One in six couples have a hard time conceiving. One in six. That’s approximately 7.5 to 12 million people in the United States alone. There are many reasons why. What I’ve found through my work in my holistic fertility practice is that often it’s not for the reasons the doctors tell you.
I wrote this book because I discovered a grossly under-explored area of infertility. Some of the topics I cover are going to be new concepts to you. Some may even push your buttons. Trust me, this is good. Whenever we are getting triggered by something, it’s because it is magnifying an unhealed part of ourselves—often a part that we don’t want to look at. And that can be painful and can elicit some frustrating emotions. My wish is for you to use this as an opportunity to examine what’s being presented and to move beyond these patterns that have been keeping you stuck. Unfortunately, sometimes that means looking at some of the things we’ve pushed down, things that have hurt us or things we didn’t think were related to our having a baby. My request is that you take a deep breath and consider what I’m presenting. I didn’t believe some of these concepts myself until I started seeing them work in my life and in my practice. And as a bonus, not only do these concepts and techniques affect fertility, but their effects ripple out to every area of your life!
I kept encountering smart, driven women who had been on excruciating journeys filled with frustration, anger, and sadness. They were making themselves crazy trying to eat the exact amount of the correct food, having sex at precisely the right moment, fearing another miscarriage, doing a fertility dance, and spending tens of thousands of dollars on invasive treatments … and none of it was working. It broke my heart to see women who would make amazing mothers unable to get what they wanted and deserved.
But guess what? None of it has to be that way. We all hear about these women who struggled for years and then “miraculously” got pregnant. These victories don’t have to be few and far between, and they don’t have to happen to “other” people.
I had been working with patients dealing with chronic pain and cancer, gently introducing the idea to them that there is always an emotional cause that precipitates physical pain or health problems. Once that emotional cause is addressed, the physical condition no longer needs to be present trying to grab your attention. And my clients had some great successes.
Then I began to realize that a number of close family members and friends were having difficulty getting pregnant. They were trying everything they’d been told to do, but it wasn’t working. I thought, well, the same principles should apply to fertility that apply to other physical conditions, so I began working with my sister-in-law. She’d had two losses and wasn’t sure she even wanted to try again. But in six months she was pregnant, and nine months later my little nephew debuted on the planet. This spurred me to begin empowering as many women as possible to take charge of their journeys, and it’s been the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done.
I work with my private clients using a combination of reiki (to clear energy blocks and heal physical and emotional issues), intuition (tapping into my client’s subconscious to see what experiences and beliefs are holding her back), and mindset coaching (techniques that help my clients process and release whatever traumas or beliefs have been unearthed). This three-pronged approach is key in moving women through their blocks. The mindset component is the thing that makes the difference in whether or not they are getting pregnant. It’s absolutely paramount that you learn to retrain your brain and rewire your thought process. When you do, things begin to shift on a cellular level, and so-called miracles happen.
This book will help you see that you can create your own “miracle.” You have way more power on this fertility journey than you’ve been led to believe. This knowledge can help you get more connected to your intuition and your body as opposed to your head. Unfortunately we have drifted further and further from our connection with our bodies. So we rely on doctors and other well-meaning people to tell us what’s wrong with us. We are subconsciously affected by the fear-mongering and insensitivity that strip us of our innate power.
Did you know that in many European countries it’s not unheard of for a woman to have a healthy baby at fifty years old? Why, in the US, are they warning us that our biological clock is ticking out at twenty-eight? Entertain the idea that our capability to conceive doesn’t necessarily just drop severely on its own, but rather it might be due to a combination of factors we don’t even realize are operating in the background. The awesome thing is that they’re all changeable! Consider the possibility that this journey doesn’t have to be horrible. That your body isn’t failing you. That you have the power to shift your situation.
I am so grateful for all of my clients who’ve helped me learn as much as I’ve helped them to grow. You are warriors. You are rock stars. You are my heroes. Thank you for being brave and for being open to taking the reins of your journey.
This book is presented in six chapters and outlines the areas where we can get stuck and how we can move forward. It was purposely written as a “girlfriend’s guide.” It is intentionally not medical or cold or sterile. I’m writing to you as if you were my best friend and private client. We will be looking at external factors affecting fertility, beliefs, physical conditions, and the Law of Attraction as it applies to fertility. They are really all so interconnected that it’s hard to separate them. But hopefully this gives you an idea of why and how we want to start shifting our thoughts so we can literally change our physical conditions and our life.
To gain the greatest value from this book, I invite you to visit my website, www.FusionFertility.com, and register to receive your free Conceivable Tool Kit. Inside you will find tips and exercises to guide you along your fertility journey. All the worksheets referenced in this book are included in the tool kit.
So take a deep breath, keep an open mind, and dive in. You can do this. And I’m excited to show you how.
Lots of love,
A’ndrea