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Alchemy of Love

Conscious Lovemaking

Are you aware?
Awareness is the continuum.

Are you present in every changing moment? Presence is the giving of love.

Your experience of Tao Tantric Arts will grow more sublime as you continue to practice. Sexual alchemy is worthy of an in-depth education as well as reviving what feels natural.

The Taoist sexual arts will heighten your awareness of the energetic, emotional, and spiritual connection with your lover. They will help you develop ways to enhance healing and harmonious energy exchange with the men in your life and can be applied to same-sex partners as well.

SEXUAL ENERGY IS SACRED

Sexuality and spirituality are linked for Taoists: the passion and intimacy that you cultivate in your relationship can deepen your whole spiritual life. Body, soul, and spirit are one being and work together naturally if we do not separate them and judge them as sinful or taboo. When our raw passionate energy is refined and channeled upward to higher energy centers, it becomes the power behind love, creativity, and communion with Universal Love.

Compassion is a high state of consciousness, which ripples out into your relationships and the world around you. When partners are committed to supporting the highest in each other, they become portals for unconditional love. A couple might start with a physical attraction of sexual energy (jing), develop psychic flow between them (qi), and then raise their consciousness to perceive the most subtle spiritual presence (shen). Other couples might start with a strong heart connection and become more physically close. When we consciously cultivate the virtues of loving-kindness, our qi flows well and synchronicity happens easily.

The more we give pleasure, love, and compassion, the more we receive. We can heal each other and help each other expand our consciousness. We urgently need this powerful energy to heal this world and generate more love for generations to come. The whole universe is continually pulsating and vibrating. When we orgasm, we harmonize our own pulsations with those of our partner and nature. Becoming a multiorgasmic lover is realizing that you are one with the continuous, orgasmic, creative, and mysterious universal process!

GROWING MORE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE

How can we grow more love in our life? The ancients cultivated the intimate arts for centuries. They considered physical health the foundation of a vigorous, enduring, and fulfilling love life and vice versa.

Our essence is love; it is mainly our emotional and thought patterns that get in the way of our remembering that. Taoists believed that negative emotions are toxic to our bodies, health, and relationships. Instead of suppressing emotions or dumping them on others, we can recycle them into vitality. The Inner Smile is an easy way to do this and bring out the best in yourself and your partner. Listen to your partner with love, look into his eyes, hold hands, and honestly express how you feel. Keep “in touch” by communicating and touching with tenderness, even during troubled times. When the storms hit, be present for each other. Anger or harsh words can hurt our vulnerable insides and damage trust and responsiveness in lovemaking for a long time. Practicing the Healing Sounds benefits our relationships.

Lovemaking and Enlightenment

Lovemaking brings our presence into focus with intense pleasure, multiplied energy, and loving connection. When both lovers unite in body, soul, and spirit, we are on the edge of enlightenment—the merging of Shakti /energy and Shiva/consciousness. When we surrender with expanded consciousness, we can potentially pass though the mysterious portal into oneness.

Stairway to Bliss

In conventional sex, arousal rises to a peak, followed by compression and explosion. (See fig. 9.1 showing two kinds of lovemaking in relation to pleasure and time.) With ejaculation, the man’s arousal quickly dives down; perhaps he will roll over and fall asleep. Yet the woman’s experience may be very different. Perhaps her water has not yet become warm, or it is still steaming and longing to move.

In contrast, the tantric orgasmic graph looks like a staircase to heaven: waves of orgasmic bliss keep rolling in. Each wave shows a rising of arousal and exchange of energy, shown as a figure eight. By consciously sublimating the energy and merging with the Tao, we allow these waves to ripple through the five-element cycle, where they can be expressed through the following natural urges. These expressions might pop up at any time and in any order. In the surprise is the art of spontaneity.

Fire: Connecting with your hearts and feeling the urge to kiss. The heart is pounding and the blood is pumping, expanding into a heart orgasm. Sensitive sex is expressed through devotion, adoration, and caresses, and through giving and receiving love.

Earth: Connecting through touch and taste and feeling the urge to massage, stroke, grab, and lick. Earthy sex is expressed as ravishing, pounding, grinding, and thrusting.

Metal: Connecting through breathing and the urge to smell; breathing each other in and being sensitive to the skin. Breathing speeds up into ecstatic sex.

Water: Connecting through the bones and the urge to bite. Vibration expands into spine and brain orgasms. Sensual sex is expressed as undulating, erotic movement.

Wood: Connecting with the eyes and the urge to move, surge, and change positions. Passionate sex is expressed as playful, vocal, sweaty, and emotionally intense.

Lovemaking may weave through the various qualities of the elements. If you are predominantly more of one element, or your lover is, you might pace with familiar qualities as well as surprise your partner with expressions of the other elements. Lovers can play with the alchemy of the elements. A “spiritual” lover might crave “earthy” sex for balance. All flavors can be expressions of love and are powerful medicine for the body, soul, and spirit.

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Fig. 9.1. Short-lived sex vs. tantric orgasm

Sexual Kung Fu

Men can have whole-body orgasms without ejaculating. Instead of exploding through the genitals, the vibrations rise through the organs, heart, and head and penetrate through the woman’s channels as it circulates through the man. This circuit multiplies the energy. Sexual Kung Fu is learning the art of seminal retention: how to pull up and circulate the sexual energy with breathing, mindfulness, and muscle control so that the semen is recirculated instead of ejaculated. It is essential that the man minimizes and eventually withholds from ejaculating or he will lose much of his energy.

Use the word circulate instead of stop coming, which could stop the flow of energy. If a man circulates the orgasmic energy, then he will lose less essential qi even if he does come, as he has distributed it inside his body and his lover’s. The woman also learns how to expand her experience of a genital orgasm into a whole-body orgasm. She will feel full and good for days!

Soul Orgasm

Soul orgasm is possible when you feel orgasmic energy circulating and waving through the body. Circulating energy in the Microcosmic Orbit balances warm yang energy and cool yin energy. It becomes a way to receive and give energy and also to generate love and light.

Once this pathway is open, you and your partner can exchange energy, linking your Orbits into figure eights, connecting through your genitals, tongues, foreheads, or hearts. The yin energy of the woman flows into the man and the yang energy of the man flows into the woman, creating a harmonious field of united energy. This exchange of energy can be felt even without touching. When a soul orgasm overflows beyond the physical, it can feel like a fountain rising out the crown. In bliss, souls can unite above the body. This energetic bonding deepens the potential of long-term relationships. Together you can cultivate a perennial garden of love, joy, trust, and respect.

Soul Mating

Have you ever longed for your soulmate? A soulmate is someone with whom you feel a mind-heart-spirit connection, which could have been cultivated in past lifetimes. This connection is cultivated by sharing in all three aspects of your being: thinking (views on life), feeling (what you care for), and willing (your lifestyle). Soul mating is a profoundly intimate experience of union and oneness. It can be felt at a distance. You can experience orgasmic lovemaking on the other side of the world from your partner! Like remote viewing or remote healing, remote soul union is a vivid reality.

Shakti dances, Shiva plays
Shakti swirls inside my body
Rising, rippling, rushing,
in upward waterfalls.

Bobbing golden bubbles
Shimmer through silk
Shakti emerges for air.

No mind, open throat, Ahhh
Hair extending into rainbow fields
wind blowing, allowing.

Shiva’s musical fountains
Wash her with bliss
As she lies spread open
On endless shores of love.

Keys to Energetic Lovemaking

While lovemaking is instinctive, the refinements of the sexual arts are not always obvious. Keep in mind the following tantric concepts as you explore the deeper aspects of sexual alchemy.

Invitation. Your openness is very seductive. Enjoy following as well as leading. Tune in to your partner’s signals, like subtle expressions and breathing changes.

Subtle communication. Lovemaking is like a conversation. Your vagina will become more alive and subtle. Feel your vagina from within. Allow natural sounds of pleasure to arise freely.

Active-Receptive. Touch with tenderness and presence. Receive your partner’s gift of love through his or her penetration. Give your gift of love through your breasts. If you are too passive, your energy is too heavy and your mind sinks. If you are too tense and uptight, your body is more rigid and the energy does not flow well. Being active-receptive is a co-creative, flowing dance.

Breath. Let your breathing be free and wild. Breathe in and let in the cosmic orgasm, channeled through you and your partner. Allow yourself to soar in the vast ocean of bliss! Breathe out and let go.

Sound. Breathe with an open mouth and allow sound to naturally arise. The sounds may range from deep moaning to heart-opening “aaaaahs” to high-pitched blissful sounds. Be willing to feel emotion and pleasure and to express them.

Relaxation. Relax your jaw and throat. Your jaw reflects how open your hips are. If you are tight above, you will be tight below.

Touch your partner with the impulse arising from your whole body. Feel your touch sinking in beyond the surface of the skin or stroke the energy field of your partner.

Kiss with your yoni and heart, not just your mouth or from your head. Become aware of your yoni gently squeezing when you kiss.

Dance with your inner body. Flexing your yoni muscles during intercourse heightens pleasurable sensations for you and your lover. Gently contract your muscles to grip on your man’s penis. Rhythmically squeeze and relax. Explore different sensations of prolonged gentle contractions, firm squeezes, or a series of quick pulsations. Be aware of building energy together.

Riding movements. While riding on top of your lover, you can play with the Crane Neck (fire cycle) and Turtle Neck (water cycle) while you brush his body with your hair or breasts. Sacral Screwing (Belt Channels) sets the energy spiraling up through your bodies.

Playing the Jade Stalk. While sucking your partner’s “Jade Stalk” (also called “playing the flute”), open the back of your throat. Allow passionate energy to surge through you and play up and down your Core Channel. Send energy up through his Core Channel with your intention.

Love paint. If your partner ejaculates in your mouth, feel the photons as bursts of liquid light essence! Drink the love potion and paint your face with nature’s rejuvenating lotion with gratitude.

Channeling orgasmic energy. As you are making love, smile to your kidneys, liver, spleen, lungs, heart, and brain. Smile into your lover’s organs with the intention of growing virtues with the orgasmic energy. Orgasmic energy amplifies our feelings and makes the cells multiply in the right way.

Intuitive movement. Move your body intuitively so your partner’s Jade Stalk stimulates the reflexology zones inside your yoni that are calling for healing. The penis is the best acupuncture needle in the world!

Spontaneous postures. Be aware of where the orgasmic energy is moving. Back bends open the heart to orgasmic energy; forward bending postures expand the kidneys to receive orgasmic vibrations; side bends allow the liver or spleen to fill with orgasmic energy.

Hands-on healing. Allow your hands to touch or hold organs that are calling for extra healing energy. Orgasmic energy is potent medicine!

Guiding the energy. Help each other open the channels and circulate the sexual energy by stroking your hands up the spine or down the Front Channel of your partner.

Timing. If you or your partner is tired after a long day or week or after a big meal, rest to replenish your qi; when you are well rested you will have more to offer each other. Morning is a time of uprising energy. Making love in the morning is energizing and gives us the openness and joy to greet the day as well as any stresses that may occur. Each organ has an optimal time when it receives healing energy. The ancient doctors would give prescriptions of when and in which postures to make love to heal specific organs.

Energy exchange. Smile with loving attention to the energy in yourself and your partner. Feel your movements extending into each other. Connect your tongues or sexual centers and feel your energy weaving through each other. Allow your excess yin qi to stream into your partner and your partner’s excess yang to stream into you, making harmony.

Third eye connection. Connect at your third eyes and feel one circle of energy that moves through them and your sexual centers. The woman’s third eye is a masculine sexual organ (yang within the yin) and the man’s is feminine (yin within the yang).

Heart connection. Connect your hearts and let the energy overflow like a fountain of love.

Belly connection. Place your warm hands on your lover’s belly to center. Lie belly-to-belly and breathe deeply into the dantian to ground.

Multiorgasmic energy is stimulated by breathing aroused energy upward and letting it expand from your heart to your body, your loved ones, the earth, and the vast universe. Affirm: “Create wisdom, compassion, and vitality in us all.”

Being in the moment. Be totally present and caress like you may die the next day. Each moment with this being is precious!

Nesting. Take the time to lie together and breathe the orgasmic energies into your bones. Circulate the rejuvenating energy into your Microcosmic Orbit and collect it. When you spoon together and connect your feet, the qi in your meridians—which end in your toes—will harmonize.

imageSeamless Play

My partner’s full presence allows me to open my heart and body in trust so we can both surrender to the bliss of union. He takes me on a journey and I respond with energy in motion. Cascading sounds express my pleasure. En ergy spirals in and around us. We are channels of the universal orgasmic life force weaving through us, for the sake of all beings. Deep peace soaks into our bones as we nest.

Our joyful play and touch throughout the day is a continual, seamless foreplay. We meditate together and experience alchemical bliss just sitting still in the same room. When I travel far away I still feel his presence cuddling and comforting me and I do not feel alone. I am so grateful to have our warm and loving connection in my life.

MINKE DE VOS

Sapphic Lovemaking

Jade egg practices can enhance polarity in lesbian relationships. The woman with a stronger yang core can chose to practice more standing, empowering Qigong, while the woman who has a more yin core can choose to practice more yin. Cuddling is so relaxing and nourishing. It relieves depression and anxiety and strengthens our immune system.

The jade egg practices are a natural form of penetration that will prevent weakening or atrophy of the vagina muscles, which can occur if there is no penetration for a long time. “If you don’t use it you lose it!”

Whether you choose to make love with a woman or man, these playful ways to weave the jade egg into your lovemaking add another dimension to your love life. These movements can be a tantric massage to help a woman open up to her deep yoni and whole-body bliss.

 

image  Pulling the String to Bliss

Making love, one lover can pull the string of her lover’s egg as she squeezes her yoni and channels the energy internally. Here are some playful variations . . .

 

SEXUAL MASSAGE PRACTICES

The following sexual massage practices are a great way to get the sexual energy flowing in both partners.

image  Energy Massage for Your Lover

This energy massage spreads awakened sexual energy to the three dantians, supporting personal power and will in the lower dantian, growing love and compassion in the heart dantian, and expanding the ability to grow mental and spiritual energy, thinking, insight, and intuition in the upper dantian.

The massage accelerates the frequency of energy in your partner and clears the passages for multiorgasmic experience by facilitating communication between the three centers.

image  Quality of Touch

Slow, sensual, warm, smooth, continuous, flowing, penetrating touch will move energy through the density of the physical body and awaken the sexual energy on a cellular level.

Light feathery touch with the fingertips will awaken the sensitivity and move energy in the first Wei Qi field, which is like a second skin.

Stroking the qi about a foot or more away from the body in the subtle energy fields will help move the soul and spiritual levels of your partner’s being. Become aware of the layers of auric field with the intention of harmonizing and integrating these layers.

Creating sacred space. Start by connecting with the golden smiling light washing down the front, back, and center of your body. Feel it flow into your roots, grounding in the unconditional support of the earth. Draw energy from the earth up into your body during the massage.

Connect with the heavens, stars, sun, moon, and planets and with the vast healing energy of the great eternal Tao. Connect with your guides, guardians, and beings of light, and those of your partner. Call on the Divine to create a safe and sacred space for this healing in accordance with divine will.

Warming the stove. Sitting beside your lover, place one hand on the Sexual Palace/organs and the other on the dantian/navel. Start massaging in a breaststroke away from you, moving your hands apart and together again in circles. This direction expands the qi. You can also reverse this direction, moving your hands away on the outside and toward you in the middle. This direction gathers qi between the centers.

By connecting the sexual organs with the navel center dantian, you build core power and “warm the stove” below the navel. This helps build sexual fire and digestive fire. For women this is very important for evaporating excess dampness and bloating.

Warming the heart. Move your upper hand over your partner’s heart, keeping your bottom hand over the Sexual Palace. Massage with the same circular movements as above, while making the heart sound, “ha-a-a-a-a-w.”

Lighting up the third eye. Keep one hand on the Sexual Palace and move the other to the third eye. Massage in circles as above. You can also do some light tapping with your middle finger on the third eye. Move the sexual waters up to fuel the inner light in the third eye.

Figure eights. Sweep with both hands in a figure-eight movement from the Sexual Palace across the solar plexus, around the heart, and over the throat, crossing again over the solar plexus and back down to the Sexual Palace. Make continuous eights, moving with your whole body. You can also reverse the direction.

String of pearls. With the same weaving, you will now add another loop to your eight, making three loops that integrate the lower, middle, and upper dantians. Start at the Sexual Palace, cross the solar plexus around the heart, cross at the throat, and circle around the third eye and crown. Cross back down over the throat and solar plexus to return to the Sexual Palace. This can also be done in the reverse direction. Use your intuition to feel which way the qi wants to flow.

Collecting energy. Help your partner collect the energy by spiraling your hands outward counterclockwise nine times, then inward clockwise nine times. Press gently inward, sending your loving blessing into your partner’s pearl.

image  Reflexology Massage

Connect the reflexology zones along the Jade Stalk (penis) with the associated organs. See the sexual reflexology organ correspondences in fig. 5.2 (page 181).

If you are helping to raise the energy, follow the arousal and what makes your partner hard. If you are sublimating the energy, massage from the kidney zone toward the head. If you are cooling down and settling into peace, massage from the head down to the kidney zone.

image  Fountains of Bliss

Sit between your lover’s legs. Make a breaststroke with your arms, spreading his aroused qi in three expanding fountains up through his body.

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Fig. 9.2. Sexy, romantic lovers

Sexy Lover

I’ve got a whole lot of lov’n
My fountain is boil’n over
Stroking down my skin
Sending my lover in a spin
I’m a sexy lover!

I’ve got a whole lot of lov’n
Rolling with my baby in bed
Sliding in sweaty heat
Pulsing to heart’s beat
I’m a sexy lover!

You’ve got a oooo lot of lov’n
Present in every move
With eyes of a hawk
And muscles of a rock
You sexy lover!

You’ve got a oooo lot of lov’n
Tasting every inch of my body
Creamy and fully baked
Lick the icing off my cake
You sexy lover!

We’ve got a whole lot of lov’n
Flowing with the steam of life
Alive in every cell
Glowing in love’s spell
We’re sexy lovers!

HARMONIOUS EXCHANGE

Qi flows between us continuously. By consciously exchanging energy, we can harmonize our relationships and develop deeper, more sensitive friendships (see fig. 9.3 below). Practice with your partner or a close friend to bring subtler dimensions to your friendship. Some of the exchanges can be practiced by yourself, by imagining your inner man or inner woman in front of you.

image Partner Breathing

Allow your breath to carry masculine and feminine essences between you and your partner.

image  Sacred Kiss

The partner with feminine essence channels the beauty of nature into her mouth and lips: sunrises, sunsets, forests, oceans. . . . She implants all this beauty onto her partner’s lips, forehead, cheek, or hand. He breathes in the essence.

The partner with masculine essence channels the vastness of the heavens, stars, sun, moon, planets, sacred geometry . . . and fuses it in his mouth.

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Fig. 9.3. Weaving of energy through lovers

He implants through his lips the universal presence onto his partner’s lips, forehead, cheek, or hand. She breathes in the essence.

image  Humming Hugs

Hug your partner heart-to-heart with your left ears together.

Both partners hum “mmmmm” warmly from your hearts and feel yourselves merging into the oneness of resonance.

image  Channeling Cosmic Polarity

In this dynamic breathing practice, two people channel cosmic masculine and feminine energy to increase polarity. Sit with your partner with your eyes closed. The man—or the partner who wants to increase masculine essence—sits tall with palms facing upward to the heavens. He channels the sun and stars into his crown, down the Core Channel, and into his “wand of light” (penis).

The woman—or the partner who wants to increase feminine essence—sits tall with palms facing downward to the earth. She channels the moon and earth into her perineum and yoni, up the Core Channel, and into her heart and breasts.

Both partners breathe together from opposite polarities. Allow the qi to gather in the heart and sexual organs with each exhalation. Then open your eyes and give the gift of light and warmth over to your partner, letting it pour over into a circular flow. Follow with the next practice, Heart to Sexual Palace Circular Breathing.

image  Heart to Sexual Palace Circular Breathing

In electrical circuitry, a positive pole flows into a negative pole. On our bodies, what protrudes is positive and what recedes is negative. So there is a natural energy attraction between a woman’s breasts and the flat chest of a man, and between a man’s Jade Stalk and a woman’s yoni (fig. 9.4).

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Fig. 9.4. Channeling cosmic polarity through the heart and Sexual Palace

Partners sit facing each other. The woman exhales with the heart sound (“ha-a-a-a-a-w”), overflowing her love from her breasts to the man’s heart. Her partner inhales and receives it. He then brings the energy down to his Jade Stalk and sends his love over to her yoni as he makes the heart sound. She inhales and receives it. Both their arms can follow the same circle.

image Embracing Fire and Water

In a standing position, both partners hug each other and place their right hands over the back of the partner’s heart (fire) and their left hands over the back of the partner’s kidneys (water). Breathe together with love and peace.

image Linking Orbits

Embrace your partner with your foreheads touching, becoming aware of your Orbit and the Orbit of your partner (fig. 9.5). Your tongues can be kissing or resting on your own palates, tasting the sweet nectar of the Heavenly Pool. Sense the Orbits linking up through any of the chakras or all of them. You may feel the life pulse coursing through both of you like one heartbeat.

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Fig. 9.5. Linking orbits, dantians, and chakras

If your Orbits are both running in the fire cycle, the qi dives and penetrates into both partners, tying you together like a bow!

If your Orbits are both running in the water cycle, the front doors of your hearts can open together and waterfalls of blissful qi run down your backs! Once your Orbits are flowing the possibilities are endless.

image Back-to-Back Orbit Breathing

Sit back-to-back with your partner. Entrain with your partner’s breathing until you are breathing as one. Your kidneys will become warm and feel supported. Feel the current of qi in your partner’s spine.

One partner initiates inverted breathing and rocks forward slightly while exhaling. The other will rock backward while inhaling. Allow your bodies to gently rock forward and backward together with the qi flow.

image Fire and Water Breathing

Sit back-to-back with legs wide and elbows interlaced (fig. 9.6).

One partner bends forward, making the kidney sound, “choo-oo-oooo.” This opens the kidneys and stretches the Urinary Bladder channels on the backs of the legs.

The other partner rides on top in a back bend, making the heart sound, “ha-a-a-a-a-w.” This opens the heart and stretches the Heart channels in the arms.

Both partners inhale together and suspend for a moment in the upright position before rocking in the opposite direction.

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Fig. 9.6. Fire and Water Breathing, back-to-back

image Double Eagle

Sit back-to-back, legs wide. Keep your elbows interlaced with one another and your arms extended, forming two wings together. Feel the Wing points at the back of your hearts connected and warm.

Sway sideways, with one wing down and the other up. Circle the upper wing forward while the lower wing circles backward, so that you soar like eagles catching the wind. Imagine you are soaring up over the trees, over the clouds, past the moon and sun. Then return through the clouds, over the forests, and back to your nest.

Say “thank you” to your partner with a gentle wiggle in your back. Slowly peel off and turn to each other. Bow and say, “I set you free!”

image  Exchanging Energies

I am opening up to sweet surrender of the luminous love-light of the One.

ANONYMOUS

For the moving exercises, stand in Taiji stance with one foot back at a forty-five-degree angle. Shift your weight forward by pushing your back foot and shift your weight back by pushing your front foot. Change legs after each exercise. Between exercises, stand and get in touch with your “pillar of light.”

image Pillars of Light

Stand in an open gesture with your palms facing each other. Connect your personal stars. Ask permission to share subtle communication and communion. Become a conduit for unconditional love.

Mostly we meet on the horizontal human plane; here you can support each other’s path by meeting in the vertical plane. Feel like two pillars that uphold the temple of goodness, truth, and beauty. Support the highest in each other. Feel your spines and Core Channels aligning and entraining in parallel tones like tuning forks.

image Soul Gazing

Look deeply into your friend’s eyes and third eye, creating an even triangle. See into his/her inner goodness and mystery. Express the depth of your love with your smiling eyes. Become calm and empty your mind. Breathe deeply. Keep your eyes open, soft, and panoramic, embracing each other’s whole body and aura.

Two primal human needs are to love and be loved and to live in freedom. Ordinarily possessive attachment creeps in as we want to get closer, the opposite to freedom. The more we let go, the closer we get. As the limitations of the personality fall away, the celestial beauty of the soul attracts us naturally. We can experience our essential unity as our consciousness becomes inclusive. Melt feelings of separation. We are different but not separate. Feel merged yet individual. Let your hearts relax and become vast and all-embracing.

Affirm: “We are one. I honor you as an aspect of my universal self.”

Practice Bone Breathing together. The bones are transpersonal channels for light frequencies. Come to peace by simply doing nothing—a practice called Silent Tantra. By just being together, we can heal relationships and make space for issues to shift on their own.

image  Waves of Qi

Stand in a Taiji stance with one foot forward. Shift your weight forward by pushing your back foot and shift your weight back by pushing your front foot.

Allow a tidal wave of unconditional love to flow from behind you and wash toward your partner. Practice inverted breathing: as you exhale, your partner inhales.

Send the wave as you exhale. Receive the wave from your partner as you inhale. As you move forward your partner moves backward and vice versa. Let the qi breathe back and forth between you. Balance the giving and receiving aspects of your relationship. Touch into the naked energy of the primordial void and become fresh as a sea breeze.

image Seesaw

As you exhale, swing a wave up the Core Channel of your partner to his crown. Receive the wave up to your crown as you inhale. Indicate this seesaw motion with your arms, making a U-shaped vessel between you. Breathe back and forth. As you exhale, sound “choo-oo-oo-oo.”

image Wheel of Light

Taking turns, one partner stands in a receptive gesture as the other partner showers blessings of rainbow light, love, and adoration. Inhale up your Core Channel and send a rainbow from your crown into your partner’s crown. Shower rainbow light down your partner’s Core Channel, with a descending “he-e-e-e-e-e” (for him) or “she-e-e-e-e-e” (for her).

Become a hollow bamboo for the light to shine through. Become vast and empty, full of creative potential to grow your relationship. Yang light fills the yin vessel. Yin water fills yang’s protective vessel. Yin water balances yang fire, within and between you. Bless each other with harmony. Feel the wheel generate light.

image Infinity Orbits

Connect your Microcosmic Orbits like an infinity sign between you (fig. 9.7). As you exhale, swing the energy over to your partner and follow it up the back and down the front of his or her Orbit. As you inhale, swing the energy over to yourself and follow it up and down your Orbit.

Alternate back and forth. Build a momentum that wants to go on infinitely, in a silken continuum. Indicate this flow with your arms, offering and scooping toward you. Extend your fingers of light to move the qi in this uniting flow. You can make this infinity flow around each of the dantians as follows:

Lower dantian. Weave Sexual Qi in a figure eight. The crossing point is a central Sexual Palace between you. Exhale and toss a qi ball over to your partner, who catches it and moves it in a loop around the core—from the root to Mingmen, to the navel, and back to the root—generating life force.

Middle dantian. Weave qi in a figure eight. The crossing point is a central heart between you. Exhale and toss the qi ball over to your partner’s solar plexus, circulating it up his spine, forward through his throat, and around his heart center, generating love.

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Fig. 9.7. Infinity Orbits exchanging qi at the heart

Upper dantian. Weave light qi in a figure eight. The crossing point is a central third eye between you. Exhale the qi ball to your partner’s throat and up the back of his or her head, circling it over the crown, generating light

Follow your intuition to generate qi in any center, wherever you would like to grow more power, love, or consciousness. This can shift from moment to moment. You can also weave small loops through the throat or solar plexus, wherever you feel more energetic clearing or connection is needed. Breathe together and embrace both Orbits in your awareness simultaneously. Feel your auric fields overlapping and glowing.

image  Ocean of Compassion

Swim in fluid golden light with a breaststroke. Scoop energy into your Wing point, receiving compassionate energy from the universe through the back door to the front of the heart center. Exhale, sounding “ha-a-a-a-a-w,” and let compassion flow from your heart forward to your partner in a freely giving gesture.

Your partner, the receiver, inhales “ha-a-a-a-a-w” with an open mouth into his heart center. Then he exhales and opens his wings from the Wing point, making a big embrace with his arms. Let your bodies be moved by the power of love.

After the heart chakra you can repeat this process for each of the seven chakras. Finish by repeating the heart chakra exercise again. Change roles and repeat the sequence. To close, cross your arms over your heart center. Generate reverence and respect for each other.

image  Fountain of Life

Tap into a bottomless well of unconditional love and joy. Both partners inhale “oo-oo-oo” like sucking up a straw, pulling up a fountain of energy between you. Make a descending sound “la-a-a-a-a-w” as you let it shower down your backs. Follow the fountain movement with your arms and your whole body, rocking forward and backward.

Play in the spray! Frolic in the light of ecstasy! Shed karmic heaviness and conditioning off your back so you can be spontaneous in the moment. Lift lusty desires into the light of love. Let the overflow of love infuse every cell of your being. Soak in the warm mist.

image Ball of Joy

Create a collection ball between you to grow joy and love. Create a sacred space. Embrace with one arm up and the other arm down. Embrace like angels without ruffling each other’s feathers. Feel embraced by a soft pink cloud.

Draw in warm, loving energy from the universe. Feel the ball pulsating magnetically between you. Smell the fragrances of the flower of friendship. Pack and condense the qi ball between your hands like a pink snowball. Hold it close to your heart, embracing your blessings for cultivating harmony in your relationships.

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Open your heart and stretch the qi ball into two balls. Mirror dance, holding on to your common balls. Let the balls stretch and play between you. Let the qi move you, with no leader and no follower. Enjoy the buoyant currents of co-creative flow!

The Zen poet, Ryokan, describes this playful exchange of love between people as:

. . . playing ball,
Together in the fields—
Two people, one Heart. *10

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Send protective rings of light around each other. Toss a qi ball or comet around. Starting and ending at the waist, spiral the qi counterclockwise up the chakras and clockwise down the chakras. Indicate that the ball goes behind your back. Let it spin like a cocoon of light. Bundle up in warm qi.

You can also do Push Hands in Taiji stance with your right foot and right wrist forward. Put the left palm in the right palm. Touch your right wrists together and circle them, like you are stirring the same cauldron, front to the left. A circuit of energy connects your “hugging points,” C7. Switch arms, legs, and the direction of stirring. This helps resolve competition and overcontrolling issues in a relationship.

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Stand with your hands in prayer position at your heart. Be still and come to peace with your true nature. Give thanks for the gift of love and harmony you receive from the universe.

Bow to your partner, saying with your eyes, “The Divine in me bows to the Divine in you.” Say to your partner, “I love you. I bless you. I set you free.”

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Practice the triple warmer sound, “he-e-e-e-e-e,” to sweep out any energies you may have picked up that do not feel right in your personal energy field. Smile down to balance your emotional body. Center yourself in your sovereign space.

Divine Marriage
I love the way you move,
The way your passion rises,
Pulsing, waving, spiraling
Born into life
I bow to you, dear sex, and say I do.

I love the way you radiate
Shining light on my mystery
Pulsing, understanding, embracing
Born into consciousness
I bow to you, dear heart, and say I do.

We are the marriage
Of fire and water
Our child plays in the steam of creation
Born into humanity
We bow to you, dear Divine, and say we do.

MULTIORGASMIC POTENTIAL

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Taoist Sexual Alchemy

Tantric sexuality contains three basic levels of progression, referred to as “lower tantra,” “middle tantra,” and “highest tantra.” All three levels of practice mutually support one another.

Lower tantra emphasizes prolonged sex through the holding back of climaxing and the creation of valley orgasms. Many techniques also develop increased pleasure. The danger, if lust and pleasure are the only goals, is that the benefits are only temporary.

Middle tantra has spiritual overtones, working with healing, growing virtues, opening channels, and developing the chakras. Through consciously exchanging energy, more harmonious relationships can be encouraged. The Taoist practices for cultivating sexual energy are effective for this.

Highest tantra is the sublimation of aroused or unaroused energy into divine union. In Taoist practice, this is accomplished in the alchemical process of Kan and Li, meaning water and fire. By reversing fire and water, a steaming process refines sexual essence and uplifts it to higher centers.

The Metamorphosis of Inner Alchemy

Through sexual energy we got here.
Through its transmutation we return to our spiritual home.

Inner Alchemy is a spiritual practice of returning to the source, the Tao. When we incarnate, spirit (shen) generates energy (qi), and energy generates essence (jing). Essence then generates the body. In alchemy, we reverse this process to return to our original nature, returning body to jing to qi to spirit. In the metamorphosis of a cocoon into a butterfly, we can sense the power of the transmutation of matter into spirit.

As part of the reversal process, the fire of the heart descends and the sexual waters of the kidneys ascend, making an alchemical kitchen in your Core Channel. Imagine a fire under a cauldron filled with sexual essence: the fire brings the water to a boil. The cooking of raw substance creates steam, which is intensely healing and can dissolve old, stubborn patterns and blockages in the meridians and vital organs, as well as in the nervous, lymphatic, bone marrow, and blood circulatory systems.

Sexual alchemy couples the inner male and female essences within the body; our yin and yang energies literally make love inside and produce a blissful field of Yuan Qi, or unconditional love. Yuan Qi is a conductor for spirit to infuse the body. As we practice Inner Alchemy, we become sensitive to the collective spirit as a vast ocean in and around us. Body, energy, and spirit fuse into a single elixir field. The universe is no longer perceived as separate or outside but coexists inside of our beingness.

Sexual Alchemy Practices

The Kan and Li practices unite the masculine and feminine forces within, allowing the immortal body to be “impregnated.” To lay the ground for the growth of the immortal seed, the energy body, qi, and channels need to be purified through awareness and deep, coherent breathing. Through responsible caring attention, the soul and spirit bodies mature.

Vital elements of the alchemical union of sun and moon are concentration/metal/sun and the internal cultivation of life force/wood/ moon. If the body is still, the generative force is strong enough to turn the five elements back to their source, into one whole. In dual cultivation the arousal is maintained in still penetration of the sexual organs. Through one-pointed concentration of mind for over twenty-eight minutes, profound absorption is possible. The heart, seat of Original Spirit, becomes serene. Cosmic orgasm can be experienced as energy melting in the heart chakra into radiance and immense bliss.

The indiscriminate loss of sexual essence from the lower gates prevents the sublimation of this divine ecstasy. One doesn’t “let down” but “let rise” into higher consciousness. The signs of a beautiful “Aha!” moment are the temporary effortless cessation of heartbeat and breathing, as when we say, “It took my breath away.”

Wisdom, love, and compassion naturally arise out of the “reborn” soul body. This body can be still yin and illusory, like a doll. When this translucent, holographic, dreamlike body is investigated, we can apprehend only emptiness. Its lack of separate existence is like a rose, which cannot exist without heaven and earth. Through the realization of emptiness, interdependence, and oneness, an adept can attain enlightenment in the form of the primordial spirit body. Now this “holy body” is immortal, a constant experience of spontaneous great bliss fused with emptiness.

image Water Wheels Meditation

This is a solo meditative practice that refines sexual energy and balances the feminine and masculine energies in the deep Thrusting Channels.

image Thrusting Channels

image Golden Boy and Silver Girl

image  Refining the Energy

image Divine Union Meditation

This sensualization balances the universal yin and yang aspects of your Self. Marry your inner woman and inner man together to give birth to your inner sage.

image Kan and Li Meditation

Kan and li mean “water” and “fire.” This Taoist Inner Alchemy practice brings the fire of the heart energy under the creative essence of water, like a volcano under the ocean. Your loving smile is the sunshine glistening on the water. The steam is Jing Qi, refined sexual energy.

Your alchemical kitchen takes place in the Core Channel, where the fire will cause the water to boil and create steam. With this steam we open up and purify our energy body. It has the potential to dissolve ancestral knots and deeply rooted patterns. The steam rises up and fuels our spiritual development.

image Steaming Sexual Energy

image Self-Intercourse

The ability to have a spiritual orgasm is within us; stimulation from outside is not required. One universe does not go hump another universe! Couple the fire god in your pineal gland (cosmic love) with the water goddess in your Sexual Palace (cosmic creative energy). Join the cosmic couple in the neutral force of your center with loving, smiling energy. In other words, in your Core Channel, join Shakti/power—in the base of your body—with Shiva/consciousness—in your crown.

Feel the center of your brain and your uterus pulsating together. Then bring them together like long-lost lovers in your navel center. Let their energies make love, blue female on top of the red male. They can be in pen etrating, sitting meditation posture with erect spines. Allow their orgasmic pulsations to spread everywhere in your body.

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Let the divine union give birth to an animated pearl with awakened, heightened inner senses. Move this pearl through the chakras and channels, checking them out and clearing them. Check out your inner world like a child, for the first time.

Let the pearl settle back into the nest/cauldron/core and be nourished by steam. Sense your inner being smiling with contentment, wholeness, and the harmony of yin and yang.

Taste the nectar that drips down from the Heavenly Pool in your mouth and swallow it down to your navel.

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EVOLUTION OF DIVINE HUMAN TREASURES

The Taoists saw the human body as a microcosm of the natural world, as illustrated in fig. 9.8. Our inner world is portrayed in this image as a landscape with mountains, rivers, streams, lakes, pools, forests, fires, and stars.

The nine sacred mountain peaks are like funnels that draw down universal energy. The boy and girl represent the testicles and the ovaries connected to the kidneys and eyes. They are stepping on the water wheel to pump the sexual waters upward.

In the center is the seed of long life and wisdom (the immortal fetus or the golden pearl). Below this golden pearl are the cow herder and the weaving maid, who have the ability to store energy and to go inward to instill quietude. The maid weaves silk out of moonlight with her mind, using gentle, soft, long, and deep breaths like spinning or pulling silk, drawing in the cosmic forces and weaving an internal web of qi.

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Fig. 9.8. Ancient image of Inner Alchemy
(Illustration courtesy of The Taoist Soul Body by Mantak Chia)

The meaning of life is finding your gift, and the purpose of life is to give it away.

ANONYMOUS

We are so fortunate to be freely exposed to once-secret tantric teachings from various spiritual traditions. Does the vast perspective of the Tao seem “beyond you” or do you dare to venture “beyond”? Allow yourself to be touched by the intangible, caressed by the sun’s warmth, the wind’s breath, and the ocean’s flow. Awareness of our loving, creative nature lays the path for multipossibilities of orgasmic experiences. May our cultivation of potent sexual energy fuel greater love, light, and goodwill in our lives.

Sexual energy is the primal power of evolution. Evolving our limitless potential is possible with the masterful transformation of sex, love, and spirit. What I most want is to inspire women to cherish the magnificent, divine treasures that we are and to remind them how to cultivate the pure sexual life-force energy within us. We can create our lives consciously and commune with all beings with loving-kindness and compassion. I would love to see us playing with these arts, making them our own, and sharing them with our loved ones. The ripple effect multiplies the love and bliss!

The Divine Feminine is emerging and calls the Divine Masculine to walk hand in hand on this path of love. We walk together and make love together, merging heaven and earth through our oneness. Out of this harmony the new earth evolves with respect and reverence for all life.

May your feminine treasures be abundant, making this world a more beautiful place.

SHARED WITH LOVE,
MINKE DE VOS