powerful way to sustain and maintain our relationship. When your partner starts creating physical distances to the next level, gradually disappears the cuddling, massage, foreplay, etc. It acts like a big crack in your relationship that makes it hard to proceed in future. It is also quite normal that bedroom routine of your partner might change due to numerous reasons, but if you find that your partner has stopped making advances altogether and are rather trying to avoid you, then it is a sign of losing interest in you which is difficult to change.
So, now we know the signs which can make us understand that the relationship is probably moving towards the end.
These are some common mistakes that we generally commit and escort our relationships towards breakup.
Misunderstanding of True love and Simple Attraction
Sometimes we fail to predict the actual love at the time of growing relation with the other. Sometimes we do not differentiate love and attraction. It needs to be understood that there is plenty of reason to be attracted towards a person but love is completely different from that. Attraction comes in a flash of a second and disappears just like that where as true love does not care for all these things. So it is one of the common factors of break up by choosing a wrong partner.
Freedom of Communication
At the time of trouble stage of your relationship you are investing more times in arguing and ending up making things worse. Proper and effective communication to each other can solve many problems and in this way you can justify and understand the exact view of your partner who is sitting just in front of you. But when your partner is not interested in sitting in front of you or avoids you to communicate or is scared to open up his or heart, then it is a big sign for the immediate break up of your relationship.
Comparing your Partner
Every person has their own ethics and values but sometimes when you are comparing your partner with your relatives, friends it is nothing but a great mistake that we suffer. Accept your partner the way he or she is and never compare them with others as it hurts their ego and personality and makes serious impact in your relationship.
Avoid making your Personal life Public
This is the new trend of these days where you can avail the scope of making your personal life public by using several social networking sites. But excessive such mediums make life very open in public and gradually start the scope of misunderstanding with your partner and gradually damage your relationship.
Think twice before getting committed
Commitment is such a thing that needs too much attention and understanding, so before giving commitment to your partner understand the person more carefully. Things like his or her likes and dislikes, beliefs and disbelief, nature, mentality and your future together are extremely important. Love is also different from a relationship. At the time of love, everything seems to be dreamlike and pleasant, but when it becomes mature in a relationship, everything will be practical and you need to be competent enough to bear the responsibilities. So think twice before committing to the partner; else the relationship may turn worse with time which will be difficult to mend.
Learn tricks to manage the differences
If you think that your partner will be just the carbon copy of yours then you live in fools’ paradise. You can never find that person. So you need to learn the tricks to adjust and manage the differences between you and your partner’s nature. Learn the art of managing and enjoy the relationship otherwise it can make a serious threat to the relationship.
Not showing Love
It is noticed that several relationships break down due to partner stopped expressing love. In the beginning everyone is keen to express love, but it gradually slows down and even stops in the course of time. The reason is very clear that you have changed considerably and you might lose interest in your partner. So always try to express love and affection towards your partner as there is no age bar to show love otherwise you are on the threshold of break up the relationship.