Every relationship has its ups and its downs and sometimes it goes in the wrong direction and in most cases we are not able to understand the actual reason of the same and we wonder about getting some solution. Whether it is breakups, or facing the reality of a one-sided romance, it is really painful and it disrupts your normal routine. Breaking up from your partner is not an easy decision where so much emotion and responsibilities have been invested and your identity was tied to the relationship. So you need to invest ample time to think again and again to take the final decision. Even if you have taken a decision to break up the relationship, it makes you to face a difficult position by knowing that it may become the cause of serious disappointment and heartbreak for you as well as your partner. You probably do not want that your partner to be in serious emotional condition and prefer to solve the situation by the respectful and sensitive way. Some people just try to start some difficult conversation with the aim to avoid unpleasant tasks. Others thought it as a task to be done and they simply try to get over it. But both the approaches are wrong and do not improve the situation. Something in the middle method works best. Think the situation and common cause that may affect your bonding, try to understand the other’s view, take more time and then act accordingly.
Saving a relationship is meaningful when both of you seriously participate and searching the common cause that contributed in losing your bonding. If the relationship has been for a short time, then it is more natural that anyone wants to close down the chapter and most of the time you have no other option but to say good bye. But Long-term relationships create a more complex situation and needs more care and time at the time of the troubled relationship. Here both of you have already devoted time, energy, money and heart and most sensitive thing happen when you have children. Whatever it is, if there is enough love and responsibilities then communication and a sincere effort may reconnect both. Many psychologists say that some couples come in their chamber for counseling and fighting each other indicates there is still some passion and care that exists in their relationships and it leads a good end after counseling. But in some other cases both the partners or any one loses interest completely and does not showing any anger or tendency of fighting, which is alarming situation because there is very little hope for that relation to exist.
So in case of longer relationship or relationship with children, the partners should think twice or thrice and take proper counseling also to recover from the situation and in that part both can have an urge to cooperate some basic tools of understanding at home. When you avoid simple basic problems in a long run relationship, it grows bigger with time and creates out of control situation at the end. So if you both have problems, then you have to sit together and speak categorically regarding the unwanted situation and try out to find out a general road, pertaining your common interest together, that may be a wise step to recover your relationship. Open and honest communication can be the best way to stop the break up successfully. Lastly, both of you can give sufficient time to recover from the situation. If you think, the problem can be solved after fixing it; you might be living in a fool’s paradise. So both of you have to give sufficient time and have to be patient during the process.
But above all the needs to avoid breaking up or accept it completely depends on both of your thinking perspectives, your intention of future life and the frequency and magnitude of troubled relationships.